Post # 1
My best friend who agreed to throw our wedding shower is a very busy person who just had a few people who were close to her pass away and she had a friend make our wedding shower invitations for us. Since she’s so busy she gave them to me to make labels for and mail out. I have some added stress because I wanted to get these out by next week (the shower is in August). I totally understand being busy and of course I feel very sympathetic for her losses. I just feel kinda weird mailing out my own wedding shower invitations cuz it feels like I’m throwing it which I’m not. I just have to wonder if anyone else here has been or is going to be in this situation?
Post # 3
As long as she’s hosting, will be handling the RSVPs and all the planning, I don’t think physically mailing them yourself is a big deal.
Post # 4
Agree. I think it’s fine, especially assuming the shower is not being hosted at your place, and that somewhere on the invite it says she is hosting it? Of course yeah, it’s not ideal to have to do work for your own shower, but I think that’s great that you are being sympathetic towards her situation and willing to help, even though you also probably have a lot going on in your life!
Post # 5
As long as the RSVPs are going to her and she’s hosting, I see no problem with helping her out.
I would put her name/address as the return address though. That way, no one will even know that you did the stuffing and mailing for her!
Post # 6
@Mrs.KMM: Agreed. People won’t even know you helped.
I also think that the OP doesn’t have to stress about the time line though, either. The response time for showers is much tighter then for weddings. I think a 2-3 week window is more appropriate.
Post # 7
I just sent out my own baby shower invites. My mom was in charge of them, and since she works and I don’t I offered to help. She bought the invites, hosted the shower, etc. so I figured it wasn’t a big deal for me to help out a little.
Post # 8
I agree as long as she is hosting and talking to people for the RSVP’s etc. I dont think that you mailing them is a big deal. And I can totally understand you wanting to get them out.
Post # 9
Thanks. I don’t think it’s a really big deal either especially now cuz my Mom agreed to help me with addressing the envelopes. We discovered a big problem, however, my friend forgot to put the date and time of the shower on the invitations! We would write it in, but there’s not enough space and it won’t look right. So now I have to tell her to reprint them before I can send them out! I feel bad, but don’t know what else to do.