- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2017
I am very frugal and totally understand the idea of have a wedding you can afford. But just looking for some words of encouragment.
First we are paying for every aspect of the wedding ourselves. We have paid for a lot of things in cash, engagment rings, weddings bands, photorapher , my dress ( only 300 CAD ) part of our travel so it’s not like we arnt putting our money into this as best we can. Its a destination wedding, so we still have the actual wedding package and our travel and gifts for the wedding party and other little expenses to pay for. We dont expect presentation as others are travelling. We gave kept everything to a minimum , but still for an average family paying a mortgage etc. It’s really hard to get everything paid! We didnt want to wait too long after the enagment to get married for personal reasons, we are at a point we want have kids and move on to other things etc. And the reason we chose destination – is half the family would be travelling anyway.. so the cost for them to stay in a hotel and travel only to see them for a few hours that night at best didnt make sense. Having everyone meet in the caribbean was the cheaper option – plus the time together was VERY important to us.
I know we’ll just have to work hard and keep paying stuff down, but i feel very guilty since it seems most couple come out ahead after its all said and done and I feel like i’ve failed in the money planning area, even though im usually great in that area!
Some people have casual mentioned things about money they made on there wedding and stuff, and it just makes me feel bad or like i did something wrong- but we chose this knowing we wouldnt be makng money because we didnt feel that was the point of this wedding!
Any advise that this will work out is so appreciated!