Post # 1
So I am considering cutting out the veil of my wedding. I guess I really don’t understand the use of the veil. I bought a beautiful head piece off of etsy, and as I don’t feel the need to follow any bridal traditions.
The one exception is if I can use my mother’s veil. My mother wore her mother’s dress and veil. I didn’t want to update the dress. But I think it would be a nice and she says that the veil is in poor condition, but from the pics she has shown my they look okay…
I plan on having some sort of a braid in my hair, and probaby pearl jewelry.
So are there any no veil brides out there? (or plan on being a no veil bride) Did you do anything else to make up for not having a veil? Did you think it took anything away from the bride feeling?
Veil or no veil? If veil should I try to use my mom’s or go and buy or make one?
Post # 3
I’m not wearing a veil. I never even wanted to. I’m wearing a rhinestone and pearl headband that ties under my hair. My dress has nothing on it, so this is my little bit of sparkle.
In all honesty, if you’re doing a braid and aren’t really traditional, I’d forego the veil. I’m sure your mom’s is lovely, but you have to do what makes you most comfortable. Maybe you can use part of the veil for something since your mom says it’s in bad condition.
Post # 4
I love the look of a veil in photos, but hate the meaning behind it (I am not property to be given away, I am not a virgin, I do not believe in warding off evil spirits etc).
I am planning on having my hair down and uncurled (gasp!) with a flower headband. I do NOT think it will take away the bridal feeling as I never wanted one.
Do what makes you happy. I wont think any less of you (and anyone who does is not worth your time)
Post # 5
I never imagined myself with a veil, but I ended up getting one. As soon as I tried it on in the bridal store it just really finished the whole picture for me and made me feel like a bride.
Post # 6
Didn’t wear a veil on my first wedding. Not wearing one for my second. I don’t like veils. I think women look much more beautiful, with an air of innocence when they wear flowers or a circlet. Trendy when they wear a hat.
Veils remind me of the days when the man was marrying his wife sight unseen as a result of an arranged marriage- a business arrangement. Days when a wife became the man’s property.
Post # 7
I will not be wearing one. But I was probably going to do a nice flower headpiece of something like that.
Post # 8
You can def do with out one after seeing you hair style and dress. But your moms veil is pretty and would still go with your dress if you change your mind 🙂
Post # 9
I’m not wearing a veil but I’d like to have something. I’m trying to find a hat that isn’t too Victorian/equestrian but it’s become a bit fruitless. My other option is a pretty headband 🙂
Post # 10
No veil 🙂 they are very expensive and I’m not a virgin. Hehe.
I got this from etsy:
Post # 11
I’m wearing a cocktail-style dress, so my situation isn’t the same, but I’m going veil-less. It’s another one of those traditions that are sweet until you know too much about their origins (which, unfortunately, I do).
I think, though, that if you want to wear your mother’s/grandmother’s veil, you should look into seeing if it can be repaired. It looks fine in the photo, so I can’t imagine whatever damage it has couldn’t be fixed. I think it could be really lovely to let it be part of a third generation’s wedding. If you can’t use it, or choose not to, I’d say go ahead and skip the veil. If you need one to feel like a bride, then you should wear one because it’ll make you feel beautiful. If it doesn’t mean anything to you to wear one, then it’ll just be some aggravating thing on your head.
Post # 13
I don’t plan on having a veil. I don’t really like the historical significance of it (being “given away” and all that), plus I don’t consider myself to be a super traditional bride. I plan on getting a pretty flower hairpiece or something. I like the flower head piece you posted!
Post # 14
I’m definitely a no veil kind of girl. I find them beautiful on many other women, but it doesn’t suit me at all.
A question for those who have said no because they don’t like the “being given away” tradition: Are you having your fathers walk you down the aisle? I’m just curious!
Post # 15
I’m wearing a flower facinator done in ivory, to match my pretty flapper style dress.