(Closed) Any lawyers in the hive?? Long im sorry!

posted 6 years ago in Legal
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m not a lawyer, first of all.

(1) You bought a 1991 Taurus.  The car is over 20 years old.  It’s impressive that it’s still running at all.  The fact that you had to put money in it shouldn’t surprise you. 

(2) Taking your dad to court is sure to cause bad blood.  It’s $500, which is a lot of money, but is it worth ruining a relationship over?  You had the option to not loan him the money, and if you truly couldn’t afford to lose it, you shouldn’t have lent it to him.

(3) He is under no obligation to pay for any part of your wedding.  He can take as many trips as he wants, and it still doesn’t mean he should be paying for your wedding if he doesn’t want to.

(4) The lying..  not cool.  I would approach him about that, although telling him you checked security cameras may be a little upsetting.

I’m sorry if this is harsh, but honestly, you made the bed here, so you’ve got to lie in it, unfortunately. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee

I’m not sure this is a legal problem.

1. You bought a car for a higher price than you thought you should have paid. That doesn’t have to do with the loan.

2. The loan, if it were such, should have been in writing. At this point, there’s not much you can do.

3. He is under no legal obligation to give you $ for your birthday, christmas, or for your wedding.

 

ETA: i am also not a lawyer.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

My brother in law always said, “Never give more than you’re willing to lose.” In case things go bad, you can’t hyper extend yourself. Does your dad suck for taking advantage of you? Yes. But, that phrase above is meant to work two-fold. “Never give more than you’re willing to lose” — You gave more money than you should have comfortably given, and that sucks… BUT… If you went to court over it, and lost your father’s relationship for life, how would you feel about it? 

Think about that before you leap to litigation. If you should choose to litigate, you will need to get copies of cancelled checks from the bank on which you wrote “loan” in the “for” line when you made them out to your father. If you did not loan via check or money order, it might be difficult to recoup your $ because at that point, it’s word versus word.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Mrs.Larson11:  You could try texting him now and get him to acknowledge that he owes.

Post # 8
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Honey bee

@Mrs.Larson11:  I don’t think you sound self centered. I just think, legally, there’s not much you can do.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think you should cut your losses and stop enabling him. Never give him money again. Lesson learned.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@abbie017:  

And 5.

It will cost you way more than $500 in lost wages, legal fees, time off, transportation, etc to get that money back. At the end of the day you might be lucky to get $50 out of it.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Speaking from a legal persepective, it’s not worth it to litigate this. Even if you took this to small claims court, the filing fees alone may equate what the debt is (varies by jurisdiction). Take it as a loss and lesson learned. If you do choose to pursue legal action, before you sue,I’d send a demand letter, certified, asking for repayment before you take it to court. Better yet, call him and demand the money outright. Then contact your cell phone provider and ask for a copy of your text messages and file this with the court as a part of your peition.

Post # 15
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Newbee

(1) You can tell him you didn’t see the envelope so you checked the cameras. You saw no one including him.

 

(2) You can not invite him to the wedding but that is it. 

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