Post # 1
I mentioned it to a friend of mine last night and he was all “WHAT?!?” (mostly because it’s a beach wedding in Mexico for a week at an all-inclusive) but it just seemed so strange to me that it’s expected that a bride go crazy trying to lose a bunch of weight to look a certain way on a certain day.
I’m not huge (size 12/14 ish) but I could definitely stand to lose a few (dozen) pounds. I just can’t be bothered. I am trying to ge through my last year of college, plan a wedding, work part time, and try to enjoy the last few months I have of living with my awesome roommates in the city I’m in now. There’s no way I’m going to find the time to hit the gym 5x a week. Screw that. My Fiance fell in love with me at the weight I’m at now, asked me to marry him at the weight I am now, and for some reason I’m supposed to bust my balls to change that weight? No way. Sign me up for a heavily boned dress with a corset back!
I’m all for getting in shape, and I plan to do it myself, just after the wedding, when I’ve got loads of time on my hands as a stay at home wife.
Anyone else feel this way?
Post # 3
I agree! I think it’s fairly ridiculous that people starve themselves or go insane trying to get to their ideal “bridal size.” I just think it’s asinine. Like you said, they fell in love with us at whatever size we were when they proposed. I felt gorgeous on my wedding day and I’m a bigger girl. I think that society projects it onto a lot of brides, too, when they get all weird that we’re *not* trying to change ourselves before the wedding. It’s stupid.
Post # 4
I’m a size 12 and weigh about 155, so I don’t really consider myself “full figured” or overweight, just curvy.
I’m relatively happy with my size, especially since I lost about 40 lbs. in high school and have managed to keep most of it off.
That being said, I would like to tone up for my wedding. I just have some parts that are a little more “jiggly” than I would like them to be (thighs, stomach, underarms) lol. So I am working out and watching what I eat, but not obsessively. I just want to be toned. I don’t want to lose anymore than 5 lbs, which I know is infintesimal in the grand scheme of things.
But my fiance loves my body the way it is, and most days I am pretty comfortable with it too.
I’ve never wanted to be a stick figure or be miserable because I’m starving.
If you are happy, that’s all that matters!
Post # 5
I feel the same way. I’m a street size 6/8 and while I have gained over 20lbs in the last two years and wish I was the same size as before…FH is fine with how I look and I’m not all the big. I hate working out and I work crazy hours so I dont have time to go to the gym anyway. I love eating..lol..so once the wedding gets closer, I will eat better and probably do light cardio or just tone my arms. Other than that, I am not all the worried about it.
HOWEVER.. I am annoyed that my Maid/Matron of Honor keeps rubbing in my face that she needs to lose weight for my wedding and she is a size 0/2.
Post # 6
I need to lose about 5-10 lbs to fit my hips into the dress but I don’t want to lose a bunch if weight for one day. My fiancé loves me as I am! He calls me his foxy lady. I say embrace he curve and be true to yourself.
Post # 7
While Im not trying to lose weight, I am trying to tone up. So no starving here just working out three times a week (which should be done anyway).
Post # 8
Ugh, I hated when people would comment about my diet when I was engaged. I want to look like me at my wedding, and I have no problem with my weight or body thankyouverymuch. Someone might see me eating pizza and act all aghast and say, “Aren’t you getting married?!”
It’s not okay to ask me if I’m going to try to lose weight any other time, so why would it be okay to do it just because I’m planning a wedding? Is it really a requirement that every bride starve herself?
Post # 9
I hate that brides starve themselves, or feel the need to starve themselves for their wedding. Good on you! I, personally, will be eating all the regular junk I usually do.
Post # 10
I am purposely trying NOT to lose weight (my weight fluctuates depending on stress) bc I know that I am too lazy and unmotivated to keep up any exercise regimen after the wedding. And I would hate for people to look at my wedding pictures later, then look at me and say “You were so skinny in your wedding!” No. They should say how happy I look or how much in love I am, not notice my weight. haha
Post # 11
I agree with all these sentiments! I have had weight problems all my adult life. Now, I’m 5’0″, and weigh at least 250, if not 260-265 (haven’t weighed in quite a while). For my body size, that’s quite a bit of weight. I’ve had some people tell me that I don’t look like I wear 26/4X. The thing is, all the weight is in my chest/stomach area. My arms and legs don’t have the “typical” look of people my size.
I’m not trying to lose weight for the simple reason that I’m not an exercizer. There are some things I enjoy doing on the Wii, but since I live in an upstairs apartment, I don’t want to bother the downstairs neighbor. Plus, I don’t FEEL like an overweight person. I feel like ME. I’m very slowly becoming comfortable with my body, mainly because Fiance loves me for who I am, not what I look like, and trust me, there are other reasons I’m insecure with myself. I still struggle with my image, especially when clothes shopping or looking at pictures of myself, but I try my hardest to not criticize myself when doing so.
Post # 12
my wedding is in less than 2 months and i don’t have time to get my dress taken in a whole bunch so no i’m not trying to lose weight before the wedding. though i would like to work on toning my arms a little (strapless and all).
Post # 13
I am 80 lbs higher than I was when I started dating my Fiance. I am unhappy with my weight over all, but with going to school and trying to find work and helping out at my parents house and planning a wedding, I don’t have time to work out either.
Something I realized though as soon as I tried on my dream dress, is that I will be beautiful in the perfect dress no matter what. I felt like the prettiest girl in the world when I put on that size 18 dress (though it was a little big on me.)
Post # 14
This is an idea of how I looked in my perfect dress, and I still felt beautiful.