(Closed) Any other lesbians planning a family?

posted 7 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Hi!!

Yes, my Fiance and I are also planning on having a family soon after our Sept 17th wedding. We were going to go for AI sometime in January of 2012, but we may not have the finances to do so. With this being said, we will now go for AI in the summer of 2012. We are very excited!!

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My Fiance and I will be married in March and want to start having kids ASAP after that. If we had all the money in the world, I would want to be the surrogate for her egg so we wouch both technically be the baby’s Moms.

We definitely want to have  a donor for sperm. A friend of ours has offered, but I don’t think it would be comfortable if the baby looked just like him. Even though he would not have any legal rights.

I am hoping we can at least do hormones or IVF so I can have twins. I think it would be easier for two kids to go through having two Moms, especially in South Dakota.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

Hi, date twin! ๐Ÿ™‚ We probably will start researching early next year. We’d both like to have kids, but it’s not something we would be devastated about if we decided not to. However, I’m getting older (I would carry), and I’ve kind of hit the end of my career unless I want to bust my ass for 10 more years. So the timing would be good as far as us being in a set spot financially and not having the ability to wait much longer (unless we want to be 60 when our kid are teens). I already know general costs since we have friends who just went through it (and are now going through it again). Unfortunately our insurance doesn’t cover fertility.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We aren’t planning on having kids for at least five years (trying to get our financial ducks in a row first) but I am very interested in hearing about others’ processes. I will be carrying both children and we will be getting a sperm donor, hopefully the same one for both kids.

@bellagio, how much did your friends end up spending, if you don’t mind sharing?

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hi ladies,

I’m not a lesbian, but I’m a medical student (future ob/gyn) and I’m currently rotating in a reproductive endocrinology and infertility clinic. We have tons of lesbians as our patients. It seems like most people use anonymous donor sperm and intrauterine insemination. Even this can be fairly expensive because the semen has to be prepared, tested for infectious diseases, and stored until you’re ready to use it. Hopefully your insurance covers it.

I also have some friends of friends who (I think) paid someone they know for a 6 month supply of sperm and got pregnant on their own at home. I’m not really sure about the details.

Good luck!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

im so lucky because my incurance covers over 90 percent of everything except for the sperm. we plan on going through cyrobank . they will ship out the sperm to your doctors office. its about 700 a bit less depending on the sperm per try. 

Post # 10
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134 posts
Blushing bee

Over the course of a year I underwent 6 IUI’s with Clomid, Metformin, and HCG trigger. This was 2009-2010. I had 2 miscarriages during this time. 1 month after my last miscarriage I found out I got into a diagnostic medical ultrasound program. At that point we stopped TTC because I was in for 3 years of year round school. 2 semesters in the fibromyalgia I had been diagnosed with years before flared up so bad I had to take a medical leave of abscence from work and school. I’m still on leave from school until Fall 2012. So, until I graduate we are in a holding pattern and that sucks. I’m 35 and my partner is 45. If we aren’t successful by the time I’m 40 we are giving up and moving on the adoption. I’m kinda doubtful all this will work out for us giving my age, my polycystic ovarian syndrome, my endometriosis. Also, because of my fibro I’m currently taking Oxycontin daily so I will have to stop taking that prior to TTC again.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

My friends went through cryobank.com and had their clinic do the inseminations while my friend was also taking fertility drugs (she ended up with twins). She said it was a few thousand (I think somewhere around $1-$2K) per insemination basically. It took her 6 tries to get pregnant. That was last year. Her partner decided to carry this year, and got pregnant on the first go-around, so hers was cheaper but she’s only carrying one. ๐Ÿ™‚

They always joke that they can talk about the moment of conception with anyone because it was a medical procedure. ๐Ÿ˜›

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