Not QUITE 30, but I met my guy a few days after my 29th birthday (after a couple weeks of talking through a dating app) and now I turn 32 in a week and we are getting married in May!
My experiences were super different from yours – I was with someone 23-25 and then 25-28; the first was a HORRIBLE fit but I was so new to everything I had no idea what I was doing. For the second, there was a better connection but still a bad fit, and I was a little too keen on making it work. Had blinders on to the red flags and the nagging feeling in my gut. Ultimately after being absolutely devastated for a bit after that ended, I felt super relieved.
Because of that, I kept my standards better when perusing the online dating world (doesn’t smoke, fully employed, no drugs, you know, super picky stuff haha) and really tried to look for someone SOLID, since I’d decided that’s what I wanted. No broken man to ‘fix’. Someone who was stable and ACTUALLY ready to settle down with a partner.
My fiance is kind of boring sometimes, bit of a content homebody, would be happy eating fast food every day, and a total worrywart. I can’t wait to marry him. (I also paid attention to other things of course like his relationship with his family, his work ethic, how he manages his money, is he respectful to me, etc). He’s a goof and a really good guy, and we have navigated COVID and even buying a house together.
It’s just… so hard though. My friends are amazing people and seem to be ‘forever alone’. One has had like 1 adult relationship since like 9th grade but it never got serious and doesn’t seem to truly get THAT interested in anyone she meets so it never goes past like 3 dates, the other has tried a lot but the closest she came was about 9 months with my brother, and we all saw that was doomed to fail due to being in very different places in life at the time. I want so badly for them (at least the second friend) to meet a great guy. I know she really wants a partner in life.
And you never know – it could happen when you least expect it! For me, I don’t get out much, I feel awkward, and I’m super comfortable being online so this route worked fine for me.