(Closed) Any other brides helping pay for their shower?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I recently posted about how I’m probably not even going to have a shower unless I pay for it/do it myself so yeah, I’m definitely paying!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Shockingly the one thing I am not paying for is my shower (and the rehearsal dinner)…I would maybe talk to your sister about cost cutting and things you can do to scale back but still make it nice.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I told my bridesmaids that I’d be happy to chip in and they told me I was crazy. But I don’t see anything wrong with it if it makes everyone happy.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I picked up some food for my showers. My Maid/Matron of Honor was still in college and I know money was tight. Meanwhile, I’d been working for a year. It didn’t hurt to pick up some sodas and some chips and some other stuff. We went really casual though. Like, macaoni salad style. I’d help out my own sister.

Mine was a very inexpensive shower. It was actually held in my own home and like I said, we had casual food. It doesn’t have to be fancy or anything; is there a way to simplify it? Or is your sis stuck on the theme?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Champagne – The hive gave me the idea to do it potluck style, so maybe just a little potluck party at my parents’ house, which would be free and big enough to have a group thing there. I would do a lot of the cooking ahead of time, get beverages, a little bit of alcohol, etc. and then people could bring a little something if they wanted to. I honestly don’t know yet but it’s just an idea I’m tossing around.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Wow – that’s a tough situation to be in. Sounds like your cousins need a swift kick in the butt. I’m so sorry they’re giving you a hard time. Maybe you should talk to them about whether or not they really want to be in your Bridal Party at all.

My Mom’s all gung-ho about the shower and it’s a surprise so I have no say about mine. I wouldn’t mind helping out where I can though.

We did a really cute shower for a friend of mine when I was her Bridesmaid or Best Man. We had it in her Mom’s backyard – the bridal party and close family & friends chipped in & made food, cupcakes, etc. You could easily do a tea party at someone’s house & have finger sandwiches and hors d’oeuvres, mini cakes, etc.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

luckily my dad sponsered my shower, so my bridesmaids didn’t have to worry. (my sister jokingly asked for a sponser and my dad said yes!) i really don’t have any money to help them if they needed it. i would have suggested to scale back. around here, showers are normally just held at someone’s house with friends/family bringing food, and it’s usually really nice.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Aww – I don’t get a shower! I live 300-600 miles away from my bridesmaids, so we can’t hook up and do something fun together other than the actual wedding!

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