Post # 31
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
I had an unmediated, vacuum assisted vaginal birth. I was afraid of all of the things you were, but truthfully the only bad part were the contractions, the pushing felt like relief and the crowning did hurt but it is so quick, I tore but didn’t feel it at all. If we decide to have more children I would consider an epidural if I was in the same scenario, only because I had back labour so it hurt more than typical contractions. I was up on my feet a couple of hours after delivery and recovery has been smooth (I’m almost 3 weeks postpartum now).
Post # 32
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
The thought of a vaginal birth would literally make me vomit while I was pregnant so I understand your feelings of fear and/or revulsion. Some say the childbirth process is a beautiful experience but its just not to me. Its gross and sometimes horrifying but thats life. Not going to lie the first week of my c-section was rough but drugs helped and I remember thinking how nice it was to be in the hospital with my baby surrounded by caring staff for days instead of getting the boot the following day. Scar is a super thin, short line bikini and barely noticeable. Seriously, I have a cat scratch on my arm from a decade ago thats more visible. Had dissolving stitches and healed well without incident. Laughing was a pain for about two weeks but I never had to hold my stomach while doing so, just hurt like hell. It was an emergency, I got to the hospital fully dilated but my baby was in a breech position. There have been many times over the years where I’ve been thankful for c-section but I wouldn’t have requested one, if thats even possible without a medical reason.
Post # 33
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
“got me to the point of being excited about labour – I couldn’t wait to see what I was capable of!”
Yes!! It makes me so happy to see someone who gets me! I’ve run a marathon too, it’s just amazing to push yourself and feel pride at your accomplishment! I feel goosebumps remembering my labour too. My biggest regret is not taking photos or videos as my husband and I were alone until the end and he was constantly massaging my back the entire 16 hours! We’re ttc #2 and I can’t wait to go through it all again and I’m getting a videographer this time!
Post # 34
C-section mom here, it wasn’t exactly elective. I have twins, baby A was in the perfect position (head down) and baby was in a not-so-great position (transverse). I probably could have given birth to baby A naturally, and then hoped that baby B could be turned, but still risk a double whammy so I went with the safer bet.
The birth itself was easy, I felt no pain or discomfort (aside from the IV that was jammed into my wrist). However, once my spinal block wore off it felt like someone had stuck a hot poker into my uterus. The first time I sneezed (a few hours after the meds wore off) I thought my insides were going to come pouring out. I was moving around by the second day (walking helps you to heal faster), but it was brutal. Plus the pain meds I got made me nauseous, and dry heaving was a whole different level of hell.
While I’m glad I have two healthy boys, the first week my babies were home I barely got to enjoy them because I was so uncomfortable and immobile. If I had a vertex singleton baby, I would definitely try to have a vaginal birth.
Post # 35
This is completely a decision between you and your doctor, but there are some interesting studies about long-term impacts of babies born c-section vs vaginal birth. The c-section rate in the US is much higher than the rest of the world (I believe it’s 30% vs 10% recommended by the WHO?) for various reasons, which provides interesting data for longitudinal studies. I’m an ecconomics person and love stats, data, and research, so I love this stuff 🙂
There is a lot of information out there against and for various birth types, so the best thing to do is educate and empower yourself so you are comfortable with whatever decision you end up making!
Post # 36
A good thing to do would be to look at the csection rates of the hospital you are choosing if you are worried. the rate at my hospital was about 20%. they let me go for 20 hours before intervening. I got my epidural at 16 hours in and things declined shortly there after. they let me keep going because the baby’s heart rate kept recovering when I was turned. even when I begged for an intervention, they tried to keep encouraging me before asking the dr to try the vacuum.
Post # 37
Was this message meant for me or the OP?
In either case I agree with you 😀 OP (and all of us) need to be with a care provider and hopsital that aligns with what we are comfortable with.
Post # 38
Both, and just some general information 🙂 we learned that in our lamaze class at the hospital
Post # 39
I was induced because my water broke and there was meconium (baby poop) present in the fluid. It was 22 hours from water breaking to giving birth. About 14 hours from the start of the induction to the birth. I opted for an epidural about 3 hours before she was born. The contractions had been very manageable until they cranked up the pitocin because I didnt progress for a long time. Then they hurt a lot and i got the epidural. I don’t remember how long I pushed for, but it wasn’t very long. I pooped on the first 3 pushes. My husband and I joked about it. I said, while pushing, “Guess you are the only person in our little family who hasn’t sh*t themself today” He said, “So far.” The nurse laughed. The pushing part was not really that bad. It is an isolated pain in one area instead of the contraction pain which takes over your whole body. So it is kind of a relief in a weird way. I felt like myself again very shortly after the birth. I did have stitches from an episiotomy. It really wasnt noticeable after all I had been through at that point. It takes a few days before you can use toilet paper the normal way but thats it. Very glad I didnt have to have a section. (Almost did.)
Post # 40
I’ve had 2 kids, both were medicated vaginal births. I pushed for 2 hours after 26 hours of labor with my first, and didn’t push at all with my second and labor was 12 hours. The worst part of labor for me was the contractions, and I couldn’t feel them at all after having the epidural. It was amazing. I didn’t poop during either birth, and only had very small tears with my first, and none with my second. My vagina is still very tight, possibly even more so than before I had kids. I would never elect to have a major abdominal surgery over giving birth vaginally unless it was absolutely medically necessary.
Post # 41
I had an emergency c section and my womb tore. I can now only have s sections. My son is almost 2 and I’m still dealing with nerve damage from the operation. I go to 8cm and I wish I could have done it naturally. C sections can come with lots of complications that no one tells you about. You can’t lift or drive and the nerve damage I had made it hard to do a lot of things. I don’t want to scare you but your body is built for this (hahah tell that to mine).
Post # 42
You need to educate yourself. There have been fabulous suggestions but being “afraid for your vagina to push out a baby” just tells me that you are not aware of the risks/benefits and options available to moms.
It sounds nice and tidy, go into the hospital at the scheduled time, get numb, lay down, hold your baby, go home. However there are so many layers to the abdominal wall which need to be cut through and also sewn back together. Imagine working your abs a little hard at the gym and how sore they can be…and then imagine cutting through those muscles, stretching them out to accommodate a baby and sewing them together. Ouch. Not to mention risk for infection, wound healing, hernia, etc. Now the option doesn’t seem so simple.
Having performed both vaginal and surgical deliveries- I am crossing my fingers and saying my prayers for an uncomplicated vag delivery. I do Kegals. My vagina will bounce back. Lol.
Post # 43
I would stop reading so many horror stories about vaginal births, some people do have more traumatic experiences than others but I think most people do fine with a vaginally birth (as far as healing, tearing, etc). Things like pooping…you don’t even notice (and it’s usually not a huge amount of it). Not a big deal. Most tearing isn’t a big deal either, 1st and 2nd degree tears really aren’t a huge deal in my experience.
I had two vaginal births, both with an epidural. Highly recommend the epidural if you want pain management, they are HEAVENLY! The worst part of labor for me was the contractions, so after I got my epidural so things were pretty easy. Pushing is a lot of work, but it doesn’t hurt with an epidural . My first was induced and I had an episiotomy. Early labor was awful because of the pitocin but after I got my epidural (at 2cm lol) things were great. I was sore for the first few days but after ~4days things were fine. 2nd time I went into labor naturally and got my epidural at ~6cm. This time I tore naturally , 2nd degree tear. Healing has been even easier the 2nd time. I didn’t really have any pain besides soreness (in my back and arms from pushing) and the after birth pains (which you will have regardless, and they will push on your uterus). Never took anything besides some naproxin and I was lifting my 30lb+ toddler up the day after birth. After my first, I used the elliptical at 4 weeks pp and went running around 5weeks pp. Easy recoveries, even with some tearing! I can’t imagine electing for major surgery and that type of recovery over how easy my recoveries and births have been.
Post # 44
Wow it’s interesting to read the different responses. Some people saying labour was painless and pretty easy, others saying it was awful and excruciating. Some people saying their C section was fine and they healed fast, others saying it was painful and the recovery super rough. I guess It’s true that every labour is different.
Post # 45
I had a vaginal birth and didn’t mind the process. Thinking back on it (my son turns 1 in 3 1/2 weeks), I always think about how special that day was. I didn’t actually feel too many contractions because my water hadn’t broken all the way and then I had my epidural. The hardest part was pushing. I didn’t love the recovery, but I don’t know many people who rave about it. My water broke at 10/10:30am, and my son was born at 7:30pm. I really enjoyed the overall experience and will do it again in 3-4 years when we’re ready for our second baby.
I did have a very calm mindset and let go of any assumptions of what birth should or would be like. That helped a lot.