(Closed) any other atheist brides tired of justifying yourself?

posted 7 years ago in Secular
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@SnoopDog:  why do these idiots think they own marriage? Would she go to a Jewish or Indian wedding? It’s so disrespectful. I’m glad you just let it roll off your back. 

Post # 18
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977 posts
Busy bee

Neither one of us are religious.  I was going through the classes as an adult to get baptized as Lutheran – The more i sat there, the more I didn’t want to be involved in a church because I had opposite views of what they were all teaching me.

We asked our officiants to not include anything religious or mention God or Jesus in any of our ceremony.  That’s not what our ceremony is about. Its about us and the 2 of us getting married.  

 

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Atheist or not, it is incredibly rude to question why someone wants to get married. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. If you are in love and want to get married, then you have that right. Even if you were religious, people would still find something else to criticize unfortunately. 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@FauxBoho:  Yeah, it’s just ignorance all around. What pisses me off big time is that many hardcore Christians I know always think superior of themselves in regards to the rest of the world. Where do they get these ideas from?!

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Pagan here, fiance is agnostic bordering atheist.  I think our friends and family would be shocked beyond words if there was a church involved.  Spirits, deities or lack thereof play no part in our wanting to get married.  It helps that my mom is Shinto, my dad and his side are so far lapsed Catholic they’re not even Eastmas Catholic anymore, his family mostly falls under the ‘vaguely spiritual at times but in no way religious’ label.  The only person so far who was shocked was some random bridal salon employee lady at a bridal expo.  I was seeing how much they could customize a dress they had on display since I want to cover my back tattoo for my mom.  I explained the what and the why, and she kept trying to tell me they could get me a bolero for church.  I gave up and moved on.  The next bridal store rep was really nice though and totally got the secular ceremony, don’t need to get all modest, just want to be nice and cover the ink for mom.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Nobody has questioned us, but we come from a family of mostly atheists, from a group of reasonable people, from a fairly secular area of the country, and, as I said before, we aren’t friends or family with many people who get all in a tizzy about things like religion (but they do get in a tizzy about persecution of belief OR non-belief!). We are VERY interfaith (I am an “atheist Jew”, DH’s father was Catholic, his mom Muslim, he was raised “lazy Catholic” and definitely believes in God whereas I definitely do not) and every member of our family supported that and everybody had amazing things to say about our personally handwritten secular ceremony (that also had a passage supporting equal marriage rights, btw). Then again, almost every guest is a flaming liberal from the NYC area so we may not be the norm….We did have one of his friends from highschool (in Texas) give us a daily devotional as a gift (and nothing else). I think it may have been a hint, haha (but at the wedding he danced and laughed with us and said not one disparaging remark)

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@SnoopDog:  Marriage to me is based on love & respect not religion & expectation.

 

Post # 25
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492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

ok so I am going to just come out and say it………… I for the longest time thought Atheism was the same thing as Theistic Satanism………….. I feel dumb but I honestly believe a lot of people have a misconception about what atheism is.

Post # 26
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Honey bee

@jigga143:  No judgement, but how did you come to associate Atheism with Theistic Satanism?

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@jigga143:  so you are saying ignorance & education are part of the problem? Hmmm…

Post # 29
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492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@SoupyCat:  just bull carp I was taught form people who have no idea what they were talking about. I was basically taught that atheist dont believe in God therfore they believe in Satan……. Why would believe something so dumb only my 13 year old self can tell you……. Im 27 and wiser now lol.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m athiest, but was raised Southern Baptist.  My husband is a non-practicing Catholic.

Our ceremony was non-religious.  We received a few comments before the wedding from our parents…

My mom: “I feel sorry for you, that when you die, you won’t be in heaven with me.”

His mom: “Well, that explains why you aren’t getting married in a church, she’s a heathen.”

I didn’t really give two sh!ts, but I know it bothered my husband that the most Christian folks were being so judgemental.  To me?  Whatever.  They can be as pious as they want to be, to each their own.

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@FauxBoho:  

I think a lot of people have the same value and beliefs as their parents. They carry what they are taught as children into adulthood and never take the time to learn something that goes beyond their little bubble. So yea, lack of education or even more so a lack of wanting to be educated. No one wants to be told what they believe is wrong or unreal. I believe in God and there is nothing anyone can tell me to make me change my mind on that however,  I live to learn so I do what is necessary to learn as much as I can even if what I am learning is hard to wrap my brain around.  

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