(Closed) Wanting grad school but not wanting to relocate?

posted 7 years ago in College
  • poll: Should I tell them that I'm not applying to any other schools?
    Yes : (3 votes)
    15 %
    No way! : (17 votes)
    85 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @bells219:  Can you do the degree through a distance program??

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @bells219:  I was also going to ask about a distance program. What is your field?

    Nonetheless, I think I would include in the statement of purpose. Faculty really try to get a feel for their students through these statements and its apart of who you are, so to speak.

    Post # 6
    Bee
    1433 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

    Yeah I would make sure that you mention very specific things, like certain top researchers you’d want to collaborate with, and how their strong academics can further your own research ideas and potential.  Make sure that you really lay it on thick with specifics, not just “I want to go here for academic reasons”.  Schools like to know that their students think they are good, and that they have researchers that are “sought after”

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I wouldn’t put in any info about why you want to go there beyond the academics. They will see your address on the application material, and I think reasonable people do understand that attending grad school where you already live is generally desirable. They’ll also understand, from your address, that you’re more likely to accept if admitted than someone who lives far away, which is good for their statistics. I’d say just focus on making all your application material really good, maybe contact them and see if you can meet a faculty member in the program to get a better idea of the program’s focuses, etc. Being in the area already gives you some advantages, but trying to leverage those advantages by emphasizing them in your statement of purpose might not be the way to go.

    Disclaimer: I’m not a professor, I’ve never been on an admissions committee, but I’m in a master’s program myself and I’m familiar with the attitudes of at least some professors about applicants.

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    NO!!!!

    Saying that you want to go there for any reason other than academics will actually probably work AGAINST you (I know it would in my program).  Highlight that it’s your first choice in other ways (best advisors, research, classes, fit with your interests that exceeds other schools).  I know it sounds like it would help to say “if you take me I’ll definitely come!” but it also sounds to the adcom like this “I like you because you’re convenient, and I’ll say anything else you want to convince you to take me, but mostly I like you based on geography”….it may be true but don’t say it!!!

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    if you have in-person interviews with professors, you could mention then that the program is your top choice because of family factors as well as the academic factors–from my experience applying to and being in phd programs, the “fit” of the program is really important: they want to be accepting students who will say yes to the school and go there rather than a competing program. but I don’t think the statement of purpose would be the place to emphasize the non-academic reasons for the school being your top choice.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I used to be a graduate school consultant, my advice is a pretty clear “NO”.

    1) Do not advertise or in any way indicate you are married or about to be. Grad school is incredibly stressful on relationships and admissions committees know that few “just marrieds” last in school. And no one who got pregnant in my cohort finished their degree.

    2) Explain all of the academic reasons why you want to go to that school. You can include the perks of living in that area, if there are perks. For me, the real reason I wanted to go to school X was so I could get married in the school chapel. I wrote about all of the great opportunities for internships that I would get by living in that city.

    3) Be sure to interview or talk to faculty of the program (without your ring on). If they know you, you will get in. Someone who I advised got into a school she was way underqualified for because she spent the time meeting with each of the professors to learn about the program.

    Good luck!

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I agree 100% with @eagle and disagree somewhat with emp04. I’m an audiologist, not an SLP but I (obviously) know lots of SLP grad students (current and past). The applicant and student population for this group is overwhelmingly female and of “marrying age”. I don’t think they’ll be fazed at all about your engagement ring or plans for settling down. They care more that you took the time to learn about their program, who the “names” are on their faculty, and specific opportunities for clinical rotations you hope to take advantage of. Hope that helps!  

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @Pollywog:  I think your advice is solid, especially for highly competitive programs. However, hiding parts of your life (like taking off your ring) seems like you are lying in a way. Do you need to advertise you are married or wanting to attend the program for multiple reasons? Maybe not. Do you need to hide it? No.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I agree with PP, focus ONLY onthe academic side of why you want to go to this school.  I was in a VERY similar situation to you last year!  My Fiance and I moved to Los Angeles 2.5 years ago for him to attend medical school at UCLA.  I worked for two years and decided it was time for me to go back to grad school.  I really was ONLY interested in attending UCLA for grad school, but the education program is ranked #6 in the country.  I knew I was competitive and I LOVED the program (it’s really perfect for me), but the REAL reason I ever looked into it is because i live in LA and was not interested in moving.  I did NOT mention to them that it was the only program I was applying to.  But I did attend every info session I could and I found out as much as possible about the program.  I connected with professors and the director of the program.  I talked up the specifics of the program and how I fit perfectly into it, not mentioning my (then) Boyfriend or Best Friend.  Ultimately I got in (thank goodness, it was seriously the only place I applied) and I am now super happy in the program.  Just talk up the academics like crazy.  And make sure your resume is as beefed up as possible!  

    ETA: I wanted to add one thing.  I’m now applying to teaching positions and I mentioned in an interview that my fiance is in medical school.  Unfortunately, this actually hurt my job prospects because now they can’t be assured that I will stay in the LA area longer than a year (because my Fiance will be applying to residencies and we might have to move).  While many would be upset that they slipped and mentioned this, I am happy I was honest and I feel like if I accept the job (IF they offer it to me!!) then I got it honestly and openly.  If I do have to move, at least they knew it beforehand.  They called last week and said they want to hire me but are hesitant about me staying in the area.  And now I’m waiting by my phone, obsessing.  *SIGH*  So my point here is to say I wouldn’t HIDE your ring, but make sure you’re ready to deal with any ramifications… :-/

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Like people have said, don’t mention family in your decision. I would strictly mention the academic side and even focus on what specific things the school offers that you find interesting. An interview would be a great place to state that this is truly the only school you’d like to attend.

     

    Post # 16
    Bee
    1433 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

    @bells219:  most of those married professors… were they men?  Academics is such an “old boys club.  

    I would highly, highly suggest taking your ring off for the interview.  I think I misunderstood your original question, but DONT TALK ABOUT MARRIAGE, Fiance, and certainly NO BABY TALK!  You won’t get in.

    Take the ring off. They won’t look at your engagement as a “mature thing to do” – they’ll look at it as a 22 year old playing bride who is just going to get knocked up in a year and waste a spot in grad school.  

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