(Closed) Any other type A brides have a hard time giving up control?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ummm.. I paid $3500 for a wedding planner who has barely done anything because I can’t sit still for one minute! Who wants to wait for her to make a call and get back to me when I can do it myself and get an answer faster??? Biggest spending regret!

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

100%  I was super control freaky about the engagement party….and my Maid/Matron of Honor has allowed me to be a bit controlling regarding showers…..I’ve given her a list of “acceptable games”…LOL…..

I can’t imagine what is going to happen as more wedding planning is happening…..we’re a year out so we need to start stuff, and everytime I tell my Fiance we need to start doing some stuff he’s like “like what?”…I’m going to have to make a list for him….LOL

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m with you ladies! My best friends have been awesome at offering to do things to help out but I just can’t let go. I am pretty picky so I honestly don’t want to rely on anyone else’s taste or opinions even though I’m overwhelmed and am considering a destination wedding. I guess I’ll have it my way or no way at all.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Ms-Lace: Diagrams?! Tell me more!!

I heart all of you. I’m going to take all of your posts very seriously from now on as I can’t wait to learn more OCD ways to make things perfect. 🙂

Post # 21
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Busy bee

I’m usually like that about other things with Fi (who is also type A), but I’m also an Aquarius and it seems that the Aquarius fear of commitment is overriding my type A personality. I actually really don’t know what I want, and don’t really want to plan it. I’d rather just have someone else (not a relative) plan it for me. 

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Um yeah. I’m a paralegal, organization is the biggest part of my job. So it’s not a surprise to anyone that I have a thumb drive of all wedding related info, complete with  multiple sub folders as well as a notebook with every vendor email, invoice, contract, you name it!  I just can’t help it. I’ve gotten so used to being on top of things that I’m pretty much planning my  own bachelorette party! I don’t mind of course because I’m a control freak. 🙂

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

yes, guilty..

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am a control freak and even want to decorate AND set up the day of my wedding because I fear no one will get the vision ‘right”.  I might go to check in but I am relinquishing control of that to my day of helper and crossing my fingers she can handle it.  Otherwise I’ll be up bright and early at the venue making sure things get done right LOL!

As for fi helping.  Yeah, I gave him 2 tasks (find an officiant and a dj).  He has yet to complete either so I took over one of them and partially took over the other.  He doesn’t really care.  The only reason he still has semi control of the other task is because his friend’s brother is a professional dj and we could score a great deal so I wait… but I did call dj’s and have 2 on standby in case.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Well, call me a control freak but I did everything on my own. I mean EVERYTHING! Thats dress shopping, bouquets, favors, decor, you name it, I did it. I had a few offers of help but I ‘fired’ them when things weren’t done to my satisfaction. I think most brides have a little bit of a dictator in there somewhere. No shame here. My day was perfect, thanks to me, lol.

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

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@anchors_away:  omg yea, I am probably her favorite bride. 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am definitely a control freak

My Fiance is the kind of guy where I send him to the store to pick up flowers for a party (mind you they are labeled and said gerber daisys on the bucket!) I got red carnations instead. I learned my lesson.

After that I have pretty much done everything and I don’t mind it really but sometimes it gets over whelming! I let him pick the top tier cake flavor so I don’t feel too bad…lol

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

yup me too. my thinking is if someone else does it they wot do it up to my standards.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m this way with the wedding but moreso with life in general. It the time it could take to describe exactly what needs to be done I can usually do a task myself. Fiance and I have made a deal where, if I need help, I’ll ask him to do it by a certain time or day. That way I’m not waiting to the point I’d do it myself. 

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Guilty as charged. But I know my strenghths and weaknesses and at least can happily delegate things to my fiance when I know he’ll do it better than I can (like, making excel pie charts for our budget) and setting times for us to do things together (tying postcards on the gift bags we’re handing out). I started getting things ready VERY early (I think) for an October wedding, so at least I don’t feel overwhelmed from doing a lot at once. 

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