(Closed) Any other professionals want to be a SAHM?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

So I don’t have the best paying job in the world, but it does pay nicely. However, being a Stay-At-Home Mom is the only job I dreamed about doing since I was little. It’s not like I had a Stay-At-Home Mom or even knew one, but it’s what I’ve always wanted to do. I’ve always told people that being a Stay-At-Home Mom is like being a rockstar. It can be a dream, but you’ve got to have a back-up plan. It looks like you can save and plan to be one perfectly. I see nothing wrong with that.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t make huge money, but I make enough that even after daycare it would be a decent chunk of change to go without. I don’t think being a Stay-At-Home Mom would really ever be feasible financially. I mean, it could, but not without a dramatic change in lifestyle that husband would never go for, and I probably wouldn’t like it either.

I don’t think being a Stay-At-Home Mom would be for me though. Granted, I have no children yet, so maybe when he or she is born I won’t want to leave them, but as of right now, I feel like even though I don’t have the greatest job or the highest salary I have had to really claw my way just to get where I am, and would hate to have to start all over.

During a very brief period, my mom was a Stay-At-Home Mom while she was finishing school. It lasted about a year, and I was in kindergarten. Other than that, both my parents always worked full time. She always says the grass was greener- when she was working, she wished she was at home, and when she stayed home, she wished she was working. It’s a really tough decision that’s different for everyone.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t want to be a Stay-At-Home Mom but I would like to be a WPTM (works part time mom– totally just made that up lol). The idea of trying to work 50 hrs/week + spend enough time with kids + keep my house clean + maintain a good relationship with my husband exhausts me. And we’re not TTC for like at least 4 years lol. I feel like I could be a better wife, mother, lawyer, everything if I was able to reduce my hours and only work maybe 20-30 hours/week. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with CorgiTales, I wouldn’t mind working part time (I know plenty of other lawyer moms who do this), but staying home all the time would probably make me go crazy.  And working all the time would probably make me go crazy.  Hopefully I’ll find a place that lets me to part time work.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@sparks: exactly. I feel like I would need to work at least some to get that adult interaction and sense of identity outside of “mommy.” (not to bash those who want to be SAHMs, but identity is a big worry for me). But working full time would be exhausting.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@roxy821: Do you enjoy your job? Can you live on just your husbands salary? Does he support the decision?

It’s totally a personal choice. I think the some women chose to be Stay-At-Home Mom is because they don’t make any money after paying for childcare (and since there’s still a pay gap between men and women – it seems like the women are usually making less). Others don’t want their children to be raised in the daycare environment. Both are good reasons.

I’m trying to be a work from home mom for both the reasons I mentioned. I think so long as you and your husband are in agreement that’s the main thing. I know if my husband made less than me or had the flexibility that my job does then he’d be cool with working from home and taking care of kids.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@roxy821: I think based on what you said (your husband supporting it, your desire to be home with your children) it’s the best decision for you. I grew up with a Stay-At-Home Mom and it was great, plus like you said, if you’re working you’re missing out on things – so I see the benefits if it’s financially possible.

PLUS, you’re always allowed to change your mind. If you decide you want to go back to work later you can do that (so don’t feel like it’s a final decision for you).

No definite answer for my job yet – but fingers crossed I’ll get good news!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I want to be a WPTM! (thanks for the name CorgiTales)  I think it is the best of both worlds for me. I can’t imagine working full-time and trying to spend enough time with a child, plus clean, cook, etc. But I also can’t imagine being home all the time. I would miss the adult interaction and feeling of accomplisment that I get from working and earning a paycheck. I think too much of a good thing can be bad and I feel that I’ll need space from the baby, at least a few hours a day or so. I will most likely work from home a few days a week and work in the office a few days a week. (But not full days while at home)

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I def want to be a WPTM. 

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