(Closed) Any one opted for a c section purely on preference?

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
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My friend opted for a csection and had a decent recovery but has a scar and still looks like she could be pregnant despite being back to pre-preg weight and she’s really frustrated about it. My other friend had an emergency c section and had her incision dehisced and got infected etc. I had a vaginal birth with epidural – yah it was long and rough and i may have screamed “take me for the c section!” As I was pushing for 2hrs after laboring for 18 but it was AMAZING and I had really no pain after wards (just felt like I rode a bike for a long time) and they were forcing me to take ibuprofen when I didn’t even need it. Sounds like you need to do some research, take some birth classes. They wl help. You just need to know you can do this!

Post # 17
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Blushing bee

I didn’t opt for a csection, I didn’t have a choice. Baby was breech and very small so I went in for a scheduled c section at 37 weeks. That said, I couldn’t have asked for a better experience for what it was. I had a great ob and staff the day of surgery, it was very quick and they did a great job. Yes after 24 hours it was hell. So painful, but I lived. It did suck everytime I sneezed, coughed, or laughed after for a few weeks. And it does make taking care of a newborn that much harder but I had 0 complications and my baby is healthy so I can’t complain.

Post # 18
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MrsYoshida :  

If you’ve never had a csection, how can you explain what it is like?

The fact that you say you are stuck in bed and in agony for weeks clued me into the fact that you never had one.

I had an emergency csection after 36 hours and pushing for 4. the baby had the cord around her neck twice so her heartrate kept tanking she she wouldn’t budge.

The percocet took my pain away completely and I only took it for ten days. they also have you up and walking around within 24 hours because that’s how you heal.

Csections are scary enough, please don’t spread misinformation ESPECIALLY when you’ve never had one before.

Post # 19
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mishybear :  

Also not true. when I sneezed, I explained to the nurse that I was terrified that my incision would bust open. that’s a myth.

You press a pillow to put pressure on your incision to help with the pain, not to keep the stitches in.

My stitches were internal and dissolved on their own, I only had surgical glue on the outside.

The csection misinformation in this thread is disappointing

Post # 20
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Helper bee

 

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araebo5585 :  Thank you. It may be that way for some but for me, it was really fine. 

my first child was an emergency c-section after 38 hours, 8 of pushing. Gave me an epidural the first afternoon and it wore off. I had preeclampsia, was on magnesium so couldn’t eat or see, and pitocin at the same time. I think my medical team made some very poor decisions but I always say the c-section was my favorite part of those two days! I just had my daughter in a scheduled c-section and it was a wonderful experience. I feel like it kinda healed some of the terror and trauma from my first. Healing was a snap, virtually no pain and honesty I didn’t mind being at the hospital for a few days bonding with my daughter. 

I think the scar is the worst of it and that will fade. I’m not going to advise you to get one because of fear, though. I’d always try to have the baby vaginally first. But it’s not the end of the world if you need one. My best advice is to try to be logical and make the best decisions for your body at the time. Be your own advocate and communicate clearly. Try to act from love for your baby and self instead of from fear. Sure things can go wrong but normally they don’t.

Also the statistics do make the point that vaginal delivery is better for the baby. Just remember that those say there’s a larger CHANCE of breathing problems, obesity etc. my children are both healthy as horses in every way. 

 

 

 ETA: stretch marks have nothing to do with the way you give birth. I agree that there is rampant misinformation out there and honestly I beat myself up after needing one. What a waste of energy- it’s taken me a lot of time to appreciate my own strength.

 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee

I’ve had 4 c-sections. Every c-section experience is different. That said, I can’t imagine ELECTING to have one. It’s major surgery and requires quite a large incision to get a whole baby out. They’ve improved things dramatically over the years as far as pain management and you will be quite comfortable in the hospital but there is a longer recovery involved for sure. I remember having some new mother class at the hospital and six of us were sitting there with our babies. When the class was over, 4 of the women grabbed their babies and left and me and this other girl were sitting there struggling to get out of our chairs hurting so badly. We look at each other at the same time and burst out laughing which of course resulted in a brand new wave of pain so we lightly giggled pressing our little pillows on the incision until we calmed down. Took us five minutes to get out of there. It seems infinitely more glamorous than natural childbirth and maybe it is but you definitely pay for it later on. It’s nothing to be AFRAID of. If you need to have one, have one. You’ll be fine but I wouldn’t volunteer for one 😉

Post # 22
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hollandaisey :  

38 hours and 8 hours of pushing is amazing!! we all do what’s best for our babies and in some cases, natural is a no go.

After four hours of pushing I was begging for a section. they tried the vacuum to help the baby and when she didn’t budge with that, they did a section.

I felt like I asked for a csection but I got over feeling badly about asking when I found out she wasn’t going to come out on her own.

I don’t think they do them based on the wish of the mother, I think there has to be a medical reason

Post # 23
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Busy bee
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Almost everyone has some degree of fear leading up to labor.  It’s totally normal and nothing to be ashamed of.  I was in the”terrified” camp when I gave birth with my first.  I was young and basically uneducated about birthing.  I’ve given birth twice now and I can promise you it’s not half as bad as you are thinking.  Thanks to modern medicine you can feel as much or be as pain free as you would like.  A lot of women do have some degree of tearing.  For most it’s relatively minor;  you won’t feel it when it happens but there may be some discomfort as it’s healing (Advil will help!) but it is not as big of a deal as you think.  The vagina goes back to normal.  It is a muscle that is made to stretch, it doesn’t stay stretched out permantly though.  My best advice to you is to educate yourself on the birthing process and find a supportive OBGYN, midwife or doula.  Having support and having a true understanding of what’s going on makes all of the difference! 

Post # 24
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I thought about the possibility of a section throughout my pregnancy and I thought I would be terrified 

But as they told me I would have to have one, all I felt was relief that my pain was about to be over. I wasn’t afraid at all, I was relieved that it was over

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
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araebo5585 :  my mom had a c-section when she had my brother. She’s the one who told me that you hold your stitches when you sneeze or cough to prevent stitches from tearing. She’s also a nurse. Maybe stitches / staples were different back in the day when she had her C-section, but that’s the information I was given. 

Post # 26
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Helper bee

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araebo5585 :  it’s strange how we find things to feel bad about ourselves in the midst of all the confusion. You did great, mama, if you did ask then it took a lot of courage. I’m always happy to hear about easy natural births, and they are definitely out there! But my husband told me once that although he hated seeing me in pain, he loves knowing that I will always try to be a hero who protects my kids above all else. Any birth is a valid birth. I heard somewhere that worrying is suffering twice, and in this instance I completely agree. 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee

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mishybear :  yeah. They don’t use those anymore. I had staples with my first two. The stitches are internal. The last two they used some sort of glue and tape. You still feel like you’ll come apart if you sneeze though…lol. You just hold something there and press while you do.

 

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
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Most doctors will not allow you to choose to have a c-section just because you don’t want to go through labor, especially with your first.  My sister’s good friend is an OB/GYN and she said she gets this request a lot, usually because the parents want the baby to be born on a specific day, or in some cases, the woman is just tired of being pregnant.  She always declines and most docs do.  I honestly would really question one that allows that as it’s not the best practice.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee

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sunnierdaysahead2 :  as well, insurance companies won’t want to cover it. It costs at least twice as much for a c-section. If it isn’t absolutely medically necessary, they will want to weasel out of paying -and rightly so!

Post # 30
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Newbee

I was terrified of giving birth too. I went through 42 hours of labor and 18 minutes of pushing.

My downstairs is completely back to normal. I didn’t poop myself and my tearing was very, very minimal. The contractions sucked, but once I got an epidural I was fine. I was up and moving around within 30 minutes of giving birth. I was understandly sore, but didn’t need any pain medicine or numbing cream. They prescribed me Percocet, but I never filled it and never took any over the counter medicine either. 

Labor wasn’t fun, but I didn’t love being pregnant either. I’m willing to go through it all one more time so that my daughter can have a sibling, but we’ll be done after that.

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