Post # 1
Just wanted some outside advice from the wheels squeaking in my own mind!
I’ve been accepted into a masters of education program. This is a 2 year program to get my licensure in special education and begin teaching. School would begin for me this fall and is a friday/saturday program only. Am I crazy to do this when husband and I are considering going for a baby this fall?
Any new moms or pregnant women still in school?
I’d be working FT as well as this. Just looking for a little perspective.
Post # 3
Well, it doesn’t exactly apply, but I got pregnant the month I graduated with my masters. I had gone off the pill a few months before to get my body ready to go. My schoo was one Friday/Saturday a month for 2 years, and I worked full-time. Personally, I wouldn’t have been able to do both. However, I know there were women in my program that did this. Some of them had to take one semester off or go part time but not all. Would you consider taking one semester and seeing how it goes? It’s just hard to say, because you don’t know how hard your pregnancy/morning sickness will be. I will say I often had to come home from work and take a nap when pregnant. When I was in school, I had to come home from work and do homework.
My other friend got pregnant during her masters. She actually went into early labor and had to be hospitalized for 2 days. They were able to stop her labor, but I think she had to get extensions on her masters thesis.
In some ways, though, I think it would be harder to juggle with a newborn than with being pregnant, so I think it would be very hard to have both your pregnancy & your newborn period during school. If you have a lot of family support, though, I’m sure you *can* do it. I just wanted to give you an honest perspective from my POV.
Post # 4
My mom had me while still doing her B.Ed and then did both her Masters and PhD while I was quite young. It was great! She was at home writing more or less the entire time that I wasn’t in school. I would think that so long as your supervisor or whoever knows that you are pregnant there shouldn’t be a problem.
Post # 5
Well, my husband is just finishing his Master’s while working full time (basically started right at the same time we got pregnant), and I’ll be starting my Master’s this fall (baby will be about 15 months). We’ll probably start TTC for a second baby before I am out of grad school.
It’s certainly not impossible, but it’s been tough at times. My husband’s program is 100% online and his schedule looks kinda like this: 4:00 am – up to watch class/work on homework, 7:00 am – get ready for work, 7:30 am – take baby to day care, 8:00 am – work, 5:00 pm – come home/eat dinner/play with baby, 6:00 – put baby to sleep, 7:00 pm – work on school work, 8:00 pm – relax, 9:00 pm – bed. He also works on school most of the day on Saturday and sometimes on Sundays, too. I do the majority of the housework, cooking,laundry, baby care, etc… because he doesn’t really have the time. Generally, it’s ok, but I know he’s really looking forward to being done (and so am I!). It’s not so much that he’s busy and tired (which he is), but that he doesn’t get a lot of free time to spend with me and the baby. I know he feels bad, too, that I have to take on all the household stuff so he can concentrate on school.
It’s worked out for the best that my husband started his program when he did, but when I start school this fall, I’ll also quit work. If I continued working and going to school, I imagine we’d put off TTC until after I graduated. I couldn’t imagine being pregnant, working full-time, going to school full-time, and having a toddler at home.
Post # 6
@Mrs. Spring: “I couldn’t imagine being pregnant, working full-time, going to school full-time, and having a toddler at home.”
I’m tired just reading that!
Post # 7
I feel like you might get really overwhelmed. Working full time plus school work is a lot to take on, but adding a new baby to the mix might make for a lot of stress.
Just know that having a baby will change EVERYTHING…you may not want to work full-time. Personally I’d want to be finished with my education before TTC or have my baby past the newborn stage and then work on additional degrees. If you were just working on your degree it would be different than working WHILE continuing your education. You’re going to be splitting your time in a lot of directions and it may be difficult to put your all your attention where it’s needed (be it raising your child or your education).
That being said, is there ever a “right” time? You never know how long it’s going to take to concieve – it could be right away or take a year or longer. I’d say so long as you have your husband’s support and you’ve disscussed how you’d handle child-care (being able to afford day-care or in-home care) then you have to make the decision you feel is best for the both of you.
Post # 8
Ladies-Thanks for the honest feedback!!
I’m just so stir crazy. I’m currently in insurance and have a finished bachelors but am just not happy in my career currently. I know I will not be able to be a Stay-At-Home Mom even though I would adore that so have been considering getting started on a graduate degree in Education so I can transition.
Doesn’t it suck when you feel at a crossroads? I know myself enough to know that once I’m pregnant I’m only going to want to focus on that and just rest so its why I’m so hesitant to complete my application (I only have a 1 page essay missing for formal acceptance). I’ve also met Moms who have had babies and just said “I just want to be Mom right now”
I’m at such a crossroads!
Post # 9
Me! We are TTC and I am a grad student. But my program is a little different than yours, in that I go on weeknights. This summer I will be going 4 nights a week! YIKES!!! But I will not be working full time. If I was working full time, going to school, and pregnant (or had a baby) I would be overwhelmed. Luckily I am in a position where fulltime work can be the option that goes.
Post # 10
Yeah FT work really isn’t an option for me. Its definitely something I must do.
I’m thinking waiting might be the best bet. After all, baby is what I truly do want and I know I’ll end up wishing I was just doing that.
I just feel like I’m spinning my wheels in suspense waiting for something, ANYTHING 🙁
Post # 11
I finished my Masters before getting pregnant, but for me, I was a full-time student, and being pregnant and having a kid during my program actually would have worked out great, much better than when working full-time. But doing school AND a full-time job? I wouldn’t have been able to handle that. I’m due in a week and have had a rough pregnancy, so I’ve had to take off a lot of sick time just from my job- there’s no way I could have handled school on top of that.
Plus, I loved getting to focus on grad school. I think if i had to deal with work, school, AND either a live or impending baby, I wouldn’t have gotten to enjoy it in the same way.
But that’s just me. I’m not a particularly good multi-tasker 🙂
Post # 12
In my experience, if you don’t really like your job, and you really do want to go to grad school for something different in the future, it might be better to just get school out of the way now, and push off TTC until you graduate. I say this because, for me, working at a job when I’d rather be staying home with my baby has been tough, but working at a job I don’t even like when I’d rather be at home with my baby is downright miserable some days. I think, if I was working at a job I loved and felt good about, it would be a lot easier for me to be away from my daughter all day.
Obviously, though, everyone is different and you might not feel this way at all. And, of course, I know how tough it is to stave off the baby rabies! 🙂 In the end, you just have to make the decision that works best for you and your family.
Post # 13
Are there a lot of teaching positions in your area? I have 2 friends that just finished a masters in education and can’t find work, bc of all the cutbacks. 🙁
In your area can you sub w/o being certified? Could you substitute teach while doing your degree? I think that way you get the insider track on jobs and could balance your subbing with your school load?
Post # 14
I’m curious about your program. You are getting your credential and Masters? When will you begin student teaching?
It is nearly impossible to work another job during student teaching FYI.
I think I maybe could have handled being pregnant during my Masters of Ed (1 1/2 year night program while working FT in the classroom) but not with a baby. One of the students in my program had a baby during it and finished everything on time, but it was her 4th…
My Darling Husband works in insurance and I’m a teacher so if you want any advice, let me know!
Post # 15
I’m about to graduate with my doctorate in June, and we put off TTC until I’m done.. knowing the workload I just went through I honestly don’t know how I would have done it. That said, I do know some people who did, so it’s possible, I’d just be prepared for the fact that it will NOT be easy. I can’t even imagine it. However I was lucky enough to be finishing up and I’m only 28, if I were in school later and it was kind of a “now or never” thing, I would just suck it up and do both at the same time. Like I said, possible, just difficult. Good luck!
Post # 16
I’m just finishing up my first year of a four year professional program. It’s a pretty intense program and from what I hear, second year is even more so. Regardless, we’ll be TTC this fall, hoping to time it right for a summer birth. (If we don’t get pg right away, we are probably going to wait until the next fall to try for a baby born the following summer).
I agree, it might not be ideal to go to school, work, and be pregnant. But, as others have mentioned, when will it be ideal? There’s always going to be something. And, there are other factors to consider too. How many kids do you want? What age do you want to be done having kids?
When it comes down to it, if you and your husband feel it is the right decision, go for it! It’s definitely doable, as many women can attest to. Obviously it’d be more difficult to work full time, attend a full time school program, and be pregant or care for a new child than doing just one or two of those activities. Do you have summers off from work or school? If so, it’d be a nice way to ease into things if you have a little born in the summer months. Either way, best of luck to you! 🙂