Post # 1
I was reading a post about a lady who considered lying since she didn’t get a storybook proposal. Reading the comments I read that there were a few women who got engaged based on a conversation (no ring, no one knee etc.) I was surprised. I thought that I was the only person in this situation.
I guess I am engaged since my SO and I had that conversation and we both agreed to get married next year. I eventually told him that I required him actually asking me and he has no problem with it.
Please tell me how your non-proposal proposal conversation went.
We were talking about what we wished for next year and my hopes for moving out from my parents and his wish for us to live together.
What was yours?
Post # 3
@tiff-tiff-tiff: he got a tattoo with my name on his ankle.
He never really had the marriage conversation with me though.
Then he bought me 1/10th of a princess cut diamond ring
never asked me to marry him
then he upgraded to a half carat halo round brilliant
still nothing, just a promise ring
finally he upgraded again to over 1 ct carat halo round brilliant diamond still no proposal
by this time, we had joint credit cards, debt accounts, living together, and sharing everything.
at my family christmas party my cousins/aunts and uncles were asking me about my ring asking me if i was engaged, I looked over at him and he nodded. So that’s that.
Then a week before we graduated undergrad he said lets go get married so I can give you health insurance. Was that my proposal? Still waiting for grand romantic gestures…
Post # 4
I didn’t get a story book proposal and I’m fine with it! I would never lie about it, I think that’s silly.
Me and fi were watching the movie “ted” and in it he said that after 4 years he thought he should propose, fi turns to me and says you don’t have to wait 4 years. I took that as my proposal and started planning our wedding! 2 weeks to go and we will be vowing our love to each other in front of our closest family and friends <3
Post # 5
Him: “We gotta get hitched”.
Me: “For real?”
Him: “Yeah, it’s time”.
No ring, and we got married 10 days later.
Post # 6
@tiff-tiff-tiff: Mine was pretty much a non-proposal proposal. We have always been very open and honest about wanting to marry each other. Right from the beginning it was more of an agreement than just wishful thinking or idle talk. One day I came home from work and I guess he had decided enough talk…time to do it. He showed me a ring he had been eyeing online, asked me if I liked it and then ordered it the very next day. I knew it was coming (was still ECSTATIC) and once it arrived 10 days later it was pretty much instantly on my finger and we made a formal announcement to family that night. Maybe not super romantic or over the top but it worked for us and I was beyond thrilled.
Post # 7
It nice hearing from you ladies. I’m not quite sure if I should officially announce the engagement or just wait until he does it officially. I don’t even think it is a priority for him. He is more focussed on wedding details and our living situation.
After reading your stories I don’t feel too odd.
Post # 8
It started as a teasing, to be fair. I used to watch Say Yes to the Dress during my lunch time at home, and FI would say : oh, this dress would look so nice on you ! I would answer back, from time to time when he complimented me or thanked me for the cooking / extra chore I did : I know, I’m a girl to marry ! It went on for weeks before I asked him if he wanted to marry one day (because I didn’t, I had never thought about that). His honest answer was : he had never thought about marriage before meeting me, but yes, he wanted to marry me. I was surprised, and that’s when we started talking about it more seriously. I told him how I felt about money, he told me what it meant in his family, we discussed what we’d do when we would be ready to buy a house (stay common-law and sign a contract, or get married ?). There was no official proposal, but when we started shopping rings last year (his first actually !), we were all happy and giggling about it. We saw that as a ”common law ring” at first. We liked the idea of having a symbol of our commitment. After I bought mine, that evening we were having a glass of wine and I sat on his lap, looked in his eyes and asked him with a shy smile : does that mean we’re engaged, now ? Are we really doing it ? And he said of course we are !
Post # 9
We were sitting on the couch and talking about going car shopping to replace FI’s car that was the same age as us next weekend. While we were talking we decided to get all of our highstakes shopping done at once and go ring shopping too. So yeah…that’s how we got engaged.
Post # 10
We knew for a long time that we would get married. I only considered us officially engaged once I had the ring, though. Basically we ordered the ring, and that was that lol. I really didn’t want a surprise proposal, and I picked the ring. I wouldn’t do it any other way.
Post # 11
He crawled into bed in our dark room and said he was going to do it on a hike but didn’t want to wait. I think he probably got “marry me” in there. It was nothing huge or special though. I’m stoked to marry him, the proposal is water under the bridge
Post # 12
He was planning a proposal, but then his job transferred him to a new city with about three weeks notice. We had to be engaged for me to request a transfer to his new city (which I unfortunately didn’t get), so that was it. We went ring shopping a few months later.
Post # 13
Ours was just one day I got home from work and had a horrible day. I stripped down to my underwear to get comfortable and plopped down on the couch. He asked me to come into the back room and handed me a bag with my ring in it and said “marry me?”
He asked me in our kitchen. I was in my underwear you guys! Haha. No dinner, no getting down on one knee, no telling me all the things he loved about me. But I don’t care. I got the man I love and that is what matters!
Post # 14
Last Sunday, my SO (I guess FI, now) and I were talking about marriage, and at the end of the conversation, which culminated with us choosing a July 2014 wedding date, and moving forward with planning. We weren’t going to consider ourselves engaged until we have the ring, which should arrive from Blue Nile on Friday, but, figured we should tell our family and close friends, so I said “Uhhhh…. does this mean we’re engaged????” lol
No romantics, no down on one knee, and that’s what works for us. 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2014 - Hotel Baronette Renaissance in Novi
I am thrilled to see this post! I sort of had a non-proposal proposal, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
FI is so antitradition, and I knew that. We live together, have for awhile, have cats together, etc… in short, I had turned into a very impatient waiter. There were a few times that I seriously thought, “OMG this is when it’s going to happen!” only to be disappointed when it didn’t.
Every year we go to the Florida Keys right before my birthday. We drive the Overseas Highway down to Key West, and it is a phenomenal drive with many lookout spots. Well, this year, we stopped at one of the lookout places and, of course, the excitement begins again. FI then proceeds to hand me his phone so that I could take a picture of him by the ocean to send to his office because he wanted to rub it in his face that we were driving on the sunny oceanside, while they were all in a meeting. Cut to us walking back to the car, one of us very disappointed.
So when we went to California this year for a legal conference, which is a yearly thing for him, he suggested we go to Napa. It was a short drive from San Fran, and we had time to kill, so we went for a tour at one of the wineries. Again, picturesque, gorgeous scenery, romantic wine cave tour, etc. The tour ends. We head to the tasting room for our tasting. Good wine, but there’s no ring in the bottom of the glass (thank God, that’s really cheesy). I had mentally prepared myself beforehand, so I somewhat listlessly follow him out of the tasting room. He had wanted to sit down for a few minutes before we headed to the next vineyard. So we sat down at one of the picnic tables, and he is fumbling around in his pocket for his phone to check emails, but instead pulls out a gorgeous emerald ring surrounded by diamonds. He looks at me and says, “I didn’t want you to go home disappointed this time.” No knee bend, no will you marry me, just his adorable face with the ring of my dreams. When I tell people, they almost look horrified. I loved it.
Post # 16
There will be no proposal for us either. He’s a pretty introverted non-romantic. I just don’t want anything that would draw attention to me. Besides, he shows me he loves and cares about me every day. I don’t need him to use a proposal to “prove” that to me. I just want my ring. 🙂