(Closed) Any other bees wonder if their registries are too big?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

@FloretteLiz:  If you’re worried about it, you could pare it down but keep a list of the things you trim. Then, as the shower and wedding get closer, check it once in a while and if it looks like everything is getting bought up, add things back in a little at a time?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We’re inviting less people than you (around 114 people unless my Fiance added someone else, lol!) and we have about 230 something items at BBB, I dunno how many at Kohls but some of that registry has already been bought so it doesn’t look as full, and then I forget how much stuff on the pottery barn one but it’s one of the smaller registries.  I kept getting told register for at least 2x the amount of guests you have.  And really, you gotta think of it like this…napkin holders for example…are like $3.00 at most usually lol x that by 12.  I don’t think that’s a lot.  Somebody may buy all 12 for example as a gift.  I think you’re fine but if you’re worried you could do what KCKnd2 said to do — keep all the MUST haves on there and take some other stuff off…as stuff gets bought add things.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve heard you should try to register for twice? the amount of people you have invited…or something like that….people will have options and then whatever they don’t buy, you will be able to get a discount on if you choose to purchase it yourself after the wedding

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@FloretteLiz:  We must be registered for like 400 things… but some of them are like a spatula or measuring cup that cost like 2 dollars. My mom says our registry is too big, but honestly, when I go to someone’s registry to try and buy a gift before a wedding and everything is purchased, I’m like “umm now what!?”. I’d rather have too much than too little… otherwise, people will buy random things we don’t want or need. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

FWIW, the “2x the number of guests” is partly a marketing strategy to help the stores sell more items. It’s true that some items are small and people buy several to combine into one gift, and some people will buy both a shower and a wedding gift, but plenty of people also buy non-registry things or give cash/gift cards.

The stores know, though, that if they can get you to register for more items, it creates something like a sense of entitlement – that’s not exactly the best word for it, but anyway, they know that couples will then feel like they should have what they put on their registry because they planned on it, so it makes them more likely to then come back and buy the stuff through registry completion. Yes, there’s usually a discount – but the store still profits because whatever markup they put on the item in the first place is going to be greater than the discount.

I’m not saying how much stuff you should or shouldn’t put on the registry. I’m just saying that it’s good to be aware of the marketing psychology behind the store’s recommendations. It’s not based on “how much this many guests is likely to buy,” it’s “how much we think we can sell to you if you’re throwing a wedding with that many guests.”

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@FloretteLiz:  According to BBB’s website, “Here’s an easy rule of thumb. Add up the number of expected gift givers for your wedding and bridal showers. Register for at least 2 times as many gifts as givers. Your guest will appreciate having lots of choices when they shop for you.”

I can’t even imagine! We don’t have much of anything but some hand-me-downs and I still can’t think of what we’d all need. Right now between the three stores we only have 89 items. We’ll have approximately 125-145 guests.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  We registered for 271 gifts, and our invited guest list was at 274. I think we’ll have exactly 200 at the wedding. I felt like we had a ton of things on our list already…I couldn’t imagine doubling it! Fiance and I haven’t lived together yet, so there are a lot of things we’re needing. I still feel like we’ve registered for a ton of stuff! It’s hard to balance it. Out of those 274 gifts, we have about 116 left, which is pretty good!

  Coming from the guest side, I just recently shopped for a baby shower. I went two weeks before the shower, because I was already shopping for a different one. They registered at a store where they registered for 30 diapers that cost $30 each. They also registered at a more universal store. When I got to that store, only one item on the three page list was left that you could actually buy in-store. This was so frustrating! I ended up buying the item and am supplementing the rest of the gift with a gift card. I would much rather see a variety of items. I never think of people as “gift grabby” unless the registry is full of items that are $100 and up. Variety and availability are the keys!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We had a small-ish wedding (we invited about 100 people) and I really struggled with having more than 40 things on our registry. (Then again, our home is already established and I didn’t feel compelled to register for super fancy stuff or expensive appliances we’ll never use.) Most of our registry was purchased by the time my bridal shower rolled around, so I did update it at the request of some guests… but honestly, I didn’t sweat the whole “you have to register for X amount of gifts” thing. Register for what you need and leave it at that, whether it’s 20 items or 200.

And for what it’s worth, we ended up receiving far more cash and gift cards than gifts. At least everything was easy to take home that way, lol, and now we have loads of useful GCs on hand should we need something.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

@FloretteLiz:  Haha, totally … that’s why they strategically call it “registry completion” (as opposed to, “Oh, you didn’t get everything on your Christmas list? Welcome to reality” …Tongue Out) Because nobody wants to feel “incomplete,” especially when they just got married!

I know I sound horribly cynical. I don’t mean to. We have a registry, and I hope guests find it useful. But knowledge is power, and we are trying really hard to not get hung up on whether people purchase from it or not. I caught myself recently when someone gave us an absolutely gorgeous gift – that happened to a) not be from our registry, and b) double up something that we had actually registered for. My initial reaction of “Oh, but we already put a different [X] on our registry” momentarily blinded me to what a beautiful, amazing, thoughtful gift we had just been given. I don’t want to let that happen again.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

@FloretteLiz:  We had 12 people at our wedding and we registered for like 300 things!! lol. It was mainly for my showers and stuff (I had two, one where I live now and one where I’m from), and a large majority of the stuff was under 40. Afterward, people thanked me for having such low-cost items on there. Truthfully, we didn’t need much… It was more to make their lives easier while shopping for us. We would have been fine with people’s presence as our present =)

 

So rest assured, as along as a lot of that stuff is low priced, I don’t think people will mind.

 

ETA: Okay it wasn’t 300, but I think it was like 170 or 180 things. It was a lot!! lol

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