Post # 47
I really hate the public perception that no ring = no engagement. I personally feel that once you and your SO are making plans to get married in the near future, you’re engaged. My SO and I have been talking about getting married next summer for about 6 months now but we haven’t settled on rings. (Yes, ringS. In my culture, men also get engagement rings.) However, we’ve set a date and been looking at venues. However, since there is no ring yet, we’re forced to refer to each other and bf/gf even though we both consider ourselves engaged.
Post # 48
- Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel
@S.Elizabeth.G: I got engage last month and my ring was too big so I took it for rezising and turns out my finger is to small the ring was a size 6 and I’m a 4 1/2 they smaller band they have already made to order is a 5 1/2 which means they had to make me a whole new ring from zero, make the band, set all the diamonds on the new band. Anyways all this process will take 3 months!!!!! so I will be ringless until mid August 🙁 needless to say time is going by sooo slow and I can’t wait to finally have my rock on my finger!
Post # 49
You’ve set a date! You are DEFINITELY engaged! Congrats! If I were you I would start insisting on calling each other fiance, calling yourselves engaged, etc. I know it’s hard though, best of luck!
Post # 50
You can still refer your Fiance as your Fiance – ring or no ring, especially if you’re making plans.
Post # 51
Its funny how people don’t consider you engaged if you don’t have a ring, but many women don’t even wear their e-ring after they’re married. LOL
Post # 52
I’m ‘engaged’ without a ring as well.
We have been together for 6 years, and share finances, meaning we also share in decision making. I’ve never been interested in getting married, and have placed priority on building net worth for later in life. My SO felt the same, but did want to be married eventually, so we discussed it and decided now is the time to go through with it
So far he’s asked my parents for permission, and we’ve worked together to design a ring. I see myself as being engaged, making the decision to get married makes you just as engaged as anyone else.
Post # 53
Yea we tried to explain to close friends/family we were engaged but no one was taking it seriously and just didn’t consider us engaged. It’s so frustrating. I want the ‘congrats on spending the rest of your life together” wishes now, not when there’s a ring on our fingers. You would think making such a big life decision would be a bigger deal than owning a peice of jewelry but society has such a narrow-minded view of that is considered “engaged.”