Post # 1
Im on here as a Bridesmaid or Best Man helping my friend plan her wedding, and as I browse through this site, saving pics of card boxes and bouquets for her, Ifind myself liking certain things and saving pics for me, even though Im not engaged and nowhere close at this point(My SO and I have only been together 2 years, and he is divorces, so I know I have another few years on the waiting list.
any other bees think about who they would have as BMs in the back of their mind, or a theme, or a kind?
OR am I weird? LOL. Im worried that Ive become “wedding obsessed” just because I have a few inspiration boards saved and pics of flowers, and know to a T who would be in the bridal party.
Anyone else to make me feel better for peice of mind
Post # 3
you’re not weird at all! back when I was waiting I planned a lot (mostly in my head), joined wedding websites, looked at dresses, cakes etc 🙂
Post # 4
That’s a good idea! I always wish I would’ve started planning my wedding before I was even engaged. It’s just too overwhelming to start deciding what you like/don’t like. Make your choices now so you know what to do in the future! 🙂
Post # 5
My engaged friend is seriously about to PULL her hair out in her wedding planning, and she is on a serious budget alongside of that, hence why I found and joined this site. And hearing all the drama, made me think “what should you not do”
Friends at work and family members tell me what they wish they did differently all the time. One of my really good friends, who is actually my SO’s friend since high school, is recently divorcing her husband, and she and I have been hanging out to console each other, I have family member in the hospital, and she needs support over that. And she was teling me about her 7 bridesmaids, 4 of them causing so much drama you would think they were children. I am hoping I dont have to deal with half of the crap I hear about on the Bee when I plan my own.
I dont look at things like wedding dresses, cause who knows if that dress would be there 5 years from now.
I feel so bad for alot of the Bees dealing with half of the crazy in laws and Lord knows what else. I pray I dont have to deal with it.
Post # 6
i wish i was a Bridesmaid or Best Man so i could have an excuse to look at wedding stuff lol.
i just do it in secret
Post # 7
@Liss13: i look at and save pictures of dresses, but only because i am planning on making mine (someday), so i want inspiration from serveral places rather than trying to copy one dress. i saw one on this website the other day though, that i am seriously trying to hunt down because it is AMAZING.
like you said, might be a bad idea since tastes/styles/availability change.
Post # 8
I did find this site cause of my friend Ashley(the bride) and have been hooked ever since. And when he caught me looking at a thread of bouquets and bouteniers, you should have seen the red ass face -Busted!
I tried to convince him it was all for Ashley, but he just rolled his eyes. What would I do after next July anyway?
Now he just thinks im “wedding obsessed” and I dont care, what girl isnt? lol
Post # 9
I have some things planned, and over the many years we have been together my bf has had some suggestions and we have swapped ideas. I just thought it would have happened sooner!
We want to have a smallish wedding, and I have a running guest list of people that constantly morphs as people move in and out of my life (you know you’ve been waiting a long time when your prospective guest list only has half of the same people it did originally).
I look at dress sites fairly regularly.
We’ve got a color scheme picked out.
We want our two best friends to be his best man and my man of honor.
I want to have a father-daughter song with my dad either in place of or in addition to a father-daughter dance.
We want to walk down the aisle together…
Wait. We’re planning a wedding. Why aren’t we engaged? *Facepalm*
Post # 10
@buzzyplush: Mine has his best man picked out, and he knows who my Maid/Matron of Honor is, a while back he asked me “Its Laura isnt it?” and I had to respond with “Duh!!!”
I LOVE purple, and also like green and urrqouise hues, and he told me he’s glad I don’t like “ugly colors like pink and orange” haha
So at least we have some common ground, even though I dont have the rock *sigh*
Post # 11
I am already married. Never thought in a million years I would like planning. When all was said and done I SWORE I would never ever look at anything wedding again. I got so obsessed it was ridiculous! Thank goodness I had three months only to plan because I think my family would have disowned me!
I now wish for someone anyone close to me to get married soon just so I can help plan and look and browse, ETSY was the BEST! I bought a crapload of props for our photo booth and got the biggest high off it. My husband didn’t know who I was!!! IT was great!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 12
I guess I don’t consider it “planning” when it’s just saving pictures and browsing ideas. That’s just fantasizing and fun =). I consider it “planning” when you are actually contacting people, making payments, doing DIY’s, etc.
Post # 13
You are not weird at all! I was a waiting bee too….finally got engaged last Dec! I had alot of details planned before the proposal….who cares! If it makes you happy to browse wedding things, go ahead! It has not taken away from the wedding planning one bit for me 🙂
Post # 14
I dont care what my SO thinks about me, he knew I was a dork when he asked me out. lol
But when I hang out with my bride friend helping her out with stuff, were looking at flowers and I think Im either doing orchids or lilies. We were looking at dresses and I already decided on length. I have some things actually planned, theyjust arent on paper; they are in my head. I don’t need to write alot of things down to remember, my memory is pretty good.
Post # 15
@Liss13: I’ve looked into some venues and such only because of pricing because my folks are financial planners and want to know how much they need to save. Also its given me a grasp of how REDICULOUS the wedding stuff is! Shesh.
I will not put a deposit or anything down or buy a dress until we are official though so its all good. 🙂
Post # 16
I have a separate pinterest just for wedding ideas. You’re definitely not alone – and I know my proposal won’t be here any time soon. It’s good to know what you like so you can get everything in order right after you get engaged and don’t have to stress as much.