(Closed) Any other backyard brides out there?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i’m doing my parent’s backyard! we’re keeping it super small (65 guests) and literally just having a barbecue. we’ll have a small ceremony, and then just have food and dancing. i’m not having a sit down dinner, there’ll be a few tables to hang out at, mostly just lawn chairs and that kind of thing. i think you can make it more stressful or you can just say to hell with it and go really loose and low key. i’m asking people to bring a dish, and just going to BJ’s for burgers and dogs and whatnot. ipod hooked up to one of FI’s amps (and some other music junk i’m letting him take care of) i’m essentially thinking i want it to be like my aunt’s summer pool parties but with a fifteen minute wedding in the beginning. what kind of plans do you have already?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We had a backyard wedding. Lets just say I did a lot of shopping around and researching on my own. I had a coordinator for the day of only so I wouldn’t have to worry about guests being seated, the flow of the reception and other things. She was a family friend so that was free. If you can find a family member or a friend who is knowledgable about weddings, then I would see about going that route.

I risked not getting tents because of the ridiculous cost.

120 guests. We got rentals, food, a DJ, Photobooth, DIY favors, table cloths, lighting (some lamps but also strings of lights from walmart), flowers and the cake for less then 10,000. Of course I am also counting my dress, professional hair/makeup and  everything else in that as well. I got some floating candles in the shape of white flowers and threw them in the pool with small weights attached so they would stay put. The caterer was an owner of a small business in town that gave us a great deal.

You can pick and choose what is important to you and go from there. You dont have to get a photobooth and you can do your own hair/makeup if you want.

It is very doable and can save you a ton of money. It just takes a lot of work!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would really try to pull together the funds for a professional DOC. You’re juggling a lot of balls in the air and with rain and other potential issues to worry about, a DOC would be so helpful to mitigate any problems that arise! I would encourage you to splurge or cut elsewhere in order to pay for someone to worry in your place. We decided this was a must even though it wasn’t in the budget.

 

Like you, we originally had a small guest list, smaller budget, etc until Future Mother-In-Law decided it wasn’t wedding-y enough. The DOC was our compromise. Now that things have grown out of control & way more complicated than I’d ever dreamed, I refuse to allow myself to stress out or have to run around like a mad woman on the day of my wedding. I’d say it was the best money we’ve spent! 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Weetzie:  She offered her services to my Mother-In-Law. She didn’t want any form of payment, but we got her a gift afterwards anyway. She loved doing it so she wasn’t put out and she relaxed the rest of the time and enjoyed the wedding. I don’t think I would have been able to pull it off because I was too busy with socializing, photos, getting dressed and all of that. She kept things flowing and on a schedule. I was completely oblivious to how everything was running because I was being pulled from point A to point B. I have no idea how she did it, but it went great. You can ask the friend from church if she would be interested and you can offer payment.

Like I said, just make a list of what you need for the wedding. Music, Photography, Food and decide what is more important to you. Those would be the things that you will spend the most money on. Then budget heavily on the other things. The small business route was a good idea because they want to get their name out there so they would be more then willing to give you a great deal, we had double what we needed to feed people for $1200.  The photographer was family so she gave us a discount. Another family member was a hair stylist that did my hair for free and did the bridesmaids at a discounted rate. The makeup artist was a student who did it for cheap as well. When it came to the florist, we went with affordable flowers. The cake was done by a women that bakes as a hobby, she charged us $300 for a cake that fed over 200 people. If you have any specific questions about anything feel free to PM me, I know how to shop ;-).

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are doing both the ceremony and the reception in our backyard!  We live on a river, it was where he proposed too! πŸ™‚  We had looked at other options, like the typical golf course/banquet hall, but we could invite so many more people for the same price!

We will be having 250-300 people at our wedding.  We will be providing all drink and food for our guests. My Future Father-In-Law and my FH will be doing pig roast the day before, and we will be having a pig roast taco buffet. 

We are doing the whole tent, renting tables, chairs, etc but DIYing a lot of it, our projected budget is under 10,000.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am not going to have a DOC, but I am planning on asking two of the grooms men’s wives, who are pleasant and assertive, to help with a few things, especially during the social hour and beginning of the reception. 

Im out and about right now so when I get home, I’ll do a breakdown of my budget! Lots of shopping around, DIY and help from family. πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Alright, here we go!

Tent/tables/lights/chairs,etc: $3600

Wedding Dress: $530 – no alterations needed, free veil (sale), $10 Target sandals (blue)

Hair: $55 (friend works at a salon, coming to the house, no extra charge), doing own make-up

Photography: $1000 – 2 shooters, 7 hours, full rights to photos (colleague of mine but professional photography business)

Food: approximately $1500 – doing our own pig roast and all the fixings for a taco buffet (we will be hiring my lunch ladies to man the serving tables for about 200 more), including odds/end, silverware, napkins.  I”m okay with nice looking plastic. πŸ™‚

Alchohol: $700 (Crazy uncle of FH is bartending! πŸ˜‰

Pop/nonalcoholic: $250

Golf Cart Shuttles (2): $300 – our guests are parking a little far away and there is a hill

Bus for Bridal Party for bar-hopping during Social Hour: 275

Save the Dates (with postage): $100 for 150 & 20 magnets – THANK YOU GROUPON/Vistaprint

Invitations: estimated $200 with postage

Cupcakes: estimated $450 (over 300 cupcakes and a small 6 inch cake for us) FH wants red velvet, so red velvet he will get!

Groomsmen ware: FH outfit, ties for all the boys estimating $350 (no tuxes, just nice dress khaki pants, blue shirt and tie)

Flowers: Sam’s Club – $250 – DIY bouquets/bouts and enough for flowers for centerpieces

Centerpieces – approximately 250 (mostly DIY)

Grand total: 9,810

That being said, some of it is estimated, and I know that we will go over with extra stuff here and there, but we are truly trying to stay as close to 10,000 as possible.

I don’t think I am going to get a wedding band, and we already had Fiance (long story).  Since we are having it at our house, we will be putting some money into landscaping and improvements, but I am not couting that as it is equity into our home in the long run! πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh mama. I expect to spend $2000 total for my wedding. BJ’s for food and DIY everything else! You ladies are scaring me!

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