Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club
Hey Hive, just a quick question: are there any other long engagement brides out there?
We’re about 6 months through a 2.5 year engagement. It was originally a 1.5 year engagement, but we’ll be getting married after school (I graduate this coming may and originally, we’d be married a year after), and the mister decided to go an extra year to double major, which is great, but it’ll take him an extra year so we had to add a year onto our date.
So when we were at the 1.5 yr engagement we looked at reception venues because most book up here between 1 year and 1.5 yrs, and we found the PERFECT place. We’ll definitely book it when time gets closer, and we’re definitely getting married in my home town church.
So, with such a long engagement, what can you do/plan the rest of the time? Sure, we know the venue, but what else can I plan for? I feel like it seems too early when the wedding is a little over 2 years away.
Also, how do you pass the time? Is it hard for anyone else when the found the person they want to be with, and just can’t wait for it to happen?
Thanks Hive 🙂
Post # 3
I totally feel you there. I am not as long as you are, only 1.5, but I’m aching for something to do. Since we are having our wedding on 7.3.2010, we’ve already reserved our venue, but everything else is on hold until June.
I’ve been focusing on bonding activities with the wedding party and seaching for the best deals. I’d like to DIY a lot of things, so I’m taking time out now to try things.
Mostly, I’m wishing that the wedding was this summer, but trying to remind myself that the extra time will be worth it!
Post # 4
My engagement was 2 years and 2 months and now my wedding is around the corner! Think of the time as a buffer in case you change your mind about a wedding decision like decor etc. I liked it so I wouldn’t stress out but of course I still did and still am! I know it is hard when all you want to do it get married already. But you have time to find bargains, to find the perfect shoes, etc. For me I could research flowers I really liked when I didn’t know anything about flowers. I got to diy my ring nest instead of buy it, FIgure out what music selections I wanted and what dj’s I wanted to call when the time came. etc. Ask friends for their referrals for vendors. One biggy was I had time to wait for trunk shows for dresses to come around and make appt.’s for them since I was in no rush. It is up to you what you do with the time but I would use it to your advantage and do what planning you can during your long engagement. I promise one day your wedding will be around the corner and you will be happy you had that extra planning time!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony: Catholic Church, Reception: Hotel Ballroom
We have a long engagement — 19 months. We did it primarily so that we could pay for things as we went along so we wouldn’t go into debt to pay for the wedding, and so far it’s working out really well. We have our church and reception venues, and we’re just about to book our photographer.
I think that it’s going to be hard to wait until next June to roll around, but I like knowing that I have time to figure out exactly what I want for invites, flowers, colors, etc.
Sometimes the waiting is harder — for example, last night we went to a jewelery store "just to look" at wedding bands. My Fiance found something he loved, and I found something that is absolutely perfect to fit with my e-ring. If we decide to go with them, we’ll have a lot of time to pay for them, but now I just want those rings on my finger!
Post # 6
I’ve been engaged since April of last year, and we originally planned our date for summer of 2009. Due to the economy and not being able to find a full time job post college, we have to push it back another year to the summer of 2010. It can be frustrating at times. I blame myself for needing to push back the date. Right now all I want to do is elope and not deal with the stress of answering the question, "Did you set a date yet?"
In the mean time I’m trying to figure out the details of my wedding and always looking for inspiration from weddingbee. The extra time lets me soak in all the elements of the wedding that I might not have time for otherwise.
Post # 7
i was engaged 1 month short of 3 years ( do i win?!) I didnt book anything till probably about 6 months out, so I had alot of free time. I spent it all planning, getting ideas of things I liked, didnt like, etc. You also have time to save money too for the wedding. One great thing to do to pass the time is get organized. Cause one the time arrives taht you can actually do stuff, you will be ahead of the game and hit the ground running. Research florists, bakers, etc.. you dont need to meet with them in person yet, but you can see what you liked and dont from the vendors.
I actaully think the long engagement was a good thing in the end. I was way less stressed.
Post # 8
another 19monther here. We’re going to look at the venue this weekend, and I already contacted the photographer. lol. The hardest thing for me is that after participating in my sister’s wedding planning and a close friend’s, I already know most of the vendors I want to use. But, we’re spending these 19 months saving and saving some more and I’m spending a lot of time researching and thinking and perfecting all my ideas. I actually make a lot of big decisions that way….starting the thinking process early enough that when it comes time to make the final decision it is perfect!
Post # 9
Wow! 2.5 years is a really long time. My fiance and I got engaged in June of ’08 and won’t be married until January or April of ’10. It’s been a long time, but we’re enjoying being engaged. It’s a nice phase to be in, I think.
It does make it harder to plan, but we’ve been using the time to save money, reserve vendors, and decide on the details (as well as DIY! It’s so much easier to do that when you have a long time!).
Post # 10
My fiance and I got engaged Oct. of ’08 but we are not getting married until November of 2010. As others have already mentioned, we are trying to pay for the wedding ourselves so we are paying for things in increments so that we would not need to go in debt.
I love having all the extra time to plan too. We already have our minister booked so we’ve been checking out reception sites and making sure it is one of the few things we book first. I feel less stressed knowing that we can take things in baby steps rather than running to the finish line.
We are making our own invitations and save the dates and just enjoying our time being engaged. My fiance and I have been dating since high school and we’ve been together 9 years prior to getting engaged. Therefore, waiting two more years to get married wasn’t that big of a deal for us.
Post # 11
27-monther, here. 😛 We’ll be getting married in early August 2010 due to Mr. Spin finishing up school. I haven’t booked anyone yet, I’ve really just been using the time to get ideas, figure out what I like/don’t like, talking to my recently married friends and see what they would have done different, and start planning my DIY projects. Just by looking at websites I’ve ruled out some vendors due to price or their end product, so that helps. 🙂
We’re planning on settling on a reception site in the next couple weeks and after that we’ll get down to the nitty gritty of the rest of the vendors. I think a long engagement can help give you time to negotiate (or lock in 2009 prices for a 2010 wedding even!) for a better deal.
Post # 12
23 month engagement here… we’re waiting until after I finish law school and get past the bar exam before we get married. We just figured it would be a lot easier (and a lot less stressful on me) than trying to rush from an October 08 engagement to planning a wedding during law school and getting married the following summer.
There are definitely some moments when I wish it was a shorter amount of time… but it’s given me a lot of moments to look around, take my time on making my decisions, and getting what I really want, not just what’s available. And I’ve definitely gotten to do some DIY already and I’m glad I have a year and a half left to plan and do any other projects I want to.
I watched two of my friends who are also in law school work on planning their weddings for last summer and there was a lot of stress involved because of everything (job hunting, school work, wedding planning) having to be done at once. I just needed to be able to take my time and move at a slower pace… I didn’t want to be overly stressed right before our wedding.
Post # 13
28 month engagement here…kinda crazy, but my Fiance and I wanted to wait till he was out of school and we are also paying for most of the wedding ourselves so we need time to save up some money.
Although it is hard to wait so long, i must say that it is really nice to really think about your decisions and to have no pressure or stress of time. this summer we will start looking at reception venues and go from there. we are also planning in Pittsburgh (where my Fiance in school) for a Chicago wedding and i couldn’t imagine how stressed out i’d be if i was in a time crunch!!
enjoy our long engagements ladies!
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
We’re drawing to a close on a 20+ month engagement. We jumped in almost immediately to nail down as much of the "big" stuff as possible, then took a break to enjoy LIFE apart from wedding planning, and now, we’re back in the thick of things!
I loved that we were able to secure cheaper rates for some vendors, and get our first pick for them as well! (not that I’m competitive or anything).
Post # 15
Hhaha Miss bruchetta ! I’m totally the same way on getting things done early.
We will have a 20 month engagement, we’re about 11 in and 9 to go … We really enjoyed our first year engaged just doing things piece by piece and now as we are getting closer we are starting to get really really excited!
Post # 16
Wow I just realized we have been engaged for over 2 years, in fact it will be 3 years this August. He had to finish his masters thesis and then find a job, then I lost my job and had to find a new job and now here we are barely even thinking of planning a wedding. It’s crazy how fast time flies by! I guess when I start to think about it, it’s not really a big deal in the grand scheme because we’re going to be together for the rest of our lives so we’re not in a hurry. I get a lot of comments from friends like "are you EVER going to have a wedding?" etc., and I just threaten them with eloping and they hush up.
Personally I like not having to be rushed…we’re just taking a really laid back approach to all of it. Not in a hurry, just enjoying life and relaxing 🙂