Any other roles for a female friend???

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@yellowlace:

I’ve asked my best friend from college to marry us.  She was able to become ordained online in about 15 minutes.  If you’re not having a religious ceremony it might be a good way to include her.  My friend was extreamly honored to be asked.  The rest of our bridal party seems to fit like yours, frineds from home and family.  It helps that my Fiance and her husband have become close friends so she was a mutual pick for both of us.  I also have a bridesmaid who is walking down the aisle with her son who will be the ring bearer so that my Fiance did not have to pick another groomsman.  I agree with you about the guestbook offer not really feeling like a good post for a good friend. 

Hope this helps!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just because someone is special to you, doesn’t mean they have to be a bridesmaid. Have her help out, attend stuff, help set up, help you get ready, and all the other behind-the-scenes stuff without being a bridesmaid.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I like the suggestions of honouring her in a non-role related way.  Maybe you could include her in a toast, or have her get ready with you, or attend a trip to the nail salon.

I am strenuously against B-list jobs as a way to “honour” someone. Someone asking me to be a personal assistant is not an honour, but an unpaid, labourer. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have three special ladies that did not make the Bridesmaid or Best Man cut, not because I like them any less but because we became really close after the wedding planning began. Two of them will be my ushers and the other will be reading a blessing during the ceremony.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have my house party girls. I have 4. I really just wanted them there for everything, one is reading scripture, one is singing, and the others are in charge of guestbook and programs.

If you have someone you want there it is EASY to find jobs for them. I have been house party in a few of my friends weddings and it just feels special to be there through all of it.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m in a similar boat. I’m only having 4 bridesmaids (my sister and 3 close friends), but I have a few other dear friends that I’d love to include in the wedding day as well. 

We’re having one friend officiate and a couple others do readings during the ceremony. 

I’m also having another friend who is super stylish help me with my fashion decisions (as much as I try, I just do not have a good eye for fashion!). She’s even doing my makeup the day of. It’s awesome because she’s SUPER into it, which helps me stay excited as well. I’m planning on including her in the program (if we have one) as “fashion guru” or something similar. At the very least, I’ll mention her in my thank yous during the rehearsal dinner. 

Is there anything that your friend is particularly good at? Fashion? Crafts? Thinking of thoughtful gifts? I think even including her in the day-to-day wedding decisions will make her feel special (for example, if she’s crafty, ask her to help you pick out invitations?). That, plus a brief, public thank you will probably be enough to make her feel valued as a friend. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Our flower girl will be very young (11 months), so I asked a friend who I used to be close with and have only recently gotten close to again (after bridesmaids were picked) to be a flower girl attendant. Since my flower girl is really too young to be in the ceremony, my friend will be the sort of flower girl. (If my niece is in a good mood, she can carry her down the aisle and hand her off to her daddy. Otherwise, my niece will just be in the pictures.) My friend will have a different but matching dress. I’d really like to come up with a cooler name than flower girl attendant, so if anyone has any ideas on that I’m all ears. 

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