Post # 1
So I’m wondering if anyone else has a professional title and what their feelings were on changing names? My family supported me through the whole of med school and I’m the first doctor in the family, so I feel a little bit bad about wanting to change my surname to Dr.Fi’surname… though obviously it’s the beginning of our family life together and my professional role comes in to that too. Should I go with respect for my family or starting the new chapter in my life? x
Post # 2
I’ve seen female physicians who have kept the maiden name and others who have changed to the husband’s last name. Generally, it becomes more cumbersome to change it as you get more established in your career (e. g. changing your name in the EMR). However, if you want to do it, people will get used to it.
As for honoring your family, you could always shift your maiden name to your middle name. That could be a good compromise.
Post # 3
BeePeaSH: I’m not a doctor, but I have a professional job that requires staye liscensure, lots of schooling, and lots is letters following my name….
i love my maiden name….I did not want to change it. But I also wanted to share a name with my husband and children.
i did not want 2 last names. Thus, I moved my maiden name to a second middle name…
i sign all my all my paperwork: first name maiden(middle) name and married name.
Socially, I go by his.
Post # 4
I’m going to be graduating from veterinary school next May and our wedding is one week after graduation. I will also be the first doctor in my family but I will still be changing my name after our wedding. My reasoning is that I will hopefully have a job lined up right out of school and it will be easier to change my name right then before starting a job rather than changing my mind down the road and having to change my name once I’ve started to establish myself at work and in the community, etc. Also, I happen to have a very common first name and surname combo so I’ve always kind of looked forward to taking my FI’s last name just to not have such a common name. But honestly, I think its really dependent on how attached you are to your maiden name. I don’t think that you should let your family or Fiance dictate your decision based on their wishes, just go with your gut.
Post # 5
I have a PharmD, but I don’t use the title “Dr” socially or professionally. I’m also the first person to get a doctorate degree in my family, and I did take my husband’s last name.
I think of my maiden name as coming from my family of origin – they are super important, will always be my blood relatives, and a change of name won’t change that fact. For my Darling Husband, I wanted us to start our own family and having the same last name seemed like the next step for us.
Post # 6
I have a PhD and I kept my last name. I was already published under my name when we got married, and frankly I just didn’t want to change my name for personal and professional reasons. I don’t know many people in my field who change their names and they seem to do just fine with kids, etc. I would say don’t let your FH or your family make the decision for you and do what feels right to you.
Post # 7
Dr. Bee here. I’ll be taking fiance’s last name and changing my middle name to my maiden name. It was important to him to have a unified family name. And my dad, brother, and brothers fiancé will all be Dr. Maiden name so it’s not like I’m giving up anything unique.
Post # 8
BeePeaSH: Future Dr bee, just finishing up my second year of med school. I’ll be married in my fourth year, and I plan to take FI’s last name. I have thought to use my maiden name in place of my middle name, but all together it doesn’t flow particularly well. Plenty of time for me to consider it, I suppose.
Post # 9
I am in medical school now and I am fighting pretty hard to keep my last name lol. At most I will consider hyphenating, but I will not completely change my last name. Especially now that I am getting published under my current name.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
Getting a PhD and will be the first “doc” in my family. I changed my name. Basically for tradition, to feel like a “unit” and because I like his last name more than mine! lol.
Post # 11
You should go with what YOU want. Period.
Post # 12
I have a PhD and I am too well-established professionally as Dr Orchids to change it. FI and I have thought about him changing his name to mine since his last name is a bit unfortunate. I doubt he will though, since he also has a lot of busness contacts who would not recognise the new name. One thing we have decided is that when we have kids they will be named Orchids too. 🙂
Post # 13
I am a physician in California, and I am legally changing my name to first name maiden name last name. However, professionally I still will be first they maiden name. In California the licensing board just wants you to practice under what you’re licensed under so they are fine with it, and my employer is fine with it. They will just pay me under my new name while keeping my email badge etc. under my maiden name. It’s a nice compromise and works out for everyone.
Post # 14
I’ll be graduating from medical school three weeks before our wedding, so my diploma will have my maiden name but I’ll be taking my FI’s last name. Truthfully, I’ve never really liked my maiden name, so it wasn’t a big deal for me to change it. It’ll just take some paperwork and a minimal fee to change my license! I’m working closely with the program coordinator at my residency program to make sure I’ve got everything set up ahead of time.
But like some PP have said, you should do what YOU want! 🙂
Post # 15
Law degree here, so a different kind of doctorate 🙂 Was already published in prominent journals under maiden name when I married, but I did want the same last name as Darling Husband. It was important to both of us and I’m traditional about that sort of thing. I debated a bit though, because my maiden name is unique and clearly represents my heritage on my Dad’s side (first generation immigrant to the US from another country), with whom I was very close and he passed away. However, I have a brother and he and his wife have a son so I know our dad’s name will continue. I use maiden name as middle now so I figure, how hard can it be to make the connection to my previous publications in this day and age? I do make a point of actively putting full First-Maiden-New Last Name on documents, resumes, papers, etc so I still feel the name is very much a part of me, that felt comfortable for me. Go with your heart on this one. Happy planning and congrats!