(Closed) Any June Brides? How to deal with STRESS???

posted 5 years ago in June 2013
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sorry you’re having a hard time of it! We’ve been pretty lucky and the stress has been at a minimum. I’m a meticulous planner and pretty on top of things, though.

Sounds like you need a massage! Treat yo’ self!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@phillybride61513:  LOVE Treat Yo’self!!!

 

I am a high stress person in general…

Things that make me feel better…

checklists

Fiance having a day and set time every week where he works on tasks

Fiance takes over high stress emails with crazy relatives (all mine)

Getting my underarms waxed…lol I don’t know why but it makes me feel good

Massages (I have 3 booked for the next 3 months)

Counseling and prescribed anxiety meds

I also just enrolled in a MBSR (Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction) seminar (8 weeks)

Going to the gym (I never work out) but I go in the hot tub and sauna

Sleep

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MikesAngel:  The stress of planning has gifted me eczema on my left knee and made me into a royal bitch at times Lol. Try to remind yourself that nothing has to be perfect and the only thing that really matters is that by the end of the day you’ll finally be married to your sweetheart! Exercise has helped keep me from crossing over to the dark side hehe. Take deep breaths often and seize your opportunities to relax. 

 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was a stressed out mess – then I changed from a DIY venue to a more all-inclusive venue on Saturday!  I’m back to being human again. 

Going to the gym helps with destressing.  And talking to Fiance.  He has been wonderful with all this.  Planning together really makes a difference!

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hi, Our wedding is in 85 days, and I am stressed as well. However, I am working through it quite nicely.

Things that have helped with the stress load are:

giving my Fiance to-do lists. He wants to help, but don’t know how. This really helps me and him. 

making to-do lists. A master one, the above mentioned ones, a weekly one. 

scheduling when the final payments are coming out of the account ( I don’t know if this stressed me more or less but they are scheduled)

planning a date day once a week with my Fiance. There are no wedding talk, weddin shopping or anything wedding related allowed on these dates. 

realizing that if one of my DIYs doesn’t get done, it won’t be the end of the world

deligating the small things to my bridal party, and realizing it is ok if it isn’t exactly how I would have done it or my hands don’t have to be on every little detail 🙂

staying off of wedding websites (including this one) when I am feeling really stressed. It seems to only stress me more. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I made a to-do list of every conceivable thing that still needs to get done.  And then I sat there and marked off one or two items.  My stress level immediately went way down because I can get a handle on what is coming up and see that it is doable.  Also a massage a month helps too 😉

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I too am a highly stressed person anyway. I can stress out over the smallest things! 

One thing that helps is to try and remember that in the end everyting will work out and the most important thing of that day is that we are married. No one will notice if one small thing isn’t perfect (I will haha). 

I like to overwhelm myself and get worked up thinking I have to have everything finished right now with 93 days to go! No, I don’t. 93 days is alot. I work on things here and there. We finished up invitations last weekend and I mailed them out today. Working on the first batch of programs now. Just as I have time.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Ya’ll have inspired me to give Fiance more duties! Booyah!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

With 81 days to go (as our website so nicely keeps reminding me) I am starting to feel the stress level rising!  Our engagement has also been quite the rollercoaster as well.  His parents went crazy and tried to hijack our wedding, my roommate decided she didn’t want a roommate anymore so we ended up buying a house between Christmas and New Year’s, my sister (who is also my MOH) has been rather difficult and undependable so far, etc.

I’m normally quite an organized person, so one thing that we have found really helpful is back in January we sat down and made a comprehensive to-do list and broke it up by half months.  We got one of those big desk calendars and wrote down everything we wanted to have done by mid-Jan, end of Jan, mid-Feb, end of Feb, etc.  It has been so helpful, and it is very satisfying every time something gets crossed off the list.

We have also started going for an hour walk/hike in the park by our house when we get home from work now that the weather is getting nicer.  This has made a big difference.  We come back feeling much better and in a better mental state to tackle that to-do list in the evening.

When one of us starts to get particularly stressed out or worked up over something, we sit down and have a chat about what the problem is and what we need to do to fix it and create an action plan.  I’ve also become pretty good at delegating!

We do our best to just take things one day at a time and to not let the unfinished things on that to-do list overwhelm us.  Their time will come!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

June 28th here. My weddin is causing little stress so far. there is so much work, but I think you just have to sit back and enjoy it!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Weekly checklists, working out, and hanging out with friends have been a lifesaver for me! I still have the momentary so-much-to-do-will-we-finish freakout, but try to keep it under control! Deep breaths and  non-wedding related events really help also!!

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