(Closed) Any other control freaks?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

I have a little chat with myself and tell myself everything will be OK.  DH may do things his way, but no one is going to die, and it will all be OK.  Rinse, repeat.

HUGS!  

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

@roxy821:  what helps for me is seriously to think of the worst case scenario (realistically) and then figure out if 1) getting to that point is likely and 2) what happens if I get to that point.

I can totally understand the financial stress of not knowing how it’s all going to come together – have you guys sat down and figured out a game plan?  Or are you relying on him to do figure it out?  Maybe you can have a brainstorm session where you think of what you can cut down on or change, so that there’s a bit of a cushion??  That doesn’t really have anything to do with trusting Darling Husband to come through – but more of a family game plan type of peace of mind, IMO.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Congratulations on your little girl soon!

It is exceedingly difficult for me to cede control. Even at work just now, I didn’t call a colleague for help getting my boss into a members-only resort where the colleague is a member because I didn’t want to wait to see if he would do it and then wait and have to nag for the hotel confirmations. Instead I found a comparable hotel and made the res myself. Less anxiety that way. 

However my Fiance is a very fly-by-the-seat of his pants type of guy. He will show up at a Springsteen concert 5 minutes before it starts with no ticket and somehow end up with one. He is like the guy on Everybody Loves Raymond. It always makes me anxious and he just says, don’t worry it will work out, and somehow it always does. It still bugs me to no end but I think it is because I am just wired this way and have always been this way. If you have no reason to believe it won’t work out, just try to keep logically telling yourself that.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@oracle:  what helps for me is seriously to think of the worst case scenario (realistically) and then figure out if 1) getting to that point is likely and 2) what happens if I get to that point.

that is GREAT advice!

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