(Closed) Any newlyweds feel pressured to get preggo?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Any newlyweds feeling the pressure or being asked all the time....are you pregnant?
    Yes, I am "really" feeling the pressure! : (17 votes)
    18 %
    Somewhat, but it doesn't bother me : (48 votes)
    52 %
    Never, they know better than ask me... No Kids Allowed : (17 votes)
    18 %
    Yes, but all in good fun. : (11 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 45
    Hostess
    11165 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    Yes and it is frustrating at times. I am trying to not let it get to me and both my Fiance and I have been very honest with everyone, including our families, that it will be at least 4-5 years before we consider having a child. I wish they would just respect that and focus on something else.

    Post # 46
    Member
    4045 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I noticed that Your Mother-In-Law seems to be a little insensitive! what a terrible question to ask.

    I did have a coworker flat out tell me I was getting fat, and ask if I was preggo. LOL.

    Post # 53
    Member
    1370 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Nope no pressure. I was asked about it from various family members, but they understand that we want to wait a couple of years before having a baby. They think it’s a smart idea. Darling Husband and I also moved from GA to OR after the wedding and most family members want us to move back home before having a baby.

    My friends haven’t asked at all.

    Post # 54
    Member
    1137 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @MuchGreater:  Funny enough, my folks were our age when they had my first sibling. My siblings didn’t get married until 27-29ish. Explains the later pregnancies. I’m just so happy to have someone in my family supporting me that I can talk to. His family drives me insane..

    Post # 55
    Member
    2195 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I find the moment i turn down an alcoholic beverage these days (either i don’t feel like drinking, am the Dear Daughter, or saving $) i get the awkward stare from anyone within earshot and they just look at me like “are you pregnant?!”.  NO! I want a glass of water… that’s all!!  I usually just cave and drink a beer or something to stop the awkward looks.

    Not so much feeling the pressure but certainly know it’s likely on everyone’s mind!

    Post # 56
    Member
    215 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I get it from my parents and a few other relatives.  Mostly it’s comments about how I’m too old to risk putting it off any longer (I’m 30).  I’ve told them we are waiting until our first anniversary before we start trying for a number of good reasons, and we’ll just see how things go and address any problems as they arise.  They still keep bringing it up anyway, but I just repeat our reasons for waiting a bit and then change the subject.  I don’t let the pressuring get to me because I knew it was coming (the “too old” comments started a good 5 years ago) and I’m confident in our decision.  

    My Mother-In-Law made one comment about now waiting too long and trying to find a “perfect” time because there never will be one, and hasn’t brought it up again.  No other in-laws have mentioned it.

    Post # 57
    Member
    215 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I gotta admit though that when we go out with friends who have told us they are trying or thinking about trying soon, and the wives decline alcohol, I wonder if they are pregnant.  I wouldn’t never ask them though. 🙂

    Post # 58
    Member
    1756 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My husband and I are childfree by choice and everyone who knows us knows that. He got a vasectomy seven months after we got married.

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