(Closed) Any other disorganized procrastinators out there?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m terrible. I know that it’s a discipline thing, but my ADHD is debilitating without meds (I’ve been off for four years) and I literally cannot be proactive about anything. I start work at 5am on fridays to do end of week reporting for work rather than just keep up with it during the week. In college, I would sit in the class before another paper was due and write it 45 minutes before it was due. I will read an email for work that only requires a simple response and not reply until 4:48pm. I recognize that this is an issue and I try to change but it’s so hard!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m a big fan of to-do lists. I use the task menu in my Outlook at work all the time and flag emails I need to follow up with. A few times a day I’ll try and look at the list to make sure I’m not ignoring any emails.

My problem is that I get too busy and end up leaing work in such a hurry. Then inevitably I’ll wake up in the middle of the night and realize I forgot to do something. The task list thing has really helped me out.  

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@speechgal44:  I use to have this problem, then I realized my life was too stressful and I was causing myself unnecessary problems by being disorganized and moderately lazy. I set schedules and goals for myself now. I write things down and set up reminders in my phone. I also exercise and eat better, which I think makes my mind sharper. I keep a cleaning schedule, make a list for shopping, and keep files for important documents. No, it’s not fun initially to do all these things but I get things done a lot quicker and stress a lot less in the long run.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

How do you cure it? Beats me. I have been a procrastinator FOR OVER 5 DECADES. Congratulations, you have now officially met the queen of procrastination!

 

Thank goodness for my three lab assistants; without them I would be so lost at work. And yes, it takes three people to keep me organized. One even comes to my house to help me there!!!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@speechgal44:  🙂 Thank you, I wish there was one on here also.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@KT808:  I think it has to do with your priorities and possibly how you were raised. My mother was a very neat, organized person but very ill towards the end of her life. She died when I was 17. My father worked and she stayed at home. I was given responsiblities from a very young age and they dramatically increased after she passed away.

I think I knew how to get things done and be an organized person but as time progressed I slacked off (depression). After I started back college I realized procrastination and disorganization equals failure for me. So, I got my things in order and threw out things I did not need. My girlfriend showed me how she set up reminders on her phone, so I started doing that, as well. I also started exercising, which is a HUGE motivator for me. It was very hard at first because I was tired, but I still drag my butt to the gym even when I’m tired and afterwards I feel like a different person.

I think I just realized my life wasn’t going the way I wanted it to go and I needed to change something. I don’t want to become a sedentary, sick, depressed person who never aspires to be anything bigger, which was what I was becoming. My procrastination was really holding me back in life. My fiancee also showed me a lot, because he has enough energy for 20 people, lol. He is working on his Masters degree now while on deployment in Kuwait. He inspires and helps to motivate me everyday.

I’m not saying my reasoning is what is wrong with procrastinators/disorganized people. I know many very intelligent people who still manage their lives, despite their ADHD or whatever you want to call it. I think depression was my main problem.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Darling Husband doesn’t have a problem with organization, but, boy, does he love to procrastinate. It drives me crazy! I’m an extreme Type A, and I can’t stop obsessively stressing over things that need to be done until they’re done. I’m quite possibly the farthest from a procrastinator that I’ve ever seen. Darling Husband usually doesn’t procrastinate long enough to actually cause a problem though, unless you count the gray hairs he’s giving me. 🙂

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@greenidlady:  When I was doing hypnotherapy for ADHD (lol), one of the big cognitive triggers we were working on was linking exercise to productivity and organization. It NEVER happened, though. The therapist would specifically work in “do laundry on Wednesday nights” to my sessions, but I can’t say it ever caught on. Even my subconscious hates being organized.

I did exercise and currently exercise to wean off the meds I was taking for bipolar II, so I definitely agree that exercise helps a lot.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

THIS. My deepest, darkest secret.

I have been a procrastinator since elementary school. Due to various reasons (including but not limited to a very chaotic upbringing), I have just never really learned “routine”. I have also suffered from depression and I’m the type of person that has a terrible need to be liked. I remember being in 5th grade and doing homework at 11 PM on a sunday night. It was a thrill because I would still pull the best grades and get put into the “gifted and talented” classes. There was almost a boredom and the way to relieve it was to wait until the thrill of the last minute chase.

Over the years, it’s gotten worse. While procrastination was exciting and certainly did not hinder my performance in primary school, by the time I got to high school it started to spiral out of control. I ended up getting in to an extremely competitive school (like one of those schools in the top 3 in the nation) and being around people who were extremely intelligent should have been a great motivator but it was the opposite. I actually did my year-long Intel Science fair project in about 12 hours and came about 2 points shy of failing the class. I got an internship on my own at a prestigious Manhattan law firm at 16 and ended up never showing up and ignoring all their attempts to get in touch with me. By college, my procrastination became debilitating. I failed numerous classes and by my last semester had to take 28 credits in order to graduate with a 2.0 average. 

It’s cost me jobs at this point, because I start out everything with the best of intentions and then fall apart. I have not kept a job for more than a year since I graduated in 2008 -usually finding some excuse to leave once I get too overwhelmed. Since I’ve quit my last job in May, I’ve had numerous people offer to help. I still haven’t sent out a single resume. It’s embarrassing. In planning this wedding, I can go for a month before returning an email. Oh and don’t even get me started on bills. I’ve literally managed to never pay a dime for rent and right now my cell phone is a day from being shut off. All i have to do is go online and pay the amount, but I will wait until the damn thing is shut off and I have to pay a fee to turn it back on. 

I’ve tried Adderall and Concerta and Ritalin. I’ve gotten so hooked on them (and ended up getting my college roommate hooked on them until she almost failed out of school) that I ended up in the ER from an overdose. 

I really don’t know to make things better. I don’t really know what’s wrong with me, why I’m like this. I wonder how procrastinators become procrastinators.

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