(Closed) Any other Bees that don't have it all together? (Venting)

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Sounds like retail is not for you, could you look at other sorts of management jobs once you have some experience as store manager?


Post # 4
8487 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m 24 also and I have absolutely no idea what I want to do with the rest of my life. Nothing sounds appealing to me. =/

Post # 5
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

What about going back to an accredited school for a vocational degree?  Something that is two years long and gets you into a career, like dental assisting?  

I don’t know what area of retail you’re in, but perhaps think about the things you enjoy reading/learning about, and persue a career as a sales rep for a particular product or industry.  Perhaps go for marketing as another option?

There is always becoming an admin assistant, though I would make that a back-up option and perhaps persue other ideas first.  

I am in your boat.  Definitely lacking motivation, which is the first time in my life that I have felt that.  I have a lot of interests, and formal education is becoming more and more difficult to complete with double-requirements that differ among schools, impacted majors, etc.  My Fiance keeps telling me I should either major in business or health sciences, whichever makes me happier.  Health sciences are more interesting to me, but of course are impacted.  Good luck.

Best advice I can give is to cold-call around and see if you can shadow someone for a couple of hours, or interview them.  Also, look at the Bureau of Labor Statistics.  There are no guarantees, as new grads flood the market and make the same amount as those without a degree.  Masters and up are what many jobs are requiring now.  Just keep swimming.  

Post # 6
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Can I offer a slightly different perspective? From someone who is the same age but went through all of this last year?

I graduated college when I was 20. I am not bragging by any means; I was a huge nerd and got lots of scholarships. However, I got my Bachelors in Psychology, which is useless as a BA – you HAVE to get a graduate degree. My “plan” that whole time was to go on and get my Masters in School Counseling. I chickened out and realized I didn’t want to do that. I spent a year and a half jumping from one thing to the next. I even started programs! I went to radiology school for 2 weeks before dropping out because I hated it. I looked into HR, Teaching, Speech-Language Pathology, being a Rad Tech, everything. 

At that point I was beyond frustrated and not making enough money. I started tutoring on the side for extra cash (I was working as a part-time marketing assistant) and I started tutoring special needs children, not even on purpose. I finally had my lightbulb moment when I got amazing feedback from the parents and even their teachers, and I started my M.A.T. and am now a Special Education teacher. I honestly believe that you “fall into” your career if you’re not lucky enough to be that person that knew when they were 10 what they wanted to do. Not everyone does and most of us struggle!

I just wanted to offer you some hope! I struggled for almost 2 years with this until I finally found my place last year. It wasn’t easy and applying for all sorts of jobs and programs was a huge pain in the behind, but it was worth it.

Good luck! And try to stay patient, though I know it’s easier said than done. Look at what you’re good at, what you enjoy, and what *type* of job you see yourself wanting and needing. I, personally, wanted a well-rounded job – great hours, decent pay, some of the “feel goods,” but not anything too stressful or tedious. I wanted something that would work with where I saw myself in the future – I’m a “helper,” I want kids, I’m good at strategy <– which is a lot of what my job as a special education teacher is about; teaching strategy so they can learn the way they need to.

Post # 7
1556 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t have much advice to offer, just wanted to say that you’re not alone!! I just turned 25 a couple months ago, and I’ve been going through the same thing. I really want to go back to school, but I just can’t justify the student loans, especially when I don’t know exactly what I want to do.

Post # 8
777 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@desiree.0615:  @allyfally:  I know how you feel! I’m 25 and going back to school in a couple of weeks for a career change. You are not alone.. I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up!

Post # 9
174 posts
Blushing bee

The best advice I can give you as someone who’s finished school and in a career (older than you, dont worry lol) is a-finish your school and graduate and b-dont study just ANYTHING in school…That’s the most important thing, be sure that it will be something you like, sure, but something where there’s actual jobs. I see so many people getting into degrees that are kind of dead-ended and then wonder why they’re 29 and dont have it together. Be sure to choose something you like and a degree that’s USEFUL.


But dont worry, 24 is so young, and you’re in school so it’s not like you’re not working towards something! Keep it up!


Post # 10
1400 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@desiree.0615:  I’m with you. I did my time in retail, and I’m going to university for the first time two months before my 24th birthday. Eek!

I honestly still don’t know what I want to ‘be when I grow up’ so I picked a year course that I’m pretty much guaranteed a job in with a decent pay. Its somewhere to get me started at least. 

Baby steps, as long as you’re facing the right direction, you’re doin good!

Post # 11
8487 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

My main problem is that I literally cannot think of a single thing I’d like to do long term. Like, nothing. I’d like to be a mom, but you dont exactly get paid for that.

Post # 13
364 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


I want to be comfortable. That’s what I’ve always wanted to be. My job choices in the mean time… have been less concrete. I ended up deciding on electrical engineering and I’ll get my BS a couple of months before I turn 24. But before that I dropped out of high school due to boredom, got my GED, and started working in fast food full time. Two years later I realized I HATE working with the general public. So I decided to go back the community college to take some gen ed courses and start working on a BA in business. Which lead to me being board out of my mind again. So I tried out engineering and we have a love hate relationship. I love that it offers me stability and the ability to build the comfortable life I have always aimed for. And I hate that by 2pm I feel the need to bang my head against a wall just to clear my head enough to go find the next source of caffeine. And after I got an internship and actually started working in my field everything seemed so much more worthwhile. So I guess my advice is just keep moving forward and remember that academia is not the real world. If you know you don’t like the real world aspects of retail it is time to change course but don’t give up on any option until you’ve gotten a taste of it in a practical sense.

Post # 14
2673 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@desiree.0615:  Honey, I’m 33 and am going through this! I already did my undergrad (psychology) and even got a master’s degree (environmental sciences) that led to a great job with the gov’t that DROVE ME CRAZY for a few years. I’ve been unemployed for the past three years while going through some rough personal times and getting my head above water again. Now, here I am registering for my first semester of courses at community college as a hopeful nursing student. That’s the quick blurb of my academic and professional career, lol. Life takes us all down some crazy paths sometimes, and the best thing we can do is keep swimming! 

Have you gone through career counseling? The counselors at your school can give you some tests for personality and aptitude that can point you in directions that may be more to your liking. Also, none of your schooling and experience will ever be a waste. Even if you end in up in a wildly different field, there are always valuable lessons to learn from any job/career that you can carry with you. Please don’t hesitate to message me if you need to talk through anything. Good luck!

Post # 15
7 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

i’m 36 and i went through that during my 20s. I think it’s very normal. Most people do not end up working in fields they studied and change careers 5-7 times in their lives. have you read a book called “what color is your parachute?” it helps to identify a) what you are good at, what comes easily to you that is also a marketable skill, i.e. you’re organized, detail oriented, good with words or math, etc. b) what you enjoy doing, c) combine the two, and then stick to it. I combined math and green and became an environmental engineer. there were many times when I barely hung on but when you stick it out you will find a way to be in a job that sustains you and makes you happy. There’s the perfect career out there waiting for you!

Post # 16
246 posts
Helper bee

I am 30 and about to do a career change… so don’t worry.  I realized I want to be my own boss, set my own hours and have my hardwork actually mean something. When I have kids I want to be able to be there for most activities and if possible there when they leave and when they return from school.  I ended up getting my real estate license and have discussed this with bf and he agrees it would work for us.  You put in long hours, hard work, money and some weekends up front but then in the future once you have established yourself you may be able to have all that you want and make really good money.  If you have the drive, dedication and will to succeed you can do whatever you set yourself up to do. I think in your 20’s sometimes the “why am I working” is not there or clear yet so the drive is not there to find, committ and succeed at a position. 

It sounds like you like retail or maybe sales and want a flexible schedule. Maybe try real estate, pharmaceutical sales, or even a sales/distribution rep for a liquor/wine/beer company.  My sister is a Miller/Coors rep and basically makes her own hours. Just a thought and good luck… you have plenty of time to figure it out!

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