Post # 1
i know my wedding is months away but its been on my mind. are there any other options then a sweetheart table and a head table (wedding party table)?
the last wedding i went to i was kinda put off by the fact that my friend who was a Bridesmaid or Best Man had to leave her boyfriend at one of the other tables (sadly it was the “left over table” and he didnt know anyone at the wedding) cause she had to sit at the head table…she was going back and forth and back and forth. i thought if this was me i wouldnt be enjoying myself. and as a bride i want to see my girls happy with their SO’s so i really dont want to split couples up and have them bound to my table. also i would possibly like to sit with others not just the bridal party. but i also realized that having a head table is good so we dont have to deal with awkward family conversations (which is common for us), and you can hang with your closest friends and have a good time.
and to me the sweetheart table is nice and it helps you have time to be with your new husband. but we both hate to be center of attention and dont want all eyes on us or to have guest rush up to us while singled out.
ive seen like long dinner tables and thought this might be nice but dont know if it would work cause i dont have a reception place yet and dont know layouts.
are there any other options out there? are there any other pros and cons to different table types?
Post # 3
we’re doing a big head table but not l-o-n-g. its going to be more like a grand dining room table in the middle of our reception. i have 14 people (including us and bridal party SO’s) so it might be 4 tables smooched together, but similiar to this image:
Post # 4
We didn’t do either. We sat with our parents and the priest. Everyone else was seated at regular tables, with either their family members, other members of the bridal party or guests they knew. There is no need to make people uncomfortable by separating them from their significant others, etc.
Post # 5
We were considering sitting with our bridal party and their SO’s, but the SOs all know other people at the wedding pretty much so they will be fine!
Post # 6
We’re sitting at a regular ole’ round banquet table with both sets of parents and FI’s brother (best man) and SIL. I looooath head tables and sweetheart tables just aren’t for us (I want to be able to get my eat on without being stared at).
I love the choice we’ve made. It’s giving us a chance to spend extra time with those who mean the most to us and our Bridal Party gets to sit with their SO’s at the next table over. Win, win if you ask me.
Post # 7
I have also seen the couple sit at a table with their parents and grandparents, the wedding party at a table of their own with their SO’s, and the guests seated at the other tables.
Post # 8
I suppose it depends on your room and the layout. We hand a long table where my husband, myself and our immediate families (8 people total).
I had originally wanted a king table with my 3 bm’s and his 3 gm’s but then there was the dilemma about splitting couple vs. not splitting couples, it just got messy and we condensed it to our immediate family.
We also had 3 additional vacant seats on the round guests tables for my parents and sister so they could sit with my sis’ fiance and my side of the family, however, with our wedding being a buffet style dinner with tables centered around the dance floor, people were only sitting for the first hour or so for the dances and speeches.
We had a “diamond” shaped dance floor… just a square dance floor made fancy, then two buffet tables set up near the doors, 24 round guest tables with a long rectangular table without a riser back of the room. We then had the DJ and video screen on one side and the cake table on the other. This layout worked really well for our performances and speeches and buffet style dinner finished off with lots of dancing!
Post # 9
Personally, I will probably go with the traditional head table. However, I was recently at a wedding where a member of the wedding party was seated at each table (it was a smallish wedding). For some reason, I actually really enjoyed this and felt much more included and a part of the wedding because a guest of honor was sitting with us!
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
We just sat at a normal table with guests (it ended up being the Maid/Matron of Honor and her boyfriend, Bridesmaid or Best Man and his girlfriend, and a few other attendants… the rest were split at a few tables that they “hosted” with their dates). It felt like it worked out really well, because we didn’t want to be the absolute center of attention while we were eating. 😉
Post # 11
I said other. First off, I don’t think there’s any one “best” way of doing it. But the one thing I HATE is when significant others get stuck at tables where they don’t know anyone because the head table doesn’t include significant others.
Most of the weddings I’ve been to (that have had assigned seating and wedding parties) have had head tables (or a table just like any other, but with the bride and groom) that include wedding party and significant others. The most recent wedding I went to, they couldn’t fit everyone at one table, so they did a table with bride & groom, Maid/Matron of Honor + her fiance, and Best Man + his girlfriend (it was kind of extra fitting because all three guys at the table had the same first name).
We’re doing a sweetheart table, because we want a little time with just ourselves, though the one thing I would not consider is the head table no SO’s (excepting situations where the SO’s ALL have friends at the wedding). I’ve just heard too many stories of SO’s feeling really left out, lonely, and unwelcome.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We’re having a small wedding, and we will be seated in the middle of 1 loooong table with all of our guests. We wanted to be surrounded by our favorite people, not set apart from them.
Post # 13
I sat at a head table for my sister’s wedding and hated it because I only knew the person to one side of me, couldn’t talk to anyone else, and was on display. I decided then I’d never have one. We’ll either have a sweetheart or sit with some of the bridal party (and their guests – I’m not going to make the spouses/partners sit away from each other).
ETA: I have heard that it can be most courteous to have a sweetheart table because you’ll be greeting guests and away from your table at lot (thus leaving those at the table to speak round empty places.
Post # 14
At my son’s wedding, he and his bride sat with both sets of parents and my son’s first nanny. (She worked for us from when he was born to when he was 6.)
Post # 15
We might have one regular-sized round table where we and our 4 parents all sit, and then let our bridal party sit with their SO’s at 2 other tables.
Post # 16
We just had a traditional head table with the bridal party, but all of the SO of our party knew other people at the wedding so it wasn’t an issue accommodating them.
One idea that I loved, but my mom nixed, was having the bride and groom sit with their parents and siblings at the head table and having the rest of the bridal party scattered at normal tables, seated with their friend groups. I think this only really works if you don’t have a million siblings and if your siblings don’t have a bunch of kids of their own, otherwise, you’d be looking at an awfully large table, but it is just a suggestion. A British wedding I went to did this and it was lovely.