Post # 46
I was allowed to go to sleepovers as a child. I was also molested. At home. By my cousin. So my experience is congruent with the statistics.
Both of my children have always been allowed to both attend and host sleepovers. It has been a fun, positive experience in their lives.
Post # 47
soexcited123 : Oh my god, get some critical reading skills!
I said these are the most likely candidates. I took these from the statistics. 90% of child molestation perpetrators are men.
I was using satire to point out the folly of trying to protect children from nameless predators that are strangers, when the vast likelihood is that a child will be molested by someone the parents know and trust.
Literally anyone can be a predator.
Post # 48
I voted No but my kids are very young still so we will see if I change my mind in a few years. I was allowed to go to slumber parties as a child and nothing happened to me but then again I never did sleep over alone at relatives’ houses, always with my parents bc all our relatives lived in a different state from us.
Post # 49
It’s not just about possible molestation, or at least it wasn’t for my parents. Parents have different parenting styles, and you don’t know if they are the kind of parents who supervise closely or leave alcohol and prescription pills and guns lying around. (My sister’s best friend from childhood to adulthood has a dad who loves guns and had lots of them – safely locked up, but not everyone is safe like that). Or parents who don’t bother to supervise when the kids are outside – do they have a pool? I know some of my tween/young teen friends would use the opportunity of sleepovers to sneak away and hang out smoking with boys in the neighborhood.
Post # 50
izzabella : this. I plan on allowing sleepovers when she’s older, but she will absolutely never be allowed to hang out (let alone sleepover at) a house with guns. I don’t care if they are locked up in a safe or not. Alcohol and prescription pills are a little iffier – I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking parents about their medications plus I can teach my kid to not mess with that stuff and she can control whether or not it goes in her body. If the parents were known drunks or their kid had a history of drinking/drug use that I knew about I wouldn’t allow that sleepover though.