- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I would like to know not only by mother’s of son’s but also brides, girlfriends, ect,.
Why do you feel like the significant other is stealing your son from you?
My fiance never had any long term girlfriends before me. He went on dates and had a few girlfriends, but before I came along there was really no one significant.
So before I came along my fiance and his mother had a super close relationship. She basically treated him like her boyfriend/husband. My fiance is the opposite of his father. He is a great deal like his mother. His father is hard, where he is sweet. His dad is selfish where he is always putting his family first.
Well, before I started dating him he lived at home. So, at night when her husband went to bed she went in his room and watched movies with him. When her husband went bowling on Monday nights with his team they went to dinner together. She has complemented his body and looks to me and him. Not in a normal way. As in “He has the most gorgeous bed room eyes I have ever seen, His body is looking so good I can’t believe how defined his body is getting.” Things like this make me uncomfortable. He came home from Lunch one day she was at our apartment she was there like she is 98% of the time and he kisses me and she wants to know where hers was. We were at there house while our apartment was getting repainted, and we mentioned we were watching a movie and she tried to invite herself to come lay in bed with us. She made a pouty face at the door begging to watch a movie with us til my fiance shut the door in her face. I know a bit much but he kept saying no Mom I have work at 5:30 in the morning we are laying down watching a movie and going to bed its already 11.
Now these things happen all the time. She was sick and instead of her husband taking care of her he had to. And she is sick at least once a week. She sent him to the store to buy her pregnancy test. And wanted to him to hold her when she cried when she found out she wasn’t pregnant and it was menopause.
Now a month before the wedding she tells him we shouldn’t get married. And harrasses him about all this. That I am stealing him from her, and she went as far to tell him I that I said to her that she didn’t raise him right. Which when he confronted her she admitted she was lying. Now he is not a only child and she doesn’t treat her other daughter like this. And I know my fiance loves his mom, but now she is trying to come in between us. I know she won’t because we have a great relationship, but its getting to be enough. I don’t know how to handle that because my family is not like this at all.
Any advice? And answers to my question?