(Closed) Any other Sunday brides feeling guilty?

posted 11 years ago in Logistics
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m a Sunday bride AND I’m a Friday bride as well.  Our weddings will take up the WHOLE weekend & some guests have to take off Thursday thru Monday.  But with all we’re doing for our guests, I’m not feeling the least bit guilty. And you already have so much on your plate, stressing over a decision already made isn’t going to help.

First, while you invite your guests, guests have the final say in whether they are coming for ALL the events or not.  You just have to be understanding that if your wedding is inconvenient for them, they won’t attend what they can’t make.  My own big sister may not be able to make my 2pm Friday ceremony due to work – it’s my own “fault”: the end of the month is SUPER busy for her & I’m having the ceremony during the workday.  But, that’s part of the beauty of having two ceremonies – she’s TOTALLY making it for Sunday.

Second, like a PP said above, make it worthwhile for your guests.  For instance, our wedding weekend is in the summer – perfect for families to make it a mini-vacay.  Our wedding is a “destination” – LA & Anaheim – so there’s a bunch to do here that isn’t wedding related. And our wedding favors are tickets in to Disneyland (Sunday is at the Disneyland Hotel), so we’re giving them “the happiest place on earth” for joining us on our happiest day. Finally, to encourage people to take both Friday & Monday off – we’re having TWO receptions (one on Friday, plus one Sunday) & a “send-off” brunch on Monday. So it’s not like we’re “forcing” them to take off an extra 48 hours for a 6 hour ceremony.  We’re making it an event weekend. 

Third, make it really easy to plan for your wedding. Send out STDs more than 6 months in advance (ours were 9 months), set up an informative wedding website (try creating a “blog” for your website that guests can subscribe to – you don’t have to blog, just let guests know about updates thru subscription) with hotel blocks, things to do, coupons on travel, etc. that your guests can use to make planning easy; send your invites a little early so your guests know the timing & itinerary of your wedding day & can make travel arrangements accordingly.

So enjoy the wedding you’re planning & make it the best day for you & Fiance & a day to remember for your guests.

Note: 80% of our guest list are Out of Town (we’re doing it local for us, both families live elsewhere – mine out of state – & most friends live elsewhere, too)…with our STDs we’ve learned that 95% of our guests are coming.

Post # 18
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I will be a Monday bride – 10am civil ceremony.  About 40 people in attendance, immediate family and close, close friends.  Short ceremony, then on to brunch!  So far, I’ve had nothing but support from the guests on my list as to the choice of weekday.  If we had chosen to do the actual registry office, we definitely would have been restricted to M-F, city hall office hours.

Post # 19
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Helper bee

dont feel guilty! my wedding is on a tuesday and everyone is leaving for the island it is on on the monday… except for some family that own boats.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Our B&G have a Sunday wedding.  All of the oldsters are looking forward to getting a day off on Monday. All of the youngsters live close to the venue.  It will be a family reunion- great day.  Since rehearsal is on a Saturday it makes the whole chain of event very easy for us all.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m getting married on 10-10-10 and I’m not the least bit concerned about the Sunday wedding. Why?

  • The next day is a federal holiday (Columbus Day)
  • My Out of Town guests are my family and couldn’t care less what day I get married on, as long as they can come and share.
  • The date has meaning for FH and I.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m a Memorial Day Monday bride! Am I worried people will not show up or leave early? Yes. Do I feel guilty? No. If it was a friend or relative of mine I wouldn’t think twice about it. It’s just one day off of work, that’s what sick and personal and vacation days are for! Family and friends should be the focus of life, not work. People can afford to miss one day in the office to celebrate and cherish a joyous occation.

Maybe it’s because I was raised in a culture where gatherings and celebrations are an essential part of life, and people have more joie de vivre, that I don’t understand this mentality. One of our invited guests have griped that they have to go to bed too late on a work night because of the reception start time and I was aghast. Why wouldn’t you want to miss couple hours of sleep to party, eat, drink,dance and celebrate with friends for one night?? Are people really that dead inside?

Post # 23
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Newbee

I didn’t even consider a Sunday wedding until I called one venue who suggested Sunday as a way to save a considerable amount of money (the venue is a restaurant). Several of our friends and all of my fiance’s family live in the town where we are getting married (Indianapolis). Only a few of our friends live in Chicago (where we reside) but most of my family and high school friends lives in southern Indiana (3 hours from Indianapolis). I feel bad considering a Sunday wedding since my family and friends would have to travel and take off for the wedding, but I guess I rationalize the possibility of a Sunday wedding it because I’ve taken off work and have traveled for all of my siblings’ weddings and most of my friends’ weddings. I’m not asking anyone to do anything I haven’t done before. Plus, I understand if they just can’t make a Sunday event. And I think as long as you are okay with the fact that some people just might not be able to make it, than I wouldn’t worry.

I would also be curious to hear opinions from anyone who has attended a Sunday wedding.

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t feel guilty AT ALL! Its my day chosen because our 6 year anniversay is August 21 which is a Saturday, but when I realized all the discounts for a Sunday it was not even a question plus our wedding is small and a lot of venues had a minimum requirement of people needed or money you needed to spend on food and beverage.  In the end all we need are us and our two children if no one else shows up its fine with me!

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wouldn’t feel guilty.  I specifically set up my wedding for a Sunday so people could travel on Saturday and then go home on Monday instead of the other way around, but for me it’s Labor Day weekend so that helps. Really, it’s still the same if you got married on Saturday because they’d probably need the whole day of Friday to travel anyway.  I wouldn’t stress on it.  If someone bitches then clearly they don’t need to come if they can’t be happy for you and show.  If they can’t due to work obligations for whatever reason, then bummer, but I wouldn’t feel bad.

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