Any of you get sad when you got close to TTC your first?

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
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Bumble bee

I’m currently pregnant, so I’m not answering your questions exactly but as I approach my due date, I’m definitely feeling very nostalgic about our pre-baby life: I have a lot of “this is the last time I’ll be able to do X” moments or “next year this time, things will be totally different”.  The unknown is often scary and I have loved the time we’ve had as a family of two so I’m definitely a bit apprehensive about how this massive change will shake things up.

However, I am also extremely excited to meet this new person that we’ve made together and see how she changes our lives!

Post # 17
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Helper bee

I totally get what you’re feeling. I always wanted kids, but used to think once I did, my life would just be about being a mom. Now that I am a mom, I’ve realized life doesn’t end. Life has changed but I’m still myself and I can still do things I want for myself. You can still get a new job and buy a new house after you have kids. Things are definitely crazy at first, but after a few years you do get your life back to some degree. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

every day! we are currently TTC as of this month but itʻs hitting me that this is actually happening and eventually I will pee on a stick and see pregnant, then thereʻs no turning back. So itʻs put a microscope on our relationship and on ourselves to be better, do better, work on everything and anything that comes up NOW which has been nice. Weʻve also put a couple vacations on hold until we know we can travel those months which is fine 🙂 but while we are making some lifestyle changes to prepare, weʻre also making sure weʻre doing all the fun stuff now

Post # 20
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Helper bee

I think this is totally normal – at least I hope it is! I’m 26 weeks pregnant with our first, and although I am SO excited for us to be parents, and to meet our daughter, and for all the ways in which our life will change – I’m also a little sad about it.  Maybe wistful is a better description.  We have lived a pretty great life together with lots of freedom, and that’s all going to change.  I’m sure that we will both miss it, but I keep telling myself it’s just because that’s what I’m used to – and that the change will ultimately be wonderful.  

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Not TTC yet and I already have tons of fears, especially the ones mentioned by all the bees. The only thing Darling Husband don’t think we are lacking is more time. We both love that it’s just us two but we lived together before getting married so it wasn’t anything new to adapt to besides saying husband/wife. Other than that we have discussed how we will lose sleep, if we’ll have enough time for our kid (me moreso than him) which really worries me, and the financial costs of providing for baby. We are both already in a good place financially even with the debt we have but we both have fears stemming from our childhood that we have to have a lot of money to give our kid a good life. Hubby is a little more extreme than me but we definitely want to give our kid the best circumstances we possibly can since we grew up with the exact opposite. 

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Yeah, it’s somewhat of a catch 22. I’m thirty and feeling the whole ‘it’s time to decide’ thing. But if you both know that you want children then you’re working towards your main goal. You will get plenty of wonderful shared moments with children.

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