(Closed) Any over-the-hill brides out there? Any over 40s???

posted 9 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hey there!

I’m even older than you.  I’ll be 44 when we get married in July.  (Gosh doesn’t THAT look old when you type it?)

I’m an encore – 2nd wedding for both of us.  Feel free to message me if you want.  Are you or your Fiance an encore?

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Oh my god!!!!!  I am SOOOO glad that you posted this.  I just got married last week and I’ll be 44 next month!  I could write a book on this whole experience!  I don’t even know where to begin, so maybe I’ll just start listing things…..

-First of all, no, I didn’t wear a veil.  It didn’t seem as totally inappropriate when I tried one on at the bridal salon as I thought, but I still felt like I wouldn’t feel very comfortable and feeling too “young”, so I opted out.  It was fine without it, because my dress was more elegant than “bridey.”

-At several bridal salons, when first looking for a dress, I got a lot of “a dress……..for you??……….you mean a dress like these???? (as she waves her arm along the wall of bridal gowns)

-Then there were plenty of “are you planning your daughters wedding?” from bridal salons, invitation vendors, accessory shops…….

-and the ever infamous (from the boutique where my mother ordered her mother of the bride dress)……….”is this your first wedding?”……,,..UM, yea, and my ONLY wedding!!!!!!  Yeah, I’ve waited to find the right person and didn’t settle for whomever when I was in my twenties……..like you, perhaps?

Well, I’m sure that I’ll remember more……but this will get it started.  I’ve just been so shocked at the reactions……geez……I know that I’m not 25, but c’mon……I don’t exactly have one foot in the grave!  I’m educated, professional, financially stable and own my own business………what’s wrong with waiting until the “perfectly right guy for me” came along?  Now that I’m married, I have half of the “in card.”  We’re not planning on having kids, so I don’t know about the other half of the “in card.”  I don’t get how society seems to act like you have lepracy (sp?) if you’re single and without children…….what is with that?  At least I have half of that taken care of now 🙂

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Not over 40-but I turned 39 on September 3rd. I have two children-twins who will be six by the time we say our “I do’s” in mid-October.  Can I mooch in on this thread?!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

So glad to know their are more of you out there! I am 41 (but I’m not “over the hill”:). It’s my 2nd wedding but his first , so there are some challenges there. My parents – totally not into wedding planning, his Mom can’t get enough. I am wearing a wedding dress but it’s not typical. I actually cannot find a pic of a real bride wearing it. Not wearing a veil. Not doing the bouquet toss, no garter toss, no first dance, etc.

I was worried about so many things in the begining as far as etiquette and being older, but I don’t worry anymore. There are a lot of older brides out there.

@bridedenise- Can’t believe how rude the bridal salons were to you! They are clueless! They should be glad to get a bride who most likely knows what she wants and doesn’t have a huge entourage giving all their opinions!

We really need a section for us on WeddingBee!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m not over the hill yet and I am 50 years old! And if I’m not over the hill, you can’t be because you’re younger than me! And yes, I definitely complained about a lack of excitement and some negativity about my wedding. And yes. the attitudes at the bridal places drove me to get almost everything online. And guess what? The wedding, reception and pig roast were everything we dreamed of and more. Now I am posting two pics from the wedding – does this look like over the hill to you?

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Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Not sure if you wonderful ageless brides know it but I just turned the big 4-0 at the very end of March!

By the way, we have a unique board here at Weddingbee called the Encore board and it’s especially for brides who may have been married or their grooms who have been married before and blending families!

We have a blast on that board and I want to invite you all to join in our fun!

This is an amazing place and I think you’ll find we’re not unusual anymore.

After all, isn’t 40 the new 30??? (at least that’s what I keep telling myself) and age is nuthin’ but a digit!!! 

Christie Brinkley is in her mid fifties and is hotter than many 20 somethings right???

 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Dear sleepylittlesailor…..

We MUST chat!  We sound like the same person!  This was my first (only) marriage and my husbands second (last).  We didn’t have the showers, parties, bridal party, garter toss, dj dancing, etc. and all that is typical wedding-y, but it was still wedding-y.  We also had a destination wedding and before we started planning anything seriously, had contacted all of the people that we intended to have there……..and after most everyone said yes, they’d be there no matter what…….most backed out.  I was disappointed, hurt and devastated also, but after several weeks, just moved on because we were already into the thick of things.  We only had 9, yes nine, guests actually come to the wedding.  It was quite the blow.  We can count on two fingers (ha) the guests that even acted liked they enjoyed being there or appreciated the extent that we had gone to to show our appreciation and to show them a great time.  It was a let down, but we also know that none of them will ever be at a wedding like it again.  So, if they didn’t truly appreciate it…..it’s their loss.  And we too, even had family members that didn’t attend………..WHATEVER!

Oh, and yes, nobody was interested in helping me plan, or go anywhere with me, or even plain out ask me about any of the details leading up to the wedding.  The lack of interest and enthusiasm has been difficult to stomach also.  I know that people have busy lives but that isn’t an excuse that I can accept.  My life has always been busy, but I’ve made the time, the sacrifices, etc. to make everyone elses day special when it was “their day.”  I still can’t quite answer “what happened to my day,” yet.

 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

had to chime in real quick thank I’d give y’all a few decades before i’d say you were “over the hill” Wink.. bluespurrs I know you were having dress drama but it looks like everything turned out lovely! it looks GREAT , and i’m so glad t see you still have the hat .  Hang in there sleepylittlesalior , I’m sorry you’re not getting the support you wanted but it’s still a very exciting time!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

This thread has completely inspired me!!!  I just thought that I’d share some pics from our wedding last week!

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