Post # 1
Most other brides that I know…their family was very involved and excited in the planning.
My family is pretty much “Do whatever you want”. However, if they don’t like something and it’s already too late for me to change anything…that’s when they’ll be involved and comment lol. That’s about it.
I’m not complaining. It’s better to have an under-involved family vs over-involved. It’s just that it is a really weird feeling that they don’t seem to care.
Post # 2
I suppose I’ve felt the same. Some close family members didn’t care at all and didn’t even bother to congratulate my Fiance or I at all- they don’t hold anything against the marriage they literally couldn’t even pretend to be happy/ exciting for us. Certain family members didn’t even know because it somehow didn’t come up in conversations with extended family. This is now two months after the engagement!
Although this is a little hurtful, it didn’t really bother me- there are obviously bigger things happening in the world than my engagement! What has been really hurtful is the family who have fallen out with me because they won’t be coming to my tiny wedding despite know full well the reasons why.
Everyone seems to have an opinion on everything too. I can’t seem to do anything right 🙁
Post # 3
My parents are contributing financially to our wedding – which I am extremely grateful for! – but they aren’t very interested in the wedding planning process. They got married in the former USSR, so they never had a big wedding (Russian culture in general is doesn’t place a big emphasis on the wedding day), and I’m the first out of their friends’ children to get married, so I think they just really don’t know what to do. Sometimes I let it get to me because I see a lot of brides have special moments with their moms during wedding planning, and I wish I had that! But you’re right, its probably better to have under-involved family than the over-involved one.
Post # 4
the only people who were involved with the planning of our wedding was DH, my mom, and me. i did ask DH’s mother some questions to try and keep her involved but she told me it was my wedding and whatever i chose would be lovely.
no one else offered input and i was very happy about that.
friends did suggest vendors when i asked but no one pushed anything on me.
Post # 5
My parents didn’t do anything for our wedding either. Mum came with me to one dress fitting after dress was already picked, and that’s it. I know my scenario is the more uncommon one but I really couldn’t think of any ways TO involve them.
Post # 6
My family was barely involved and it was the best. They had a few ideas here and there but I was so grateful they didn’t push. You can’t please everybody, so too much input is the cause of stress, tears, and drama. Brides are getting married older now. We somehow manage our jobs, rent/mortgages, cars, and investments all by our little selves, I’m sure we can handle a wedding!
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
AML8: My family was pretty uninvolved, unless it was to harrass me about the guest list or how much booze I was serving. I did everything myself and didn’t really turn to anyone (except the Bee!) for advice. My family was supportive I guess but just didn’t care all that much. <br />What I felt like, and this has been said here before, is no one really, truly cares about your wedding. Accepting that made it easier!