(Closed) Any Persian brides out there? Need advice on a Persian/Christian fusion ceremony

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 4
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Wannabee

Essentially the Persian and the Christian ceremony are the same, however in the Persian one, the bride and groom sit down at the top of the sofreh aghd (lavish spread of symbolic items).  Otherswise they exchange vows, say I do, and exchange rings. 

I think it is fabulous that you are encorporating some of the Persian elements as they not religious, but more cultural.

 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MsVoyageur:  Hey I’m on the same boat, my fam is 100% protestant, my fiancee is persian.  I decided to do a Sofreh, with a bilingual persian wedding officiant.  He’s awesome, he’s doing the ceremony both in English and Farsi, and incorporating some christian elements to our ceremony.  It can be done.  I also hired a lady to make my sofreh. 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We are going to do things very similarly to what you are doing.  During the ceremony we are going to walk over to sit at the sofreh briefly and have his cousin explain in English all of the symbolism behind the items.  Then we are going to have him read a poem or passage in Farsi.  My Fiance mother is making the sofreh and brought almost everything back from her recent trip to Iran. Other than that, we are having a traditional “American” ceremony.  I’m Italian and was raised Catholic, but opted to get married outside and include the Persian elements.  It’s been a bit stressful trying to figure out how to incorporate everything to make everyone happy and make sure it is still respectful.  I’m not sure if you have had that experience.  I also was told that if we don’t put “adult reception” on the invitation that his side of the family will bring their kids even if they weren’t formally invited.  Eeek.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MsVoyageur:  I know! Sofreh’s and just the entire persian ceremony is so beautiful to me.  It will also be something very different for my family to see, they’ll all remember my wedding forever.  You’re so lucky his aunt is making the sofreh.  They’re charging us a pretty penny to make ours.  I guess we could have made our own, but I just don’t want to stress out the day of my wedding trying to put all that stuff together.  As far as the vows, we’re actually doing the vows in English, but I’m doing the “bale” thing toward the end.  My fiancee’s will be reading poetry by Rumi in Farsi and some in English.  Also, traditionally in Persian ceremonies there is a part that is in Arabic, like a prayer or something. Our officiant will be doing that part in Farsi instead of Arabic. 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@ldiloren:  I put “adult only reception” on my invites for my side of the family because if all the kids in my fam come, my wedding will be a hot mess.  I’m not doing it on the invites for his side, because they’re all flying in from canada and europe, plus there aren’t that many kids in his family.  My fam is mostly local and tons of kids.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MsVoyageur:  I completely agree that our guests will enjoy the unique persian traditions.  At least it will be different and unexpected.  🙂

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m Persian and my Fiance is Mexican/American. We are also having a mixed wedding. We chose not to incorporate any religion into our ceremony. Instead, we will stand and recite our vows first, and then sit down at the sofreh. 

 

I also think the non-Persian guests will love the Persian traditions. 🙂

Post # 13
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Can anybody recommend an officiant that can do a Persian/American wedding in Houston, TX? 

Post # 15
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Wannabee

RainbowJelly:  hi! Who did you use and where are they located? I am looking for the same thing! Thanks

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