Any other bees out there with huge bridal parties?

posted 2 weeks ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Helper bee

I’m not engaged yet, so I haven’t made the official decision, but I likely will have 11-12 bridesmaids. I have 5 younger sisters and thought about only having them, but it made me sad to think that my close girlfriends wouldn’t be IN the wedding. I’m really torn about having so many and our wedding will be between 100-130 people, so that’s even worse. As far as arranging, will obviously depend on the venue, but likely will have a row of sisters and then a row of friends staggered so no one is covered up. 

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I was one of 13 bridesmaids in a friend’s wedding a few years ago and I’m not gonna lie. It sucked. It took us ages to do anything. Picking out dresses (which ended up having to be re-picked because when they came in, they looked awful on most bodies) took all freakin day. We had to start pre-wedding photos at 7 am for an 11am ceremony. It felt like it took half an hour to just get everyone  down the aisle. Transportation was a nightmare, getting ready was a huge hassle. And I barely got to spend any time with my friend or her new husband. So I ended up with all the commitment and expense of being a bridesmaid without any of the special moments or memories. 

So my advice to you is to just not do this. It’s really, really hard to manage that large of a group of people, and doing it on your wedding day (which is already hectic) is pretty much impossible. You’re not going to be able spend any time with those folks and at the end of the day, they’re going to feel disappointed and frustrated.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Wow, you are having a huge wedding! My bridal party is not quite as large as yours, but we will have 10 bridesmaids and 10 groomsmen. Our ceremony will be on a very small stage, which is not wide enough to have all of them stand in a straight line. So the way we’ve decided to arrange them is in two lines of five, with everyone standing somewhat staggered so you can still see the people in the back row. I think you are right that it might look weird to have all of them in a long line, so I would trying having them stand in multiple lines or some kind of grouping. 

Also, you didn’t ask for advice on this, but my words of wisdom with having a large bridal party is to keep your expectations low. It’s difficult to manage that many schedules, so you have to expect that at leat a couple of them might not make it to every pre-wedding event. As long as they’re there for the actual wedding, then that’s what counts!!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: City, State

I was in a bridal party last year where I was 1 of 14 bridesmaids. I knew 5 of them before hand, plus the bride of course. It was pretty difficult co-ordinating everything, picking and altering dresses was a hassle but we got through in the end. Everyone managed to keep calm (I don’t know how lol). Still it might not be for everyone.

 

I’m having 8 bridesmaids, 4 junior bridesmaids and 3 flower girls in my bridal party. That’s what happens you have a large family!

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

bumbledore :  Honestly it’s the time/interaction factor that is lacking. No matter how easy you make the getting-dressed aspect or the dress choices, that doesn’t change that each of those people are going to get about 28 seconds of your time. So unless you can make the day have more hours in it, you need to make extra efforts to make your massive bridal party feel like they are interacting with you.  This is extremely difficult, as you also need to pay attention to your guests.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Horseradish :  I agree. I’ve been in a wedding with 10 on each side and it was a logistical NIGHTMARE. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

bumbledore :  Yes, that’s basically what we have in mind! (Something closer to the girls’ side in that picture lol). This is why rehearsal will be important for us, because we need to block out where everyone stands and make sure they’re not spilling off the stage! (We will probably tape X’s on the stage where each person is supposed to stand as well.)

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: London, UK

I will be having 8 or 9! People love to advise me against it, but I could not care less about that negativity. I have 5 best friends from uni (known 8 years) who I talk to all day every day in our group chat, plus I see them all indepedently from the group. I have a best friend from school who I’ve been close to for 16 years. I have my closest and oldest best family friend who I have known my entire life – our parents are best friends AND our grandparents are best friends. And I have a best friend who I met when I was travelling 5 years ago and we have since been on 6 other trips together. I might also have my cousin who is one of my best friends too.

People make comments when they hear 9 bridesmaids, and then when I explain my relationship to and with each of them they have no choice but to shut up because they realise I genuinely do have that many close friends. I think initially people think I’m being silly/picking them out of obligation.

I have 0 concerns about logistics, because all of that stuff that some people try to get to ‘perfection’ is not important to me. My priority is having my closest friends in the wedding, and if that is to the detriment of the aesthetics then so be it! That’s not what it is about. I’m also not concerned about having to divide my attention between them all, because they are mature, low maintenance girls who I know won’t have a tantrum over anything like that.

We are hopefully booking our wedding this week and then I will be able to start thinking about where they stand! All I know is I will need a very long song for when we all come up the aisle hahaha

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