(Closed) Any one else struggling with a long engagement?

posted 8 years ago in April 2014
Post # 3
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You are definitely not the only one! Granted, we have only been together for one year, but we fell in love really quickly. We met through mutual friends in summer of 2011, and began dating in December. We are technically not engaged yet, and we probably won’t be until May or June, but we both have agreed that April 2014 will work best. And both of our parents pretty much know we’ll be engaged soon.

It is sooooo hard to be waiting. My SO was the best man in his friend’s wedding last July, and then two of my cousins (one is like my honorary cousin, because we’re not really related) got married in September and October. Another one of my cousins is getting married in February, and then my best friend’s brother is getting married this April. It seems like EVERYONE I know is getting married! Haha.

Post # 4
2898 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Really struggling to be honest. We are in our early 30’s and have been together for 5 years. We got engaged Christmas 2011 and wanted to get married quickly. But we currently live in Canada and our families are in Australia. We were supposed to move back this month but we got promotions so decided to stay here a little longer. So now I am just treading water here, waiting to move home so I can start planning this wedding. I’m actually over the whole thing. I just want it over with. It all seems so huge (move home, buy house, new job + wedding) and hard but I have to keep on keeping on. 

You are lucky you have a date in mind, I cant even confirm a month until we know when we are moving home! Ugh it’s pretty hard isn’t it.

Post # 6
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

At least you won’t have scheduling conflict with said friends! I came here from the main page, so I’m not in your month, but I feel you about waiting.

Post # 7
407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Morton Arboretum

I am April 26th, 2014.  My little sister was proposed to over the summer.  My fiancee bought the ring (unknown to me) before but was waiting for a life long trip we were planning to Jamaica to propose.  That happened in October of 2012.  Since my sister set her date for Oct. 2013, I decided to set mine for April of 2014.  It is difficult waiting, but I am just planning everything in advanced.  I booked early, I have save the dates and wedding invites already.  And I start dress shopping next weekend. 

I figure this way I have alot of details done ahead of time.  Once I make a decision I stick with it so I am lucky. 

I think I am fine but the Fiancee and friends say I may be jumping the gun.  Well so be it, if I am happy and then I think it is ok.

My biggest issue is timeing for the save the dates and invites, I really want to know guest count so I can manage the budget.  I am inviting 114 and want about 80-90.  I am sending save the dates out 12 months in advance, I have a lot of out of town guests.  Some may not attend I think on my dad’s side only 2 came to my brother’s wedding. 

I want to send out invites in Late November/Early December with a RSVP before Feb 14th, 2014. 


What do you guys think?   Msybe I am jumping a but early???  What problems do you think this could bring?

Post # 8
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

2.5 year engagement over here!!!! Lol. It’s HARD AND LONG AND FRUSTRATING but totally with it 🙂 we’ve been together almost 4 years, we were originally waiting until I finished Uni to get married, but I got impatient. nd now it’s April 24th and I CAN’T WAIT!!!!

Post # 9
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My wedding is May 2015 and I’m actually loving my long engagement! I’ve been engaged for over a year already and I feel like the time has flown. I know I’ll get nervous when there’s less than a year to go, so I’m enjoying being able to relax and just know that we are engaged 🙂

That said, we got engaged fairly quickly so if I had been waiting for years I think I might be chomping at the bit a little more!

Post # 10
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

@PrettyinPink45:  TIme is flying by now. I’m April 5 2014 and it feels like after the holidays it will be right around the corner.

Post # 11
313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I feel like I am waiting forever too. I’m not technically engaged because neither of us really wants to be engaged more than a couple of years, but the only realistic time to get married isn’t for 2.5 more years. In the next 2 years, he has to finish a backbreaking long-hours year-long “internship” new Canadian lawyers have to do, then the next year I have to do the same thing. We also plan on moving cities and buying a house somewhere in there too, and don’t think a wedding would be enjoyable. Hence – we are waiting. Sigh. It’s maddening because we are practically planning a wedding and marriage now. 

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