- 5 months ago
crustyoldbee : I agree that a lot of damage has been done. In fairness to him, he says he had no idea that I was obsessing over this every single day for the past year. We would typically discuss this every month or so and then I’d drop it in between so I wasn’t badgering him daily. He would also keep punting the proposal forward (Christmas, Hawaii, birth of our second child, etc) so I was feeling like it was coming. I think he does understand how hurt and upset I am by this. He says he wants a future with me and our kids and doesn’t need a wedding for that to happen but is happy to do it for me. I think the real issue isn’t even the wedding. It’s a communication problem on both of our parts and a lack of sensitivity to my feelings on his. We are continuing to talk through it and I won’t marry him until I’m confident that these problems are resolved and that I can get over my resentment. I’ve been divorced once and I don’t ever plan on divorcing again!