I’m a real real Irish Bee 🙂
Ok first off…..I’ve been to a gazillion weddings and never ever once has there been a ceili lol! Now, that’s not to say they don’t happen, but it is not the norm, at least not in the last couple of decades anyway….I can’t speak for beforehand. In saying that I have seen ‘riverdance’ type displays being used to provide entertainment for guests as part of the day which can be a nice touch.
The general order of the day for an Irish Catholic wedding goes as follows.
Church wedding usually between around 12noon and 2pm.
From here the bridal party go and get their photographs done either at the reception location or somwhere else pictuesque nearby. The other guests usually go straight to the reception venue and have some drinks/nibbles.
Bride and groom along with the bridal party arrive at reception venue and mingle for a little while before dinner (Dinner is usually at around 5pm or so).
Once everyone is seated speeches usually commence followed by a sit down meal. Bridal party sits at a ‘top table’. Wine is often provided for the tables during the meal and a champagne toast. Other than this guests generally pay for their own drinks (as pp said you’d be bankrupt with an open bar!)
After the meal the cake is usually cut.
Next everyone tends to leave the room for a little while whilst it is set up for the evening reception and usually there is another area for more drinks and mingling.
At around 7/8pm the ‘party’ kicks off in style!
Bride and groom have first dance and then for the rest of the evening it’s one big party with lots of dancing!. You can have have a band, a dj, other entertainment or all of the above!
Around 10pm a finger buffet is often served (helps soak up some of the alcohol! )
This usually continues until the bar closes and they turn the lights on at 1pm…..and even then half the guests will hit the residents bar and party on until the small hours!
The party atmoshere is a really big deal at an Irish wedding. Even if you are having small numbers for your ceremony and meal often people choose to invite a ton of other people to the evening reception to join them in celebrating their marriage. Often Irish families are large so often there are a lot of people but all these people are very closely knit so even tho there may be hundreds it still feesl cosy .
Before wedding bee I had never heard of a ‘first look’ (bride is always seen first when she walks down the ailse), we don’t do rehearsal dinners or anything like that…..it’s pretty much all about the wedding day itself tho it can be nice meeting up with people the next day for lunch and another mini celebration before jetting off on honeymoon.
Custom wise when it comes to the bridal party the bride and groom generally foot the bill. Over here we woudn’t dream of asking bms/groomsmen to pay for their wedding attire…..we chose what they are wearing so we pay. That can be right down to shoes, accessories, hair and makeup….although in my case, as her wedding gift to me, my Maid/Matron of Honor is acually paying for our hair and make up (I”m only having a Maid/Matron of Honor, no bms).
Right now I can’t think of anything else but if you have any questions let me know and I’ll help all I can.
Good luck planning your special da!y xxx