Any ladies find true love and a partner after 30 or a long period of singledom?

posted 2 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 16
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Busy bee

I met my bf (and I think by Xmas my fiancé,lol) when I was 27 after 4 years of an emotionally abusive relationship, feeling dead inside and very very stuck.  We worked together at a restaurant, and we became friends.  He never made a move on me and I felt so much respect.  So when my current bf said “get the fuck out” for the millionth time, I did!  My now bf had an extra bedroom with a separate bathroom and offered it to me.  We worked different hours for awhile so I got so much alone time in this somewhat spacious apartment, and fell head over heels with my current guy as we took it very slow. I love his family.  I love our life.  He was 36 when I moved in.  We tentatively want a 2020 wedding (a small elopement) and he will be 40 and I’ll be 32. 

Post # 17
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Blushing bee

I was 29 when I met my fiancé after being single for about 2.5 years.  My previous relationship lasted for 4 years and was toxic/emotionally unhealthy.  I went on a long string of meeting crappy guys and finally started focusing on myself and taking care of my own mental health. Once I did that, I met my wonderful fiancé!  I truly believe I wouldn’t have ended up with him had I not taken the time to care for myself and go to therapy.  My relationship with my fiancé is very healthy and happy.  Take time for yourself and the right person will come along!  

 

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Post # 18
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Worker bee

I had my first boyfriend at age 29 (lasted for 4 years, it was wonderful, but without any serious aspirations). Otherwise I had only short-term or casual relationships until I met my the love of my life, my current fiancé, at age 37. It was shortly after I decided that although I don’t want kids or marriaage, I would like a life partner, someone who would excite and inspire me. 

So I’ll be married at age 39. It is never too late! Romantic circumstances can change so fast.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

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@sja429:  I met my husband at 33 and he was 32 and we got married 2 years after our first date and just had our first baby. The plus side of dating when older Is you know sooner if the person is a right fit or not. My husband and I met on the bumble app. Our good friends who are 2 years older than us met on tinder and are married with two kids. My coworker met her fiancé on ok Cupid. Dating Apps work and since dating is just a matter of meeting enough people to find the one that’s a good fit, I think apps are super helpful. 

my biggest advice is to not get lazy. Keep at it. And try to express the qualities in yourself that you want in a partner. Someone smart and educated and kind wants to find someone who is also those things. So just try to be the things you want. You’ll also have the most success if you end things with someone as soon as you realize it’s not a good fit. Don’t waste your own time, that is key. 

Post # 20
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Worker bee

It hasn’t for me yet. 

I’m 36, I’ve been single since I was 26.  

This thread gives me some hope. 

Thanks.

Post # 21
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Blushing bee

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@sja429:  yes. Yes. Yes. Honey, it’s gets better. I’m 34. Left my ex when I was 30- felt allllll the feels you are feeling. My life was OVER! I was humiliated and ashamed and alone and so so sad…. I met my fiancé a year after I left me ex… it’s all worth it. All of it. You’ll look back in a few years and giggle about the way you feel right now because..hot damn- things are exactly what they should be and you’ll feel the happiness you deserve… I can give you the whole damn sob story if you inbox me. If I got to this point. Anyone can. 

Post # 22
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Blushing bee

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@michelle1717:  my ex and I met via mutual friends and he sucked.

 

The love of my life, best friend, fiancé and I met on Bumble. 

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2022 - Washington DC

Yes. I’m 34. Just got engaged. 

He’s 28. For some reason, guys my age still didn’t want to settle down. Was surprised he did. Stay encouraged. Met on Facebook Dating App.*

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

I was 42. I hadn’t gone out with anyone in four or five years before I met the right man. We’ve been married 36 years.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee

Became single at 24 after discovering my boyfriend had a fiance tucked away in another country, and ‘knew’ I could never trust anyone again.  Became friends with a lovely guy when I was 42, started dating at 43 and married at 45.  And he was so worth waiting for!

Post # 26
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Busy bee

I was 28 when I started dating my current man who I plan to be with forever. BUT my twin sister didn’t start dating her current boyfriend til she was 31, and it is seriously the best relationship of her life.  Really…she dated some LOSERS.  She was even briefly engaged to a guy who didn’t suit her at all.  So it does happen!  She lives on the other side of the country, but I love all the updates and texts I get of their life together.  I’ve never seen her so happy.

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2022

Me!! Met my now fiancé when I was 30.5 online with Match. It’s totally possible. 

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I was 33 when I met my DH. I’d been a serial monogamist through my 20’s with relationships lasting typically a year or so. Someone told me in my 20’s that “the independent ones  marry later”. It gave me hope, and was true for me.  Married at 38.

Post # 29
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Helper bee

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@sja429:  I feel you. I’m 30 going on 31 this summer. My last real, serious relationship was over 3.5 years ago. I’ve dated a ton in between off and on and had 2 “relationships” but they weren’t really because they lasted 2 months or less and were really more like extended flings. So I basically feel like I’ve been single for almost 4 years. I up and moved to Florida after my serious relationship ended, and I truly thought I’d find someone by now, after almost 3 years here! But I haven’t. I know people will tell us we’re young yada yada and I don’t have any tips because I’m in the same boat as you.  But I’m here to commiserate with you….we’re young but we’re not getting any younger. And I know how it can feel hopeless. Every few months that goes by. Still alone or something falls through. Another year and you’re still alone. It sucks no matter how awesome other parts of youre life are…and I get that. Good luck to us both! 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

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@sja429:  Yes! Met at 35, engaged at 37, married at 38 and first baby at 39. It happens all the time 🙂

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