- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2015
I’ve been a regular poster here for several months now, going anonymous on this for obvious reasons!
Before I go any further, I want to make it clear that I am not complaining or worried about this, just want to know if there are other couples like us, out of curiosity.
I’ve been with my husband for a few years, been married for several months now. Even before we were married, we didn’t have a lot of sex. Not for religious reasons, we are both non-religious. We were dating for 5 months before we slept together for the first time (neither of us were virgins), and from then on, we’ve only had sex maybe 1-3 times a month, even when living together. It hasn’t changed since we’ve been married, and I never expected it would. We can both go a few weeks without sex and it doesn’t bother us at all. My husband is very attractive, and he also finds me attractive. But when it comes to sex, we can take it or leave it. And yes, he feels the same way I do, we communicate very openly. And no, neither of us are gay. I am in my 20’s and my husband is in his 30’s, so we’re young. All that being said, we LOVE being together! We laugh like crazy, hold hands, watch movies all snuggled up together, kiss, hug, all the “normal” stuff, we’re just not big into sex. I wouldn’t exactly say we’re asexual, because we do get hot for eachother and the sex we do have is great. I don’t really think about sex very often, to be perfectly honest. And a lot of men like looking at scantily clad women, but my husband doesn’t. He thinks things like Hooters and Twin Peaks are just stupid, and girls like that are morons (no offense, if it applies, it’s just how he is and I’m fine with it). I’d say he’s a “brains over boobs” guy lol. There are certain things he likes in women, like long dark hair, fair skin, etc, so he does find certain things attractive. We both look forward to starting a family very much. I know the general consensus is that this isn’t “normal” for young married couples, but strange as it may be to others, we are very happy in our relationship and neither one of us has a desire to change it.
And by no means, I’m not knocking people who want a lot of sex! It’s biology and it’s natural, I get it. I just know we’re probably kind of different, and was wondering if anyone else is like this, and happy like we are.