- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2014
I have been thinking about this same dillema for a few years.
We are getting married around 6 months after I graduate with my PhD, but my fiance gets HIS PhD 6 months AFTER we get married. By then I would have published quite a few articles/chapters etc under my own name (only conferences so far, publications are all lining up now), but I really want to take his name so we create a family unit. I’ve thought about changing my name early, but it feels weird. He is ok with this idea, but he also kind of doesn’t want me to be the first Dr R****** since he wants to be the first Dr in his family (sigh, I get it though haha).
I may take everyone’s advice and shift my maiden name to my middle name and use it professionally, but then do you get many chances to use your married name socially any way? I also like the idea of publishing articles together with the same name (we are in a similar field). I have gone round and round on this so often that I have become dizzy!
Thank you for the responses everyone!! So I figured my nephews can carry on the family name… also, I found out Fi’s surname translates to “little wolf”… which is more than enough for me to go “sod it, I’m going with his” 😛
Love the idea of shifting the names and think I’ll do that too! Hope those of you who are still trying to make a decision can come to a conclusion. At the end of the day, you’re using your “family” name either way 🙂 Best of luck and lots of love to everyone x
I’m an MD Bee, just married. I am dropping my middle name, and making my maiden name my new middle name. Thus “Dr. Shrink Ellen Dink” has become “Dr. Shrink Dink Hisname.”
I wanted to honor my last name, and also my med school diploma and publications all have my maiden name.
Of the generation above mine 2/4 people have PhDs, I’ll be the first medical doctor. I was never going to change my name officially but even if I did socially I don’t think I would want to do so professionally. Many of the female doctors I know work under their maidan names (GPs and surgeons, consultants and trainees).
I also have a doctorate in law, though I never use the title “doctor”. I do use my maiden name professionally, it’s unique & easy to remember & funky & I like it. Fortunately, so does Dh. He’s convinced he gets better service some places if he identifies himself as Mr Sassy411.
I’m a PhD and I decided to hyphen my name. Legally my name is Dr. myname-hisname, but I typically just use my maiden name for my career (as I already had a lot of contacts and was published with that name), and just his name socially. Both the names are unusual so it is pretty easy to contact either name with my legal name, it is just a mouthful to use all the time. I wanted both names in my legal name for copyright issues professionally, and for ease traveling with future children as we are bound to do a lot of traveling (both for my career and to visit family as we are from different states and probably some of that will be without my husband)
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