Post # 1
So I was born and raised in Chicago my parents were both born in Mexico. My mom incists I am not having a “traditional wedding” I bought my dress in Ivory simply because it looked prettier and you can hardly tell its Ivory, it looks completely white! Plus I have gone through the trouble to make everything in the wedding Ivory so no one is going to be able to tell my dress is not white..and who cares really? Now she tells me the whole family is supposed to sit at the main table I obviously said NO. She insists I wear a blusher coming down the aisle which I refuse to do. I have so many complaints I just dont want to make this the longest post ever its just all my planning has been stress free thus far and all my visions I have for this wedding are actually coming to life but my mom just hates EVERYTHING I dont get it… anyone out there feels my pain?
Post # 3
I feel you on the blusher! My mom was pretty upset when I told her I wasn’t wearing one.. She’ll get over it.
Post # 4
I refused to have a “traditional” Mexican wedding…the family was in a bit of an uproar (aye Dios mio…no veil!!!), but they”ll et over it…Culturally Mexicans have a bit of trouble getting out of their “traditional box” but I want my family and friends to experience something different.
Bottom line is we can NEVER please everyone…
do what you like..they”ll come around..your mom loves you, she’ll support you in the end…or say what mine says…”pos eso le gusta…lol..don’t stress
Post # 5
Hahahaha! “pos eso le gusta”! that cracked me up! my mom just suggests some thing and then right away says “mejor me callo alcoabo no es mi boda!” and rolls her eyes!
Post # 6
haha i totally pictured my mom just now!
Post # 7
I’ve had my mom, aunts, cousins, cuñadas and suegra saying all these quotes. Specially because I’m not wearing a white dress, Im wearing a champagne dress (even worse) but I’m having a vintage theme so that color fits perfect and I absolutly love it, so what! simplemente viven en un mundo cerado. My dad is more on my side, we’re both wedding photographers and have seen so many weddings through the years so he understands and agrees with me on the “something different” instead of a traditional mexican wedding. Don’t get me wrong I’m still going to include some details from my culture but just in a very unique way.
Post # 8
Yes, I feel you. I’m getting married in one month. I made compromises, but since getting engaged, it was such a PITA that I hated thinking about planning. I was able to score the dress of my DREAMS (a ridiculous Lazaro) for under 1K at a sample sale…but it was a floor model, so the ivory was a little more pronounced. My mom freaked out …que van a decir…la hija de Juana no se casó bien… lol. I assured her that if she just wanted to make sure her kid was a good catholic virgin she didn’t have to worry, and if my aunts were going to gossip, well, the rest of my wedding details would give them more than enough stuff to gossip about anyway…or they’d make stuff up! I’m doing red lipstick (the ho!), my fiance doesn’t speak spanish (entonces no es Mexicano…). That was tough to tell them because they wanted to cheesy videographer to film me skipping out of my parents’ house or some stuff (at least it wasn’t to Thalia’s “Quinceañera” song…like for my XV, that was CORNY). They expected the FI’s fam to pay for it, because in Mex the novio’s parents take care of the bill. Surprise! It’s the other way around here. What else…padrinos. We’re not listing them in the invites, and we only had a couple of discreet ones, and we were honest, we could use some help, but we weren’t going to make them celebs at our wedding. We took care of most of the vendors anyway, especially to avoid extra opinions. We’re very happy with our decisions, and we’re confident that it’ll still be a Mexican/Catholic wedding and reception. We made it up to our family by promising them a video of the reception where it’s a camera just like…filming people dancing (my lil sis is going to tape this and spice it up with iMovie) and send them DVD’s of that and the photos so that they can play my wedding on a Saturday afternoon and gossip about Rodolfo’s daughter.
One interesting thing to check out–google Mexican wedding websites. A lot of our families’ traditions aren’t expected in Mexico anyway.
Post # 9
lol the only thing my parents suggested was the guest list.. My dad wanted to invite the whole “rancho”… but that wasn’t in our budget.
I had to sit down and talk with him, and after a few tries.. he kind of got it
Post # 10
I also have that dilema with my familia..que no se ve bien..que no es traditional…que mi hija tenie que tener banda!! BLABLA!! I am just tired of them not being happy with my selections…I just said fine you pay for all the music including the banda, etc…but I want some of my music.. so yes I needed to compromise alot..I can’t wait for my wedding in October 16,2010!!! It is tuff being a mexican girl just trying to get married.
Post # 11
Yup….Sounds a lot like my people….lol. And don’t they LOVE to find something to gossip about! My mom was so worried about what people were gonna say because my engagement was so short…..A Dios Mio! Estara embarasada? She soooooo wanted me to come home (I live where I went to school) so everyone could see how thin I’ve gotten and that I’m not preggars!
I am the third wedding in my family, and No I am not wearing a white dress and it’s not cuz I’m pregnant!…it’s because my golden skin looks much better in ivory and champagne, thank you. I wanted to wear a cute short veil with a blusher and flower in my hair, but Mom hated it, so after much back and forth, I’m wearing my sisters gorgeous veil and hair thingy that Mom paid too much for. I am marrying a gringo so the whole thing about who pays for a wedding was awkward, especially since my sister’s husband (a very traditional Mexican-born American) paid for their whole wedding. We’re not having padrinos/madrinas so Fiance and I are paying for a bit over 1/2 the cost with my parents paying the rest.
My mom is so traditional….She’s asked me three times now if I’m going to throw a boquet and three times I’ve said no 😛
Post # 12
oh yes!! my mom doesnt like ANY of my ideas for the wedding in fact she wishes i would just have a wedding in her back yard while a bbq truck serves food out of the window but in my big ball gown dress of course!
Post # 13
I’m not Mexican but my boyfriend is. I’m hoping we can have a wedding that incorporates the best of both worlds. So what are some of your favourite Mexican wedding traditions? What are you definitely keeping in your wedding?
Post # 14
I definitely feel all the comments on this blog, but since my fiance and I are paying for the wedding, the fams luckily don’t butt in too much.
My dress is ivory and I’m not telling anyone (especially my mom) because no one will know the difference when they see it anyway. lol. I’m wearing my mom’s veil so it was the only way the 35 years aged lace would go with any dress.
Since my fiance is Ecuadorian they aren’t familiar with padrinos so we’re not having them because we wouldn’t feel comfortable asking for help with anything. Thank you loan from the bank for helping us resolve that problem.
@littlewanderer – I think one of the must have traditions is the lazo (my mom made ours). If you’re not familiar with it, it is two large rosaries joined together and during the ceremony, they are placed around both you and your groom to signify your union.
We’re also having Mariachi’s play the Mexican folk mass during our ceremony. They will play everything from the entrance to the exit and everything in between. This is one of the things that was an absolute must have for me.
Lastly, he’ll be walking in with his parents and I’ll be walking in with both of mine. I can’t imagine having it any other way.
Post # 15
That is hilarious “the entire rancho” I cannot wait for my wedding when I want to make sure the entire ejido shows up my American rich neighbors will probably call the police since my wedding is expected like in the Keeping it Real Mexican wedding until 2 or 3 in the morning. Like always one of my guests will probably block someones driveway like my fiance says “Este es mi casa yo hago lo que se me pege la gana”
Post # 16
@JennyChicago: Don’t worry , your mother will probably forget it the day of your wedding when she sees you. In Mexico like other countries to see a bride walk down the aisle in white symbolizes purity .the veil symbolizes the virginity, modesty and purity of a bride. However in my ceremony I am being forced by the Catholic padre to wear veil or bolero to cover up my arms in church. But after the church ceremony the mantilla veil goes off and Pelo suelto all the way como la Gloria Trevi deci.