(Closed) any other Military Wives or Wives-to-be out there?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I can relate ๐Ÿ™‚ My boyfriend is going to Navy Bootcamp on Sep 18th. Only a few more weeks with him and sometime between now and then he’ll be proposing O_O It’s going to suck because we’ve been together since we were high school (went to same college/lived together. I’m 25, he’s 24) so this is the first time he’ll be away for an extended period of time. I’m also going to be planning most of the wedding myself and I only get to communicate via snail mail ๐Ÿ™

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@OhwhataJenn:  Yes, it’s not easy when they’re deployed. My fiancée was gone for 5 months up until last week when he came home for a class for two weeks. He leaves again the first of September and won’t be back until right before Christmas. It’s been very difficult for me to handle. Luckily, he’s in the reserve, so he hopefully won’t ever deploy overseas again. My best advice to you would be to stay busy, and utilize your support system. My support system is family and friends. If you don’t live too far away from the base I’d try to connect with other fiancees/wives, as well. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Darling Husband is deployed right now.  It sucks, but you adjust.  You create a support system with fellow wives.  Fortunately for you, while he is at boot camp, you will still be living close to your family (I assume anyways.)  That’ll be good for you.  Remember to support him and build him up.  Write him letters everyday.  He will need those to get through the days.  You’ll be surprised by how much you will need his letters as well.  

Best of luck to you!  

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My guy is leaving for Korea in April; he’s Army. We’re getting engaged this year, but then he’ll be gone for a year while I’m here planning the wedding.

It helps that I’ve lived in Korea before, but going without seeing him for so long sucks balls.

So yeah, I completely understand.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@OhwhataJenn:  Been there done that…still doing it lol. My Fiance is still in tech school for the AF (been there since april)…the first 2weeks of BMT was pretty sucky for me at night…i cried every night for a week straight ๐Ÿ™ until I finally recieved the first phone call from him. You may or may not heard but once you get his address WRITE him EVERYDAY! it made me feel better because it was like writing in a journal/texting him without getting a response lol. after the 3rd week it literally flies by. Also if your on FB join his TRS/FLT group found on the WingMom page, but you won’t find that out until the first call. It helped talking to the other gf/wives of the group, I even asked if he had any close friends there and I checked to see if they we’re on the grp page and they were! So it was fun texting each other what the other said in a letter and vice versa. Keep yourself busy and stay positive. If you have anymore questions you can PM ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@OhwhataJenn:  You will get through it!  I promise ๐Ÿ™‚  In terms of the military, 5 months is a blink of the eye.  Get involved, stay busy, and don’t dwell on the time apart. 

Whenever I started to miss Darling Husband when we were apart, I would write letters to him.  It helped when I couldn’t pick up the phone and call him.  Sometimes I would end up sending him numerous letters in the same envelope.  He loved it!

Looking back, I really regret how I  handled our time apart.  I literally crawled into a deep dark hole and did not come out for months…(It was 10 months before we saw eachother after our wedding).  Please do not do that to yourself!  I really wish I had spent more time hanging out with friends/finishing up projects, etc…

And surround yourself with positive people!  That made a world of difference for me!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@JsDragonfly:  This is really great advice.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My Fiance is at Navy BMT now. It’s extremely hard and I’m sure you understand at this point. We are getting married the day after Thanksgiving this year while he is in “A” school. He can actually get leave since there won’t be school that weekend. I hope your wedding and everything worked out for you!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

My fiance is in the National Guard. That 5 months will go by fast at some points and agonizingly slow at others. Just make sure you have a strong support system and know before hand how you will be able to communicate with him. The military life is a totally different beast than civilian life, but it is worth it to be with the one you love!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Pavilion at Rocky Neck State Park

my husband is in the active army and I understand your pain. He was gone for 4 months for basic/infantry training and just got home in April from deployment. I had to plan the wedding all by myself along with choosing and buying our furniture for our rental. Thankfully my parents helped me move about 1100 miles to KY 2 weeks before he got home!

Best advice I have: write him as often as you can and if you guys do talk on the phone, cut him some slack if he sounds distance or is cutting everything short. They typically have very limited time to talk.

 

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