(Closed) Any other ladies engaged with no ring?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@MrsSnowMountain: U mad??? its my opinion.  Not yours. Like I said no ring no engagement, no way was I going around telling ppl anything without at least SOMETHING on my hand, even if it were a 50.00 silver band. 

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I didn’t have a ring for a few months, but I didn’t really go “public” with my engagement until after I got a ring, I didn’t want to deal with all of the “OMG LET ME SEE YOUR RING!” comments until then. 

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

The first 3 questions are , “let me see the ring”  “so have you set a date”  and last “where are you getting married at”. I mean I’d just feel out of place telling someone we are going to get married and have nothing to show them when they ask to see the ring. Where I’m from ppl are less likely to take you seriously and will just blow you off which can be quite embarrassing too

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Bjones107 How very classy, telling other people their engagements don’t count because they don’t adhere to your narrow standards. Putting down other people is very different from expressing your opinion.

 

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@MrsSnowMountain:  wow you must be very upset hun lol …

 

 

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Bjones107

Please cease harassing me through private messages for standing up for others.

ETA: Seriously, stop harassing me and name-calling or you will be reported. Wow.

Post # 38
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Same as the OP it was very much a finance thing.  I assured him it wouldn’t matter to me either way whether I had one or not.  So he initially proposed without one several months ago.  We went back within the last month and bought a ring when things were a little better for us.  And NOW my family thinks it’s legit.  My friends and classmates were pretty understanding (I’m a grad student, they know we’re all broke).  But my parents were like “thank goodness you’re FINALLY engaged for real”.

I also don’t understand these problems “dealing with the questions”. My answer is “we don’t have a ring at this time.”

 

Post # 40
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I had a ring when Fiance proposed to me near four years ago but we were still in college then and I did not want him to waste that much of his hard earned money on a piece of jewelry… So we decided to return it to Tiffany’s with the intention of buying one closer to the wedding… Now we are a year until the wedding and both have stable jobs but still debating whether a ring would be a good expense/investment for us to start our marriage life with (we share finance now)…

 

Chances are, we may not get an engagement ring… but that does not make us any less engaged… I am his with or without a ring on my finger 🙂

 

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@Bjones107:  

 

I had a date, a photographer and a venue before I had a ring. I also told my husband I didn’t need a ring, and suggested we just set it all up and get married. About a month after I did get a ring, but still, it didn’t make me ‘more engaged’. 

  A ring has only the significance you give it. When my mother got engaged in India, in 1972, it was a verbal agreement between families. She didn’t get a ring at her wedding either. My parents were married for 25 years before my mom ever wore a traditional engagement ring/wedding band set.

So before you say “no ring, no engagement’ and ‘ that’s my opinion’, remember that different cultures have different practices.

 

 

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m engaged with a solid date, venue, photographer, food, officiant booked without a ring.  We’re taking our time (I’m the one who has been waiting).  Most people in my circle doesn’t do things by the book so it has never come up in conversation with anyone.  People are more interested in the date than a ring.  

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ishafortin +1!!! This was why I took such issue with negative comments… cultural blinders! It is so ignorant assume that everyone does it your way, not to mention socio-economically elitist, given how many of us didn’t have rings for financial reasons.

Post # 44
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Newbee

I’m sort of engaged, and I don’t have a ring. We’re waiting until the end of the year to get publically engaged, and then we’re getting a ring. I still call him my boyfriend in public, because people want to see a ring was you say “I’m engaged!!”. I didn’t want to deal with all that drama!

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Get a cheap one as a place holder.  When we got engaged we didn’t have a ring.  After a fwe days I decided I wanted something on my finger and so we wandered round the shops and got a very pretty silver and garnet ring for about £20.  I still wear it now I have my proper ring but on the other hand.

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

To add, having read the comment, of course you can be engaged without a ring, but if you do want something, I found having a cheap placeholder ring was nice.

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