Post # 1
We are having a Sunday wedding because all the Saturdays were booked at our venue. But now, I am having a heavy dose of guilt. If our wedding was on Saturday, OOTpeople could have traveled after work on Friday and returned home on Sunday. But since out wedding is Sunday afternoon-night, that kinda forces people to take Monday off. I feel bad.
Am I the only Sunday bride feeling like this?
Post # 3
I feel a little bit of that, but mostly not. Most of our Out of Town guests are coming from across the country, so they would’ve had to take Friday off anyway for travel. Plus, if we’d had our wedding on a Saturday, people would’ve had to take Friday off for our rehearsal luncheon.
On the bright side, this limits the number of people who can attend.
Post # 4
Please don’t feel bad. I was almost a Sunday bride (at one of the venues we were looking at it would have saved us $3,000) and there was a post on the board flat out attacking Sunday brides. I felt awful, but in retrospect, it’s not a big deal. Many professions work hours other than 9-5 M-F, and those people would have to request off no matter what. Many brides make decisions like having a destination wedding, etc, that means guests have to make special arrangements.
The only thing I’d be prepared for is that some guests may not party as hard or stay as long. But FSIL’s wedding was on a Sunday afternoon, and people stayed at her reception until 10:30 or so.
Post # 5
We’re having our wedding on a THURSDAY evening! =/ Granted, we’re having a tiny wedding, but our (few) Out of Town guests have actually been really grateful to have the excuse for time off, and because we’re right around DC, most are taking advantage of the weekend to do some sightseeing.
I could definitely see feeling guilty if I had more Out of Town guests – but don’t allow yourself to! The most important people would be there regardless of the day, or circumstance, and will not fault you for trying to save money, or have the wedding venue you wanted!
Post # 6
I’m having a Sunday wedding, and while I felt this at first…I also knew that doing a Sunday wedding allowed for a bigger, better party for our guests. I feel like it’s a trade off, but one that’s well worth it – we wouldn’t be able to have the food, entertainment, drinks, etc that we have now if we had a Saturday wedding. Either way, people will be there to celebrate with you, and I don’t think anyone will be sitting around pouting about how they had to come to a Sunday wedding. Enjoy your day!
Post # 7
I have never felt guilty about my Sunday wedding. Maybe this is because I am getting married on a holiday weekend, but more so I figure the people who want to be there, will be there to celebrate with us and won’t see it as a burden.
Also, my Mother’s side of the family is Jewish so I am pretty used to Jewish weddings which are often held on Sundays.
So my advice is don’t feel bad! Your guests will figure out how to be in attendance.
Post # 8
I am sorry you’re feeling guilty. Try not to think about it too much – like some of the other gals have said, if your wedding was on Sat they may have taken that Friday off – you just don’t know.Its your guys’ day and in the long run regardless of what day its on you would hear pros and cons of each. Enjoy your planning and let this pass, chin up girl!
We’re getting married on a Sunday – we’re Jewish and there was never a question that it would be on Sat after sunset. All of our friends/family have known for months. We sent our STD’s out two weeks ago giving them 8 months to plan ahead. FH and I have taken redeye flights and a Friday off for the past 2 yrs to attend our friends’ weddings. We don’t feel guilty one bit that they have to take Monday off, haahaahaa
Post # 9
I’m a Sunday gal and I don’t feel bad… we definitely considered all the options but this is why we went down this route…
- Traditionally christian weddings were held on Sundays to corespond with church (this is just one of our justifications if people complain haha though we’re having a non-denomonational ceremony haha)
- Most Out of Town people would have had to take off Friday anyway so this way they are taking Monday instead
- It’s cheaper!!! We got much more bang for our buck– able to use that money on more imporant wedding things
- We’re doing a rehearsal BBQ/Wiffle ball game and Friday wouldnt have worked so we have all of saturday afternoon to do it!
- IT’S ONE DAY! Guests can take the day if they really want to be there and celebrate with you– that’s what vacation and personal days are for and when giving them plenty of advance notice, they can definitely plan for it
- Also the place for our ceremony is the school I grew up going to and there are games on Saturday afternoons and I didn’t want buses and students all around while we were having our ceremony
Sorry if any of this sounds insensitive to our guests but this is your wedding and at the end of the day you have to do what works best for you! 🙂 Definitely don’t feel guilty! You obviously chose it for a good reason!
Post # 10
As a Sunday Bride myself, my thoughts echo many of the others have been posting. People will make arrangments for your wedding. Whenever, whatever, because it is important that they share this special day and moment with you. While work is important to us all (hey bills still need to get paid!) I’d like to think that my relationships with my family and friends merit a day off, if needed, in order to celebrate.
Also, you could consider pushing the start time earlier and having the reception end by 10, giving (at least some) people the option to work the next day.
Hope this helps. YAY Sundays!
Post # 11
i got married last sunday, and i loved my sunday wedding! i wanted a small wedding, and having it on a sunday helped that. i know that we love our weddings, but people live for their weekends, and to have to go to a sat. wedding can kind of take up their whole weekend, so it’s kind of nice to have it on a sunday afternoon or morning.
Post # 12
I’m an Out of Town guest attending two Sunday weddings this year, so I’ll give you my perspective.
The May wedding is for a modern Orthodox ceremony. That doesn’t bug me in the least bit because it would be so hard for her to get married on a Saturday, because of the Sabbath. She has a really good reason, so it isn’t a problem.
The other Sunday wedding is for my work besty (she is getting married back home in the South). Her mom wanted her to marry on 10-10-10, so it is a Sunday. I’ll be honest that I’m a little miffed, though not at her, she is having a big old Indian wedding with all of the parental crazy and control. Either way I would have missed a day of work, but Fridays are so much easier to miss than Mondays. On the other hand, it isn’t that big of a deal. Do I think it is a little inconvenient? Yes. Will I still go and have a great time? Yes. Will she ever hear a negative word from me about it? Heck no.
EDIT: btw, I think any miffed feelings can be lessened by any little gesture that makes the trip more convenient. One of the Bees said she is having a BBQ on Saturday? That seems like a great idea.
Post # 13
Ooh, last thing. My Maid/Matron of Honor is going to a wedding this summer that is a Monday night wedding. And the couple are transplants, so most guests are Out of Town. If a Sunday wedding is slightly inconvenient, it isn’t a Monday wedding at least!
Post # 14
Oooo I was going to add doing Out of Town gift bags will totally make your Out of Town guests forget any negative feelings… how can you stay annoyed when the bride and groom has gone out of their way to make you feel comfortable and welcome! 🙂
Post # 15
Our wedding is on a Sunday, and I have had very few guilty thoughts about it. I figured that anybody who really wants to be there will be there no matter what day of the week we hold it. The important part to us is to have our families and closest friends there with us, which I know we will.
We could have had a Saturday wedding, if we had waited 4 more months and did it at the most miserable time of year in AZ – August. I think our guests will be happy we didn’t go that route, and we are happy that we aren’t waiting 4 additional months!
Post # 16
I was almost a Sunday bride because originally we were planning to get married on 10-10-10! For about 3 months of our engagement thats what I was planning for and I understand what you are saying about being more inconvenient, but it didnt bother me too much. I think no matter when and where you have your wedding it is always going to be inconvenient for at least some people and thats okay! Either people will have to take time off work or travel really far or pay a lot for a hotel room or figure out what to do with the kids – you cannot please everyone! As long as you are happy and those that are closest to you will be there then thats all that matters!