(Closed) Any Med School/ Residency Brides?

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Aww I’m sorry. It sounds like you’re going through a rough patch with your family. If it makes you feel any better, the school situation got me in some hot water too. My fiance and I are both medical students (I’m a first year, he’s a second year). We got engaged just a few months before I started. At first, my parents were fine with it; he even got permission from my dad to propose. But as soon as they realized that we didn’t want to wait until after I graduated (4 years!) to get married, they pitched a fit, and it’s been rocky ever since (coming up on a year next month). It still bothers me, but at some point, you and your fiance have to decide what’s best for you. Med school throws off the timing for everything, and you end up doing the best you can. As long as you and your fiance are happy and it works with school, then that’s what’s important.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m in my first year of residency (I’m getting married in my 2nd), and my family is the same and are driving me nuts. I keep trying to tell them that if they really would like me to finish my (5 yr) residency first, I will be 31, and let’s be real, their dream of 4 grandchildren ain’t happening haha. 

Good luck 🙂 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Me too!!  We’re third year med students…we are literally getting married two weeks after residency apps are due and two weeks before interview season begins…phew.  It’s definitely tough but wedding planning is a good way to procrastinate 😛  I am super worried that I’m not going to get the wedding planned in time or that I’m gonna have to start back really soon after.  Oh well, everyone knows we’re busy so hopefully they won’t care.  

double0bride, I think that Spring of 4th year is a great time, no?  I get the impression that most people are done around March and then just chill until grad.  I like your idea of getting married before moving in together, that sucks that the fam isn’t on board.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Fiance and I are both fourth year med students.  The timeline is:  Match Day March 17 (couples match, eeek), Graduation end of April, wedding May 22, honeymoon, and then go to new city and start residency!  Gonna be a very busy spring, and I can definitely comiserate with the stressing.  Luckily both our families are on board, since we’re both living off loans and already live together.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

hahaha 

@Miss OBG: I totally saw your name the other day on a different post, and obs-gyn popped into my head, and I thought to myself, “when I start seeing medical acronyms everywhere, this is evidence that I’ve been working too many hours” but I must’ve been right :p

Lolz.  

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m a third year (the Mr is a PhD student).  We’ll be getting married during my 4th year…basically at the height of interview season.  My med school schedule is the reason for our 2 year engagement — it was SO HARD to find a reasonably convenient time!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@mari892: In my class, it seemed like those who were engaged before starting med school got married after second year (after Step 1, before third year rotations).  Those who got engaged during med school got married either during a light rotation of 4th year (less common), or between graduation and residency.  There is literally a wedding every weekend for the 6 weekends surrounding graduation and afterwards.  Yes, med school runs your life and alters when you can do things.  But you can make it work.  Is your fiance going to do a year for research or MPH or something so you can couples match?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@fuzzypeaches: You absolutely were!  My first choice name was taken, and I was like, uhhh, what do I do, what do I like…ob/gyn!  (I was in the middle of working on ERAS and my personal statement, and I might’ve been a little delirious.)

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@MissOBG- Well, our wedding is in December of this year. I’ll be in the middle of my second year and he’ll be in the middle of his third. We’ve discussed the possibility of him taking a year off before residency, but there’s also the possibility that we may have to go long distance for that year. I’ve been discussing it with some of the faculty at our school, and they said we should still get priority even if we don’t do couples match. And since he’s thinking of doing something more specialized than I am and will have a longer residency, I’m hoping not to hold him back unless we have to. Especially since we want kids at some point, and it’ll be easier all around if at least one of us is finishing up.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@mari892: Sounds like a good plan.  Fiance and I lucked out that our residencies are the same length.  I know people who are aiming to match where their spouses/fiances are, and programs definitely try to work with you, so you’re in good shape.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Speaking of ERAS and whatnot…any advice for sub-is, applications, etc?  We’re planning fourth year right now and it’s exploding my brain.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

glad to see this thread! i’m a second year resident. life is much better now than intern year but still worse than med school. for the med school girls in here: GET MARRIED NOW, don’t wait till residency! 🙂

i am pulling my hair out with my wedding in 8 days!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@socalmeli: Obviously SDN and upperclassmen are good sources, especially because it depends what you’re going into.  Some interview early and some interview later.  November/December were the biggest months for ob and psych, but the really competitive specialties are more in December/January.

I advise doing sub-I’s over the summer so you can get letters, submitting ERAS immediately, and then enjoying your wedding.  Take an easy month in October or November to get Step 2 out of the way (if you don’t get it done over the summer), and then schedule vacation/easy rotations during your main interview months.

The one thing is, if you’re going on a honeymoon or anything right away, you should bring a smartphone.  I know, it sounds awful, but I literally responded right away to interview offers and know people who missed out on dates they wanted because they waited a day to respond.  So it’s not really a good time to go off-the-radar.

You’ll be fine though, more than halfway done with third year!  And you can take it from my posting frequency that 4th year is pretty sweet, so there’s something to look forward to!

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