- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
Hi! I am new to WeddingBee and I purposely signed up for this one question. I’ve seen other posts on here before with brides moving away after getting married, but didn’t see many comments on it. I recently got engaged last month. My wedding is Summer of 2014, my fiance and I are saving money and we haven’t set a date yet. My fiance lives in Virginia and I live in Florida, the wedding will be held in New Jersey. New Jersey is the only flexible place for both of us as we both have cousins and friends that live there and we found great deals on beautiful halls. I recently relocated from Long Island, New York and my whole family came with me. My fiance and I see each other a lot less than we used to. Right now, we’re dealing with seeing each other for 10 days every other month — yeah I know, torture! A part of me wishes I could move the wedding up sooner or just elope with him, because we miss each other so much. It truly is one of the most difficult things, but we’re trying to deal with it the best we can.
He’s working nonstop (construction) and saving money and I’m currently working as well as a secretary at a local law office. We figured by 2014 we will both be ready to get on our foot by ourselves, with no help from family. I’m so excited to finally be married to him as our wedding date closens, but a part of me is very nervous. I’m not nervous in a “cold feet” kind of way, because if I could I’d marry him tomorrow. I’m more so nervous in a “moving out going to college” way. I’ve never lived far from my family. Never went to school out of town, little long out of STATE. My family has always been close to me, especially my mother. My parents are divorced and I don’t see my father often, but my mom is my best friend. She’s literally my right hand, besides Josh (fiance) and God.
I know all of this sounds really childish of me to be so dependent on family, but I’ll be packing up all of my stuff when I leave for my wedding in NJ and moving to Virgina as soon as the wedding is over. We’ll be skipping the honeymoon until we settle in for a while because I need to move into our new house and unpack.
Okay so enough jabbering! Long story short— IM NERVOUS!
Is there any other brides who are about to wed and move? Sure, there are tons of benefits and pros to my situation, definitely more than cons, but I’m just scared. New surroundings, atmosphere, routine, people, friends, etc. I know change is a part of life, it’s just not a part of life I’ve ever been familiar with. Moving to Virginia right after our wedding, is going to make me depend fully on Josh. Which is fine, since he IS going to be my husband, but it’s just scary because I have no friends and/or family there. I’ll only be seeing my family once a year for a couple weeks when we go to Florida in the winter to get away from the snow. I know it’s better than nothing and it could be a lot worse, but I just need some reassurance.
Anything will help. Thanks.