(Closed) Any other trans brides/grooms/non-binary person-getting-marrieds?

posted 7 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 16
2850 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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No, it means there is more than just male and female. 

Post # 17
33 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

Congratulations. As with the rest of your life, make your own rules and strike your own path. I support you.

  • This reply was modified 7 years ago by katecal.
Post # 19
41 posts

I am not myself, but I am marrying my transgender groom. I also have multiple trans friends, so I’m pretty close to the community. If you need antone to talk to, I know I’m not what you’re looking for, but I’m here ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 20
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I have many friends who have been in this situation. I know it feels like there aren’t a lot of resources out there, but I do hope you check out offbeat bride like the other bees have suggested. <br /><br />

Post # 21
14 posts
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m not (I seem to get girlier every year), but my fiance is in a weird spot with the wedding.  She is biologically female and identifies as such but is not particularly feminine.  We’re looking into having a suit made for her and I found a makeup artist willing to do a “grooming” service (basically skin perfecting and brow taming).  She has groomsmen, I have bridesmaids, though we both consider ourselves brides.  She’ll be waiting for me at the alter and I’ll walk down with my dad (although we don’t actually have an alter – it’s outside).  I’ll be doing a father/daughter dance.  She’s not sure yet – maybe a mother/daughter dance since she’s closer with her mom.  We’ve been putting our names on things instead of “the brides” and we plan to have our officiant pronounce us “married”  not “spouses” or “brides” or “Mrs & Mrs”.  I put fine china on the registry, she put power tools.  Not gonna lie, I really hope we get those power tools.  It’s kind of liberating in a way because we’re mostly making up our own rules.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 22
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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sumshine.dawn:  Just curious, but how do you go by male or female pronouns?

When refering to yourself, unless you’re speaking in the second or third person – singular or plural – (which aren’t usually used when referring to yourself), the pronouns you would use would be; I/me/my/mine/myself, which are gender neutral? Correct me if i’m wrong!

So unless you were to request that people call you by male pronouns one day and female the next would they not call you by the gender you appear to them/the gender they assume you to be? Or am I missing something?

How does it work?

Post # 23
2595 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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RavenDawn32:  I sometimes speak in third person! Or I have days where I tell my closest kin and friends that I am feeling more one way on the other!

Post # 24
34 posts

Hello! I’m Kit. I’m also genderfluid and NB, and my Fiance is a trans man. 

Post # 25
2 posts
  • Wedding: May 2018

Trans guy here! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 26
30 posts
  • Wedding: June 2017

Aww! I know this is a fairly old post, but just wanted to offer support. While I’m pretty androgynous I don’t really identify as non binary, but my SO does. He still doesn’t know if he’s doing a dress or a suit, I think we’re leaning towards a jumpsuit – something quite in between lol. Don’t feel too alone!

Post # 27
6672 posts
Bee Keeper

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MadsTheGallifreyan :  I’m not, but we are all here to advise you! I know I can’t relate exactly but we all here get excited about the details, regardless of gender. Also, I know it’s been posted, but I looked at Offbeat Bride as well because I felt like none of the brides in magazines or stuff were like me, plus size, curly haired with big glasses!! I felt like I was going to look horrible, but I feel fabulous!! 

Sooo, when is the big day? Any ideas for what you would like to wear the day of?? Dress shopping and suit shopping was the most fun part!! 

Post # 28
1847 posts
Buzzing bee

Fiance and I are both genderqueer, but people read us a cis so we have it pretty easy.

We both got our nails done for Epics ๐Ÿ™‚ Do your thing!

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